how many men out there work long hours (ie more than 50 hours a week)and still spend time with their kids or do diy? would like to know as my partner wont move of settee when he is home and as for diy.. no chance, i am a stay at home mum i look after our daughter and his son when he is here but am i wrong for asking my boyfriend just to spent time with his children??
2007-09-30 20:35:11 · 20 answers · asked by caitlyns_ mummy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For Crypt.. i am the one who does the diy i was a single mum for 10 years so i had no choice,, but i am expected to do the diy while look after our 2 year old and his 7 year old and do his fetching and carrying..
2007-09-30 20:54:22 · update #1
Thanks for your answers i told him i will be asking this question and i am going to show him the answers so lets hope he gets his butt in gear.. he lost out on his other kids (24 &19 now) i have a 19 year old but i always made time for him and worked full time (lorry driver) and did the housework diy i did it all until i met him.. and i still do it all..lol oh well
2007-09-30 21:09:24 · update #2
sorry i have to say its a 50 plus hour week for me but i will make time for my wee laddie at every opportunity, they are sooooo special!
2007-09-30 21:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jon P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
50 hours a week is a lot. Spending time with the kids is important but I see the point with the DIY being left. My Mum did the DIY in my house when I was young so if you want something done you can always have a go.
2007-10-01 03:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by SR13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong to ask him to spend time with his kids. He is a parent and should act like one.
I can understand being tired and the lack of motivation on a day off, but he really should pick 1 day a week where he sets aside a few hours for nothing but family time.
As far as the diy projects, you're just as capable as he is. I know you're going to say being a mother is a 60 hour a week job or some such, but unless you're claiming you work harder than he does, get more done than he does, and he's not doing enough then there is no reason you can't pick up diy jobs as easily as he can.
Of course if you do feel you do that much more than him then be very careful how you approach him with that info or you're going to find yourself resented.
2007-10-01 03:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Crypt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey Girl I'm not a bloke but sympathise with you tons. My EX never gave me or the kids time, hence hes now my EX lol Great at D.I.Y so I watched n learnt. Ive now remarried a great guy who works very long hrs and shifts, we do the d.i.y together, il do a lot of it then give him a list of odd jobs to do. As 4 kids hes are grown up but tries to see them as much as possible n hates it when we all separate again my kids live with us n hel spend time with them but again they're 13 n 16 n have their lives. Sit ur man down tell him u work long hours too, if he wants a role reversal give it a go, you go to work n let him be a househusband, father 24/7 and a D.I.YER!!!!!! If not tell him to ship up or ship out ul all be a lot happier. Good Luck xx
2007-10-01 03:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by LITTLE NUGGET 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. I work my butt off everyday and come home half dead and still manage to do some chores and spend time with my 3 year old brother at the end of the day.
2007-10-01 03:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong at all.
If I had kids, I would try and spend time with them no matter how many hours I worked.
I do not work at the moemnt due to my disability so if I had kids I would spend as much time with them as possible.
My ex gf had 2 kids, but she treated them as a fashion accessory and their grandparents had to look after them most of the time so I can see were you are going with this one. Needless to say, I didn't stay with her as I thought her attitude to them was disgusting.
2007-10-01 03:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by footynutguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have worked long hours but decided that my kids were more important...took a pay cut but I now spend real quality time with them and my wife...as the others have said...you only get one chance...you don't own your kids, they are just loaned to you for a few years...He should make the most of it
2007-10-01 03:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by Doodie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I'm female, but no your not wrong.
Yes he may be tired, but he should always make time for his kids. My partner works lots & he spends as much time with his kids as possible.
As for the DIY - tell him your going to hire an overpriced joiner to do it all & he is going to have to pay for it...either it will make him do it or you'll get a joiner in! Either way it'll get done! ;)
2007-10-01 03:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by Meeeee! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
too true.
I am the only person working in our household and my partner is at home all day, but when I come home there are still pots need washing and clothes to bring in. My son is just the same. They wonder why I start to moan at them.
Mind you I can't complain about him as he does look after my son , while I am at work. He is good in that respect
2007-10-01 03:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by lea n jase 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very common problem you have. Men have this idea that because they work, once home they can act lazy. It is wrong and yet alot do it, in act too many do it. Tell him to get out if he isn't going to spend time with his children.
2007-10-01 03:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Man comes home after a hard days work and you want to get on his case. Give the guy a break. I would like to hear his side of it.
2007-10-01 04:22:17 · answer #11 · answered by Ruben Rybnik 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋