I recently married a wonderful 27 year old youth pastor. I am 22 years old. My parents, however, don't like my husband. They actually wanted me to finish college before getting married. Since the day we got engaged, they refused to have any contact with me unless I called off the wedding. They also have not allowed me any contact with my two minor siblings. I am working part time, faithfully attending church, activley involved in my church youth group, and go to school part time at a community college. I am not a bad person. Neither is my husband.
Should I pursue legal action in getting visitation rights with my siblings or should I just deal with the consequenses of marrying against my parents wishes? Should I wait till my siblings turn 18 to see them again? My parents aren't just in punishing me by not allowing me to see my younger siblings! I miss my them very much, and from what I've heard, they miss too. What should I do?
2007-09-30 18:14:48 · 11 answers · asked by Athena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, congratulations!
Continue to go to school, get good grades, serve God in the capacity that you can and PRAY! Keep praying!
You may get a chance to see them at the holidays? Can you invite them over? Or invite them out to church? Would they come to that?
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. Something similar is happening at my church and it's hard.
Hang in there and keep believing!
2007-09-30 18:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow your parents are crazy. Your life is a parents dream come true. My mom would put me on a pedestal for the rest of forever if that were me. Anyway I'm not really sure if there is anything you can do. Personally if it were me i would show up at your siblings school after schools out and talk with them for a bit if they ride the bus or walk you could drive them home maybe drop them off at the corner so your parents don't find out. Your parents are definitely wrong for doing this to you if you find a way to take legal action you should however I'm not sure siblings get many rights when it comes to visitation.
2007-09-30 19:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. Try: 1. locking your door 2. turning up classical music (proven to help you study) 3. put headsets on 4. put blankets under the door where the holes are 5. study at a friends', school, or library If these don't work, then (I know you'll hate hearing this) try skipping your lunch (ask a teacher first, though) and going to the library to study instead of hanging out with your friends (eat your lunch on the way to the library by packing a quick lunch). I did this for about a month and it brought my grade up 2 letter grades! :] I still got a C though, but it was AP so I'm still happy!
2016-05-17 22:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would go to the point of seeking an attorney at this point.
Your parents are angry because you met someone, fell in love and married instead of continuing your education. Evidently you didn't have the kind of wedding you always wanted if your parent's were against this in the beginning.
Try going to your parent's home to see your siblings. If that doesn't work see your siblings before or after school if possible. Try to do things as nice as you can so there aren't any extra problems to arise.
2007-09-30 18:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mignon F 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all only parents or guardians have legal standing to file for visitation rights. Unless you belive they are being mistreated, your best shot is to wait till they're 18.
Your parents are jackballs. If you are active in your church, yo umight want to confide in an older believer that you can trust and see if they can help you. I've had the benefit of several older men at churches I've been a member of acting as examples, mentors and accountablilty partners. One of them may be thinking just like me, to get involved not in a meddling sense, but to help you and your parents reunite over this issue. Are your parents believers? That may play into it as well, but just guessing there. Otherwise just pray and lean on your brothers and sisters in God there to help.
2007-09-30 18:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a family court judge and ask for mediation, or else just file for visitation. Then send your parents a card and apologize for taking them to court. Make sure they know your love for your siblings is what drove you to make the decision, and that they left you no other choice. Make sure they know it was not to get back at them, but purely to see your siblings. Keep living the good life and everything will work out for you. May God bless and guide your path.
2007-09-30 19:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by beachloverextreme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are very contoling and dominering people theres one way you can see your siblings . Go to their school and wait for them . They will go outside to play and there you can talk to your siblings . Dont pursue any legal action aganst your parents because when your siblings get .18 they will hate you for having making their mother and father so miserable
2007-09-30 18:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MAY have no recourse in this matter because you are only a sibling.... I AGREE what your parents are doing is TOTALLY WRONG and they do not sound like good religious people at all... You are THEIR DAUGHTER too... they shouldn't disown you because you are an ADULT who did not marry someone THEY would have chosen for you---I don't know MANY AMERICAN kids who marry someone their PARENTS choose...... thing is, once you have a child, do they plan to disown their own GRANDCHILD as well??? If so, they will only be hurting THEMSELVES along with your younger siblings.... sounds to me like your parents should GROW UP and forgive and forget and remember that you ARE their daughter regardless .... your parents sound like SPOILED BRATS!!!!!!!!
2007-09-30 18:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are control freaks.
I would try to talk to them and if your siblings have cell phones call them directly. Or meet them when they are coming out of school if possible. YOur siblings are smart enough to what is up with your parents
Bill
2007-09-30 18:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your parents cool down. Any legal action from you would only make things worse.
2007-09-30 18:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by B L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋