I had a fight with the in laws,but made up with mum/dad.My sister in law is coming to town for a festival this weekend,so were gonna bump into each other,how should I treat her?
What should I do?
She almost caused my husband and me to divorce.
Shes very jealous of the great relationship I had with her mother and started telling lies about and to me.
She also caused my husband to lose one of his biggest clients and I dont like her much.
She hasnt appologised,although she told my mother in law that she did...
2007-09-30 21:30:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I find that confronting these problems head on is the best way. She knows and you know that there is a mountain of tension between you both.... so ... why try to ignore it? It will be the elephant in the room that stomps on everything. You will never have an easy moment with her around if you dont squash this issue.
You and she need to be alone. Invite her to have a glass of wine in a place away from all the others. Start the conversation by saying, "I don't want us to argue anymore, but I feel I need to speak my peace and clear the air. I also want to hear your side of things, and ultimatly, I want us to be able to put all this behind us so that we can find some way to get along. We are family now, and will be around each other quite a bit. It just makes sense that we should be able to get along."
If she doesnt want to talk to you then you say...
"Okay, it is obvious that you dont even want to try to get along and act like an adult that can resolve issues, so ... I want you to know that I am not going to respond to your negativity. When you are ready to talk, I will be here. Until then, I am going to ignore anything you say to or about me."
2007-09-30 21:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by pink 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, nobody has the power to sign divorce papers except for the couple and you also can have a relationship with anyone you want to.
2007-10-01 05:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If other people have enough control in your life to nearly cause you and your husband to divorce then you have bigger things to worry about than how to behave around your sister in law.
2007-10-01 04:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Crypt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say hello and go on about your business. Let your husband deal/ socialize with his sister. I would keep my distance from her as she sounds like a trouble maker.
2007-10-02 14:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't like her avoid her, if she tried to break the two of you up then its not guaranteed she wunt do it again, infact if she is nice to you be very careful because she might be planning something..
just have nothing to do with her or as little to do with her. i hate in-laws they are just a bunch of ****!
good luck
2007-10-01 05:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by baby gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shower her with love and she will feel guilty
2007-10-01 04:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by AdultMale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. She's trouble.
2007-10-01 07:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do as you think fit
2007-10-01 04:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋