my bf of over 5 yrs will not have sex with me anymore. i know it's not supposed to be as often anymore but i dont remember the last time we had sex!! i know he watches a lot of porn and i KNOW im not ugly... !! he says he just doesn't feel like it... wtf. it's been over 3 months!
2007-09-30 20:19:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't mind the porn. a lot of ppl watch porn. he's afraid of toys and brazilian waxes.. maybe he's gay?!
2007-09-30 20:33:52 · update #1
Tell him that whilst sex isn't the be all and end all of every relationship, that it is a significant part of the success of a relationship. Tell him that you are feeling lonely, and ask him if there is a reason he doesn't want to have sex. Maybe he's stressed at work, or the two of you have hit a lull in your relationship that you need to be pulled out of. At any rate - maybe when he comes home one night, greet him in some nice lingerie. give him a massage, put on some music, have a bottle of wine ready - and if that doesn't interest him, let him know that you are wondering if you should break up because he is no longer interested in you.
2007-09-30 21:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE YOU ASKED HIM WHAT'S UP (or not up-rather)?
have you tried to start him up? is he ill? has his ego been deflated by you in public?
if the only reason you're staying is for sex then you are in the wrong relationship.
it takes 2 to have a relationship, and that means a whole lot more than what you are telling here. You know your not ugly,
this sounds like you think you've done something or are not pretty enough to have sex with-IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU SWEETHEART- it is about him take him to a doctor and make sure there is nothing physically wrong with him- ED happens and he maybe embarrassed to say anything and watching porn maybe he way of trying to fix whatever is wrong with him secretly. there are many men in their 20-30's that are suffering from ED and suffer in silence not realizing there are many ways to fix it and there are just as many women willing to take and blame themselves because she's not getting any. call the doctor sweetie before you need a shrink
2007-10-01 03:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give up yet have you tried spicing up your sex life any? Sexy clothing or toys? there is so much out there now. 5 years is a lot of time so maybe he is just bored. Spice it up some. On the other hand keep a procautionary yield up to make sure he is still only with you. More than likely you will probably see a difference with a little spice!!!!
2007-10-01 03:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jaclyn F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's that dang porn that is doing it. Pretty soon he will not be able to have sex at all without the porn.
You have got to put your foot down and say either the porn goes, or I do!
Personally, I would leave, he is pretty much ruined with that porn crap!
2007-10-01 03:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he doesn't want to have sex with you doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't like you anymore. Maybe he just wants to play safe. Anyway sex is not the only thing that matters in a relationship
2007-10-01 03:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by stalkermuch 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmmm thts sad... i guess he lost interest in u... try doin something diff.. call him to ur place for a candle light dinner.. and dress really sexy... soft music.turn on the tv. suggest to watch the a movie and put a porn movie acci... and hell b turned on. and stop it sayin thts a acci.
heres now u got to plan... try some diff tricks durin the sex. so to keep him interested on u...
hope this ll help u...
2007-10-01 03:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by viji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your like not getting him into the mood or something. You should really get him into the mood first before going for it.
2007-10-01 03:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, if he hasn't asked you to marry him after five years and now he's not even having sex with you, he's not worth your time. Move on.
2007-10-01 03:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first talk to him and see if he has any reason for it.. Then if your not happy with his reason yeah dump him. I would love to have a girl like you in my life. Good Luck!
2007-10-01 03:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by M J 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes guys just get bored. try and spice things up and if that doesnt work, then id say dump him
2007-10-01 03:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by pandabear_222000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋