My ex broke my heart time after time and I cannot learn to forgive her. I've tried prayer, talking about it with family and friends, and even research. Nothing seems to be working. Does this mean I am a bad person. My description of forgiveness means, " It doesn't hurt anymore ". What more can I do, cause I just don't know how to let it go......
2007-09-30 19:50:01 · 9 answers · asked by babydaddy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You must choose to forgive her and let go. It works like this, God has to forgive us. In order to do this we should have forgiven everyone who has sinned against us. If my God can forgive the great sins I have committed, I surely can forgive my brother or sister their sin against me. Sometimes we want to hang on to this. We do not want to let it go. This is the time to pray to the Lord and say, Lord I do not feel like forgiving this person. But I know all things are possible with You and that you will forgive me as I forgive others. Please help me. If you petition the Lord, He will help you. Believe me, not forgiving her will hurt you much more than it will her. No, this does not mean you are a bad person. Just a person that has been badly hurt. You are reacting in a way many of us do. When you make up your mind to forgive her, ask the Lord to bless her and to not hold this sin against her. In all things God will give you the victory over this if you trust in Him! Remember, that just because you forgive her does not mean you have to set yourself up to be hurt by her over and over again. If she is the sort that does this, do not get involved with her again. God did not create you to be hurt by someone who is just mean spirited! Forgiving her will mean that you do not dwell on the pain she has caused you and that you know no one can take away your God given joy! This may take time, and time has a way of making the pain fade. Make a resolve for your sake, to not carry around the burden any longer. Ask God to take this from you. I will be praying for you. May the Lord bless you!
2007-10-04 17:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a hard time forgiving somebody. I told this person that I did forgive them, but to be honest, I hadn't really forgave them. Any time this person made me mad I would bring up the wrong he had done to me. (that went on for 10 years) I finally broke down and laid that problem at the feet of Jesus and truly forgave this person and it was like a 1000 pounds had been lifted off me. If you want to move on, you'll have to let go of this.
God Bless
† New Mission Prayer Warrior †
2007-10-04 17:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by tracy211968 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are flawed in your definition of forgiveness. In my opinion forgiveness means you love and accept that person for who they are but not necessarily love what they did. While we can't hold something against them forever sometimes we need to move on. Christ said "Forgive them for they know not what they do." He didn't say that what they were doing was okay or it didn't hurt but he understood they weren't perfect and loved them anyway. Now if this girl keeps hurting you, then maybe you should stop dating her. Dating leads to marriage and having been married for almost 3 years marriage requires 100% from both parties. Good luck man!
2007-09-30 19:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a choice....not a feeling. I have had to ask God to GIVE me forgiveness for some people as I do not not have it from myself. I can choose it...but to get that feeling out it has to be from God, especially when it really hurts.... Forgiveness does NOT mean it won't hurt anymore but God has promised not to give us anything we cannot bare. He has promised to be our strength when we are weak. (2 Cor. 12:9)
I will keep you in my prayers that you will turn to God when you are hurting....and let Him heal your heart and help you to forgive.
† On-call Prayer Warrior †
2007-10-04 16:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by bethy4jesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forgiveness SEEMS LIKE A BIG THING but forgiveness comes from inside
no one i mean one in this hole wide world can teach u to how to forgive so forget the past live in future.
2007-09-30 20:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by Amit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pain is the greatest teacher of all. You will never again fall for the same mistakes you have before. Just like fire, you get burned so you don't play with it anymore. Sometimes hate and anger can be very useful tools.
2007-09-30 19:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...no fogiveness means that she said sorry and you have a nice part in your heart that says it's ok... even though it stills hurt inside once you forgive and foget... you'll feel so much better! .... so move on and get a new girlfriend! ... you should forgive and forget... cuz' if it hurts you that much... it's not worth thinking about! ... So
Hope i could helpâ¥
2007-09-30 19:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, I feel for you. I, too, can't get over my anger, which is mixed in with love for my ex. I am hoping I will love another someday so that I can move on. In the meantime, make friends and distract yourself.
2007-09-30 19:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by nondescript 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did she break your heart is the question.
2007-09-30 20:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋