Seriously.. what is the big deal? I don't know why everyone thinks that you should wait until marriage..
I'm 17 and in a relationship.. so why shouldn't we be able to have sex? Although I'm almost positive he is not the guy I will be spending the rest of my life with, we are in love and sex is based on natural urges and an expression of love.. so why not?
Opinions/thoughts?
2007-09-30 18:32:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree. I wouldn't want to marry a guy I haven't already had sex with, how do I know he's not going to be horrible in bed? I know it's not the most important thing, but sex is a very important thing to me in a relationship, and I want it to be an important thing to my partner too.
2007-09-30 18:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Not trying to be a parent or anything to ya here. But seriously for one you are 17 and its not legal in the first place have to be an adult i.e. 18 or for some 21 (true adult when you can legally drink, when sh-it doesn't work out well in your life). And for two its ACTUALLY IN THE BIBLE, to wait. As it is a precious gift that God has given men and women to be shared with a partner that trully cares and loves them. I mean at 17, you can up and do it and get it over with sure, but then you would only regret it when you do meet the right person. And third you half way have that love and expression thing down right. You just forgot to mention the fact that to share such an emotional connection with someone you need to actually love them from within your soul. Not just this superficial form of love that people toss out there so they can sleep with you. But the love that comes from within you and flows out to be met by the same love from within your true partner. Natural urges and true loving expression are two different things. Because no doubt its more of your natural urges that are telling you to jump this guy's bones. And no doubt he could be pressuring you into doing it as well. I say use your head, and take off those sexually tinted glasses. Because I'm sure once you do that, and realize this guy isn't even worth it, you will gain much more clarity than you expected to find. Virginity is not something you can get a refund on once its been used. All I'm saying here is don't join the masses of people that have regretted their decision to lose their virginity. Trust me there are enough out there. And very few people that have actually wanted to wait. Be smart and be safe.
P.S. The STD and Pregnancy factor is high as well.
2007-09-30 20:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should certainly wait until you are married! I have read all the responses and think that it is quite interesting that so many have stated STD and pregnancy as reasons but have said nothing about the bond that it forms between two people emotionally. Sex was designed to be within the institution of marriage. When you have sex before marriage, you tend to form a premature emotional bond with another person that will only leave you more empty. Sex is an incredible thing and is definitely meant to be enjoyed, but it is also a great emotional bonding time too. For your own emotional sake, I really hope that you wait. It'll make it all the better for you and your husband!
2007-09-30 19:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by jbx978 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are so many arguments on the internet against sex before marriage that I can't begin to list them.
They are easily found if you really want to know them.
Just Google up, Sex before marriage and read all of the ones that speak against it.
Of course many are religious in nature but there are other very good reasons not to do it besides the STD's.
If you want a closer bond with your future husband and a better chance of a successfull marriage when you meet the right guy, you best wait.
If your just looking for someone to say go ahead and do it, it will be ok, then you won't have any trouble finding them.
I vote no. If I was looking for a wife, I would prefer a virgin and yes, they are out there.
Best Wishes
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2007-09-30 18:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only reasons that people say that you should wait until marriage for sex are because of sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies. If you and your partner wait for marriage to have sex, it's less likely you'll be catching or spreading a disease and people seem to think that married people people better handle unwanted pregnancies. (I'm going to be married, but I still think getting pregnant would be BAD, just as bad as being single and pregnant.)
If you can be responsible about the risks and the possibility of pregnancy, then having sex outside of marriage is okay. Get on the pill and use condoms. Get regular testing with your doctor and you'll be fine.
Some people talk about emotional consequences of sex, but this is more a result of negative attitudes about sex outside of marriage and myth than reality based. Sex is a physical act. It's not going to change you or your relationship. It's just *******. It's a lot of fun, but totally over rated on the 'making love' scale.
2007-09-30 18:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically marriage before sex is marrying your significant other then having sex. Sex before marriage is basically having sex before getting married to that person. Personally for me, I believe in sex before marriage, because I think if your in a committed & healthy relationship which will eventually lead into marriage then have sex all you want & it also depends on the maturity level of the relationship and how serious each person is about the relationship, but overall this is just my opinion.
2016-05-17 22:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A question like really shows why you shouldn't be having sex in the first place. Why not wait for the guy you are at least sure you truly and deeply love instead of someone your not even sure will last? I know the physical urge is strong but being able to control that is part of maturity...Ok, enough of that. There are deep feelings that come along with sex, as well as other problems, its also about repsect..It isn't something to be taken lightly
2007-09-30 18:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Useless Knowledge 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't personally believe in waiting for marriage to have sex. To me the idea is as ludicrous as buying a house you haven't had inspected, buying a car you haven't test drove...I even thump fruit before I take it home! I'm not turning sexual experience into a possession, or trying to trivialize the experience...simply explaining how I relate to the issue.
There are some things to take into consideration before beginning a sexual relationship, whether it's your first or one hundred and first intimate partner.
*Do you feel ready to take this relationship to the next level? It's impossible to go back to the way things used to be once the next step is taken, so be sure you're ready.
*Are you properly prepared to ensure your safety? Condoms, birth control pills, spermicide...have you talked to your partner about forms of birth control, protection against STDs, what you will do in case of accidental pregnancy?
*Are you mentally prepared for the encounter? Are you sure that you're able to be realistic about what you expect from this person in terms of sexual ability? Nothings worse than building up a sexual fantasy about a person and discovering they couldn't fit tab A into slot B if their life depended on it.
Above all, discuss your feelings with your partner. I live by the adage that if you are old enough to do it, than you're old enough to talk about it. If both of you are comfortable and ready to take this step, neither of you have moral (religious) objections to the idea, and can be safe, than you're in a good place.
In the interest of not promoting underage sex, and incurring the possible legal ramifications of such...I urge you to wait until the age of 18 before acting on your sexual urges.
2007-09-30 18:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by lkydragn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am against waiting till marriage to have sex. Seriously, because I think it opens up the relationship to adultry being committed. I just think once you enter the marriage the man or woman is going to think about what they are missing out on. And if there is better out there.
I don't see anything wrong with having sex with someone while in a committed relationship as long as your are safe about it.
2007-09-30 18:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by Whit 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most people don't wait until marriage to have sex however you should consider the person you going to have sex with. When you have sex they are so many things you have to think about like STD's, AIDS, pregnancy, love, and a broken heart.
2007-09-30 18:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 17 you don't know what real love is. And wouldn't it be nice if you and your husband knew that neither of you slept with other people? Sex is not a game. There are very real emotions associated with having sex with someone. And, it's impossible to be an unwed teenage mother if you're not sleeping around. Wouldn't it be nice to find a guy who wanted to respect you and not expect the priviledges of marriage without being married? Sleep with him now, and you'll break up later, and then you'll feel like crap because you slept with him. Respect YOURSELF enough to say no.
2007-09-30 18:39:03 · answer #11 · answered by hrcarr 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋