I am in college and I have a lot going for me, I mean I have a boyfriend and I have made lots of new friends, & I am doing well in school. Its just that I feel like bc I have been with my bf for so long almost 2 years he does not try to do special things for me he really acts like more of a buddy then a boyfriend, & all my new friends are nice but I miss my old friends bc I am not as close with them anymore for various reasons and I feel a gap when I hang out with them like I am not in the circle anymore. Also even though I am doing well so is everyone else I am used to being standout smart and I don't feel like my intelligence is being acknowledged. I really do not know what to do I really just want to stay in bed and not get up, bc it is just not worth it. I am heavily involved with various volunteering organizations, but lately they just really depress me. It hurts me to see so much pain in the world & so much hatred. Does anyone know what i should do to get out of this slump?
2007-09-30 19:08:38 · 12 answers · asked by Honey 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
the Truth? This is called "Growing Up"... We all moved on from our childhood friends, and found out that in the world outside our former circle, there are many other gifted individuals. Take a break from Volunteer work and find some new areas of interest at the college...as there are a lot of things to do. Hang out with new people as often as possible, and enjoy this time in your life... Your Boyfriend is just growing as a person too...that happens...just accept him for who he is, and be happy.
Think about this...I hope it helps...
Smile when you can, apologise when you should, let go of everything you are unable to change, love deeply, forgive quickly, give it everything you have, and as always ... with no regrets. Take the good with the bad, laugh when it gets ruff, accept what you have, do not worry about what you do not, remember the good times, learn from your mistakes, take responsibility for your actions, accept that people change, and ... that life goes on...
And really try to enjoy this time in your life...it is a wonderful time...now get out of bed and away from your Computer...so you can have some good old fashion genuine fun...
2007-09-30 19:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by deucesteve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop watching the news and letting it worry you. Concentrate on yourself, and your future, not your boyfriend or even your friends. They all come and go. You will never be happy in life until you make yourself happy. It sounds to me like you are spreading yourself too thin, with trying to please everyone, college, volunteering, working? Slow up some. Stop some of the volunteering for now and work it back in gradually later on. Start doing some nice things for yourself, a massage?, a shopping spree?....whatever relaxes you and makes you happy. Appreciate your new friends for their good qualities and don't try to be friends with everyone...just focus on a few right now. Take everything one day at a time. Take off and go visit your old friends. If you have to ask your boyfriend for permission, you need to get rid of him. At the very least, I would suggest that you date more than one guy, just make sure it's platonic. What better way to get to know a guy than to basically just be friends with him first. It doesn't sound like you are ready for marriage, and the guy you are with now sounds like he is just taking you for granted. EXPAND YOUR HORIZONS!!! You are young and can do anything you want, nothing is holding you back except YOU !!! Enjoy life while you can.....
2007-10-01 02:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by beachloverextreme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not depressed Honey, you are getting older. Things do not stay the same, people change and situations change. But if your old friends mean that much to you close the gap between you and them. Continue to do well in school and prepare for your future. Good luck.
2007-10-01 02:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by mi_cam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been with your boyfriend this long you should feel comfortable enough to talk to him about how you're feeling. Assuming that you went to school out of state, it's never easy to make new close friends. The best thing to do is talk to your boyfriend, how do you expect him to realize that you're unhappy without talking about it. You should go about it nicely, don't tell him "you're not making me happy". If he doesn't hear that there is a problem with the two of you then he probably thinks everything is going great. Good luck. :)
2007-10-01 02:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2, and practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 11, 2, 2c, or 2i. Change your voluntary work type, to one which will not put you into contact with such negative influences (contact a social worker for suggestions). Visit your school counselor, to discuss options.Also see page 38: find new ways to shine! "It is better to be thehead of a village, than the tail of a city." The analogy is not perfect, but you may get my drift.
2007-10-01 02:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey it sounds like you are suffering from depression, which can be caused by a variety of things. Could even be a chemical or hormonal imbalance. Check with your college- many offer counselling services for their students (often free of charge). It sounds like it would be towards your benefit to go talk to a professional. It sounds like you have a lot going for yourself, and you should be able to enjoy your accomplishments and relationships. Best of luck to you.
2007-10-01 02:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Koosher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just get out and get into other things instead of sad things.Talk to your b-friend about your problems and see if he can help you out.You are so blessed and dont know it.As you said there is so much sad in the world.You know you can do something positive with your life.Worring about being friends with people is just a waste of time.You will find them....Dont stress about it.
2007-10-01 07:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by lady bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound Depressed- & in need of something NEW in your life. What THAT is- is entirely up to YOU. Experiment. Date a couple new guys... -check out something you'd like to try just "for the fun of it"... Do something "out of Character" for who people think you ARE... You're obviously not being "fulfilled"... Look around...& see if you can find out what's missing in You... Hang in there...& good luck! :)
2007-10-01 02:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are lucky he treats you like a friend because those are the relationships that last forever. but he should do special things for you.. so maybe u can talk to your friends to say something to his friends who can tell him to treat you more like a girlfriend...and if it bothers you so much you should just move on because tha just means he isn't the one
and nobody is perfect in everything, find your own special strengths and excel in those instead of trying to be best in everything because nobody is the best at everything.
2007-10-01 02:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your self that can help you. ask yourself what you really want in life. I think you should consult first with a person that is very close to you like your best friend or your mom. its not good to keep things on yourself alone. you need to express it, help your self first then everyone is willing to help you.
2007-10-01 02:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by lorraine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋