Advice PLEASE... should i tell my parents?

Question

Heres the situation: I recently turned 18 and got a small playboy bunny tattoo (actually just the outline, it isnt filled in) on my hip/ bikini line/ whatever right above my jeans. it looks so cute because i also have my belly botton pierced...but the catch is that my parents are extreme christian psychopaths. i dont know how to tell them and i know that they will freak out if i tell them. dont get me wrong, i am a christian too but i believe you can express yourself any way you like. i know that they will find out eventually when im in a bikini or whatever but i dont know how to calmly tell them. (after i got it, i just briefly asked them about getting a tattoo and they both laughed and said they would put me in rahab and see a psychologist if i got one...then i got a lecture and they obviously said no) - i also have another problem, see, this week i want to get a portrait tattoo on my upper back of my cousin who passed away along with a bible verse...should i tell them or just do it?

um... of course i would be paying for it - and i plan to major in sales marketing so i plan to wear a suit the rest of my life (which would ...cover the back tattoo so clients couldnt see it!)

my MOM actually took me to get my piercing... and yes i do love and respect my parents

why are yall assuming i will pose for playboy? have you forgotten that normal girls will wear a bikini when they go to the beach, its not illegal!

Answer 1

hey there,, i know you are 18,, but they are still your parents,, you need to tell them now,,, than them finding out on their own.. it will be the worst,, and having 2 tattoos? oh no way! you are going over board too much,, you know that it will freak them out so why do it again for the second time? i know that expressing yourself is good,, but know your limitations,, you love them right? you won't do anything that will surely make your family go berserk.. and you are still under their umbrella.. i think,, "RESPECT" is the word that fits,, if you respect them follow them.. but if you think it's way too much regarding their strictness,, then talk to them nicely,, don't be a rebel.. if you are planning to get a new tattoo.. pls think about it more carefully,, and tell them now about your piercing and tattoo,, it's better early than late,, if you are worried after that,, you made it on your own,, be responsible for the consequence that you did,,.. tell them now and directly,, i know it's hard but,, gather your courage and be responsible for what you've done.. i think you're a nice girl,, hoping you you can tell them the truth,, and stop putting those permanent dirt on your body.. it's only my opinion,, hope you can think about it more.. ratinally and not one sided,, think of what the others will feel.. like that,, and example if your body is just good for a model,, how can you be a bikini model if you have that dirt,, you can express yourself i other things,, but i think that one is toomuch,, think about it,, what will happen to you in the future,, like that.. god bless you and good luck!

Answer 2

I presume you are on your own and they are not paying for any of your life? Like rent, food, health insurance, cars etc? So in that case just do whatever you like as it is your life. I dont see why you have to tell them
IF however, they are paying for any of your life, then I would try to realize that you are not an adult yet. That means you may not be making decisions that you will appreciate years from now. Your body is beautiful as it is and defacing it with permanent marks may someday be something you regret. I know that your cousin isnt ' defacing' but I think that that sort of memorial would be best at a cemetery not on your body and I think your cousin would agree. Just remember that you are only 18 and most people do not become fully adult for another decade or so . I am not trying to criticize you and I do admire you for writing this question which is why I am being very honest. Why not just at least wait a while and see how you feel in Springtime, ok?

Answer 3

Lets face it your an adult and you can do whatever you want to there is no reason you have to tell them at all not if you don't want to. Personally I would just wait until it came up or like you said they see you in a bikini. If you wanted to keep it a secret they have this makeup that hides scars and tattoos it's waterproof so you could still go swimming. You should probably tell them about the next tattoo though. I'm not trying to be a jerk but if i were dead i wouldn't want my likeness tattooed on my cousins back besides I know a lot of people who have done this and it is a constant reminder that often upsets them

Answer 4

The longer you keep it hidden from them, the harder it will become to tell them. Maybe you should bring up the subject of the memorial tattoo with them, because as Christians they should be able to understand you wanting to honor a family member. Also they can't object to a bible verse. Just remember to remain calm when you're talking with them and even if they overreact remember that it's your body and you have the right to do what you want with it. Don't yell or get whiney, just stay cool and make a clear and sensible arguement. I hope it goes well with everything!

Answer 5

You cannot conceal the tattoo for ever.It will be revealed sooner or later. It is better to inform the parents when they are in good mood. To avoid bitterness you may take a stand that you decided for tattoo on a spur of moment which you regret now. You may resort to the lie to keep peace with the parents.

Answer 6

I understand that you're 18 and the one tattoo is enough.

Doing the second tattoo is going too far--you could have that put on a shirt, purse or something else. To put that on your body could end up as a regret later on in life. Think about it really hard.

Answer 7

Go ahead and tell them. If you're such an adult now that you can get tatoos and try to become a playboy bunny in your bikini then maybe your parents will kick you out of the house and you can start making the real decisions in life like paying rent and insurance and car payments. Grow up and don't be influenced by peer pressure to mutilate your body. You are going to be a huge dissapointment to your parents when they find out about the tatoo. Live with it, you've already made the mistake - you might as well tell them about it now. If they are such psychopaths why are you worried about telling them? It sounds to me like you are about to learn from the school of hard knocks about life. You are going to find out why your parents are "hard core" christians, but it might be too late when you find it out because you'll be pregnant, single, and barefoot with no one to blame but yourself. good luck with that rebelious attitude. ha.

Answer 8

first, you need to slow down and wait a minute before you get another tattoo. You might regret it later. Also don't get any tats that could hurt your chances of getting a job later in life. (I know thats not what you're thinking of now but you will one day hopefully.) You should probably go ahead and tell them. Because they're probably going to get mad either way and atleast you told them, instead of keeping it from them. However if you still live with them, you should have definitely told them before hand. And you have to think of the idea of the possibility of them throwing you out.

Answer 9

These Christian psychopath parents are going to be angry.

First that you are getting a tattoo. I don't like tattoos personally but I won't argue my point here. They're not going to like it and if you do it, they're going to be mad.

Second, they are really going to be mad because a potrait tattoo of your cousin with a bible verse is going to cost money. Who's paying for it? Are you or are they?

If you want the tattoo that bad, use your own money, NOT theirs.

Yes, you are 18, you can do what you want. You also have to deal with the consequences, whether you're 18 or you're 30 and want that tattoo gone.

Answer 10

Calling your own parents an extreme Christian psychopath is shocking..did they harm you that made you say they are psychopaths? If you really really think your parents are psychopaths, there's no need to consult them or tell them whatever you want to do with yourself. Go, do anything what pleases you cause the way I see it, your description of your parents made me think that you are the only person that is sane in your family.