2007-09-30 22:16:01 · 37 answers · asked by dazza 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the man
2007-09-30 22:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by suzywong 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That really depends.
On a first date I would never expect the girl to pay, I just wasn't raised that way. I would be mortified if I forgot my wallet or anything crazy like that.
It pretty much goes that way any time I would "Ask Her" out and we were just dating. I did, after all, ask HER out.
Pulling out chairs, opening doors, complimenting her on her attire... these things are not lost, they are just not largely taught anymore, but they are still the sign of a real man.
Now if you are in a committed relationship that was steady I have no problem with her paying sometime, and defiantly if you are living together you should share expenses like you do for anything else... 50/50. BUT, BUT... even if you are in a committed relationship, it's very romantic for the guy to still pick up the bill most of the time.
When you are in a committed relationship living with her they spend money all the time that the guy never really notices.. I mean come on! Until I was single I never considered how much shampoo my sons and I use, nor when I needed to buy toilet paper (unless it was OUT), or when the milk was bad or anything like that. Women keep track of so many small things on a daily basis, they add up to BIG money.
Guys, pay attention and don't take your ladies for granted.
2007-10-01 02:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by nremtohio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man should always pay the bill. I heard on TV the new rule is whoever asked for the date should pay, but honestly even if a girl asks me to dinner I'm paying its the only gentleman thing to do. If you split if, its not really a date more than it is a meal between friends. If the woman pays its kind of awkward all around even the wait staff will most likely skip a beat unless its a girl treating her BF to a birthday supper or something.
I've always believed the man should pay really under any circumstance as a way of showing his date the proper respect for her time. If a guy doesn't pay its almost a slap in the face to the girl. It just goes hand in hand with the other acts holding doors open, pulling out a chair, opening a car door, walking her to her door, ect. Its just bad manners to let the girl pay.
2007-09-30 22:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Advice4U 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It should be a rough split every time. Most women earn more than i do anyway. I don't have a problem with that at all mind you. We are in 2007, and women have all the same basic rights and responsibilities that men typically had to themselves, say 50 years ago. I'll still be chivalrous by opening doors etc, it's manners, but when it comes to $ nowadays, i think it's only fair to share. I'm amazed at the amount of people who still expect a guy to pay. That's discrimination in reverse to an extent. I don't expect that a woman's place is to be bare foot and pregnant in the kitchen doing house work just because she is female. If i did I'm sure I'd be told how much of a jerk i am by some very (and rightfully) angry women. Therefore i think it is equally fair that as a man, i should not be expected to pay for everything as tradition would have usually dictated. Fair's fair.........
2007-09-30 22:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mustang Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the modern world so I'd go for a split down the middle. If the guy pays for everything, then it may set a precedent where she always expects him to pay. That couk
ld be awkward. But chivalry can have it's pit falls too.
If it is a hugely special date at an expensive place, then the proposer of the date should pay. You should not put a finacial burden on your othe half.
With everything in dating, it's better to ask too many questions than too few and make sure everything is as clear as crystal before hand to prevent misunderstandings.
2007-09-30 22:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by cobra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a date, I think the guy should pay. But it could be share also. If I am going out with a friend not my boyfriend, I will pay my bills. It is different if I am going out with my Boyfriend, then he is the one who will pay for the bill.
2007-09-30 22:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Curious ^.^ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The One Who Arranged The Date
2007-09-30 22:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that on the first date the guy should pay, without a doubt!! If after that first date you meet again to spend some time together then the girl should offer to pay for something! You know, personally it gives me a bad impression if the guy doesn't offer to pay on the 1st date. But maybe I'm old fashioned!
2007-09-30 22:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by Lola 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I believe it should be both parties on the date. Why should the guy have to pick up the tab just b/c he's a guy? Seriously. If I go out with a guy, I wouldn't expect him to pay.... that in itself could lead to an awkward situation afterwards. Could.
Whether a guy pays or not would not be what attracts me to him. In a steady relationship, taking turns would be ok..... that would be fun!
2007-10-01 00:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its a new date or fairly new relationship, i always offer to get rounds of drinks in, or to pay half for a meal. Most of the time the fella says he will pay, but at least i have made the offer and not presumed that he is going to pay it all. If i havent got much money, i change the date to when i have got money. When the relationship is established, we go halves a bit of the time, but he pays most of the time. Again, i take money with me and offer to pay, but dont push it if he says he wants to pay.
2007-09-30 22:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Guy ...Always The Guy!x ....Offer Maybe To Pay Half But 8-) Like Dont Pay 8-) The Guy Just Always Pays!x
2007-09-30 22:34:42 · answer #11 · answered by lil_bethaniie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋