I feel like a total ***** which I really am not. He was at my friends party and he told her that he liked me and she asked me if I would date him and I declined. Well he added me as a myspace friend and I saw pics of him partying which was a huge turn off. A month goes by I think I made the wrong decision so I email him my screen name and we start talking. I should have been clear in the beginning I wasn't sure how I felt about him and just wanted to be friends. I think I can be a bit of a tease. I have some great qualities like I'm funny and sexy. I think the topics I talk about are a turn on for guys like the fact that I love jessica simpson. Well he asked me out tonight and I had to decline. I told him I didn't want to but can't we just be friends. We had just gotten through talking about if we had been in love and he asked me if I was looking for love and I said yes.
I feel like an idiot and that I have turned into someone I hate.
2007-09-30 17:08:13 · 9 answers · asked by Brownie12866 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did appologize but I feel like it wasn't enough. I told him I am sorry and I just want to be friends and he said he wasn't looking for anything more then that (which seems highly untrue to me).
2007-09-30 17:15:06 · update #1
There is just something about him that I can't put my finger on but I'm not attracted to him. Maybe there is something wrong with me.
2007-09-30 17:16:26 · update #2
He shouldn't think that you want to go out with just by the topics you pick to talk about unless you were talking about going out with him, that you thought he was hot, that he was the kind of person you would like to date!! Some guys just pick up on the littlest things and grab hold!! If you didn't purposely lead him on and you would know if you duid then don't worry about it, life goes on and he'll get over it!! I don't mean to sound cold, but if you didn't actually do it on purpose then there is no reason to feel bad about it!! Good Luck!!
2007-09-30 18:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ginny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more thoughtful and gracious in all your communications. Think first, then talk or email. Don't be so quick to lure a guy in with flirting conversation. Be up front about wanting a guy for a friend and accept if that is not what he's looking for. If you get off on turning guys down, stop it. That's the teasing and bitchy thing to do. Treat each guy as you would wish to be treated yourself. Have respect for them and what they offer you.
2007-09-30 17:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, part of being a guy is having to deal with rejection at least 90% of the time. He'll get over it.
What you did wasn't nice, but it's not the end of the world. Just let him down easy and go on your merry way.
2007-09-30 17:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by jacob decibel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm sorry if I gave you the wrong impression about my intentions. I wasn't sure if I was interested in you and while I don't want a relationship with you I think it would be cool if we hung out every once in awhile."
If he asks you about the are you looking for love thing, just reply with, well isn't everyone to some degree?
2007-09-30 17:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be honest and upfront about everything to him. We as guys will assume everything is ok, assume that you like us until we get the definite NO. So just tell him straight-up what you want from this friendship, and it's only friendship that you want. After doing so, make sure you keep a certain distance so he doesn't think too much.
2007-09-30 17:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by kobeissorry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should mail him your question to us. It says it all. Congrats, it takes a pretty big person to recognize a down fall. You will be fine and so will he. Your honesty is really the key to closure here. Good job, nicely written and best of luck to you.
2007-09-30 17:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told him you were looking for love, not that it was with him. Don't beat yourself up over this. Unless you feel bad cause you really do like him, you just won't believe it.
2007-09-30 17:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by 400lbtwins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just like the attention. You should practice self control. What I don't get is why you don't like him? You never said what he was like.
2007-09-30 17:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to wicked up there and apologise before you feel obligated to do something
2007-09-30 17:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by QM 974th BN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋