How can abortion be an option?? There are sooo many couples out there who would give anything to love a baby...and then there are people out there who are so willing able to have an abortion because they dont think its the right time... makes me soo sad... am I the only one that feels this way...? I dont believe in abortion in any aspects. Rape, teen, disabilities, anything...God brings babies into our lives no matter how its put here, and abortion should not be an answer. There is always adoption.
2007-09-30 16:29:58 · 32 answers · asked by LiLmamma 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I totally understand that this subject could very easily hit home with some people...but I am seriously intrested in knowing how someone can even think that abortion is the only answer... to me there saying abortion is better than having someone adopt it... thats just sad.
2007-09-30 16:36:31 · update #1
Tanya R- Ive been through one of those situations...and honest to GOD if I wouldve gotten pregnant...I would have put it up for adoption.
2007-09-30 16:39:15 · update #2
im 22 and 32 weeks pregnant. Ive been raped...and as much as you want to stand up for what you believe... I do the same! You wanna be a ***** go right ahead...but Ill dish it right back. Everyone has a right to there own beliefs, but im not yelling at any one certain person, im just standing up for what I believe. I only asked this question to try to understand...and I know this is a touchy subject...
2007-09-30 17:36:08 · update #3
Good onya for standing up for what you believe in, you dont believe in abortion under any circumstances and I respect your opinion. I personally couldn't do it. I chose adoption instead (everything turned out very well for my son, by the way).
Like you, I was dead against abortion. That was until my sister got pregnant (due to failed contraception) after she won her battle against cancer. Her oncologist gave her 2 choices - abort the pregnancy or die, plain and simple. As much as she didnt want to do it, she had to in order to save her life. Better to lose the baby than lose both of them right? Adoption would not have solved this dilemma.
When you are young, single and pregnant, it doesn't matter whether you keep baby, abort, or adopt, you are always going to get critisized and bullied by others about the decision you made, all the while the baby's father barely gets a mention!
Anyway, my point is, abortion is necessary in certain circumstances, and if a rape victim chose abortion, I would totally understand that too. However people who abuse the system and keep going back for 2nd and 3rd abortions make me want to vomit.
All the best to you xx
2007-10-01 00:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lochie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know you raised a touchy question.
I'm 36 weeks pregnant, and I'm personally against abortion as an option for me. But there is no reason that anyone should stop another woman for deciding that she would like an abortion. Adoption is not as easy a choice as you may think. Once you have felt your baby move inside you, it's a life changing event. And you have to continue to feel the baby, and to goto doctor's appointments, and have people ask you what the sex is, or how far along you are. The baby becomes part of your everyday existance, then once you have the baby, you give it to someone else? That's not such an easy task to take on. Mind you, once you give birth, it's not over yet. You are going to produce milk and have general pains to recover from for weeks afterwards, constantly reminding you that you gave your child away.
Think about the whole picture before you judge someone elses choice. And just because it's a choice you are personally uncomfortable with, doesn't mean it wasn't the right choice for the person who made that decision.
This subject is not exactly one that you can just "imagine" or think about how you would react if you were in another persons place. You actually have to be there in order to fully understand. Best of luck. I hope that you gain a lot of different perspectives from this question.
2007-09-30 16:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by nailcikcia 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you 100%. I truly believe that abortion is wrong. If I got pregnant, even if it were by rape or incest, I would never kill that baby. It doesn't matter what the father was; it is also my baby! Mine! And either I have the opportunity to raise this child to be different, to have a totally opposite view of the world than their father did, or I have the option to give it up for someone else to love. That baby is innocent, and we are not supposed to murder the innocent! It may not be your fault your pregnant, and it's definately not the baby's fault. This issue always raises heated arguments, on both the pro-choice and pro-life side, but what about the baby's choice? We are entrusted with the well-being of our children, no matter how they came to be. I just think that murdering them in cold blood is completely wrong.
And before anyone burns me with a scathing response, let it firstly be said that this is my opinion, and I am just as entitled to it as those of you who believe abortion is acceptable. Also, I HAVE been a victim of rape, and should a baby have come from that, I would have loved it no matter what. Someone said being pregnant for 9 months would only serve to remind you of your rape. Well, news flash to that - it doesn't matter whether you're pregnant or not, you will NEVER forget that you were raped. It is NOT a reason for abortion!
2007-09-30 20:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Shayna 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
*sigh* You speak from ignorance so I will try to be sympathetic and use monosyllabic words.
I had an abortion. I had stage III cancer. The type of cancer I had is driven by female hormones, which of course peak during pregnancy. Also, due to the chemo/radiation the child would not have survived anyway. To save my life, I had an abortion. It was an agonizing choice. However, to not have an abortion would have been akin to committing suicide. I am sad about it, but I did what I had to do. God has a way of making us eat our words; maybe you will get cancer and also have a grave decision to make. (I was on Yaz. No bc is 100% effective)
There is an infamous picture of a dead woman that appeared in Glamour (I think) many years ago. She tried to abort herself and she was dead, lying in a pool of blood. Please include these pictures along with the dead fetus propaganda your type seem to so treasure. We are women, and our lives are worth something.
Open your mind and shut your mouth. There are people with all kinds of issues that you cannot even fathom. If you truly want to stop abortion, go to the abortion clinics and give away money. Lots of money. Many women have abortions due to finances.....I am sure if you gave them each 50,000$ or so, they would leave the abortion clinic. Better use cash.
2007-10-01 03:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by beautifulirishgirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not really a question you want an answer to, is it?
I can't answer this, nor can anyone else... that's your belief structure. If you'd like to have a conversation on the subject, I suggest some message board or forum, of which this is not. You are entitled to your beliefs, as are others and everyone is entitled to a shift of their belief system. You may have different feelings if you were raped, then told the child would be born without a spine. Do not pass judgement upon the circumstances of others when you do not share their problems. Best.
2007-09-30 16:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I guess because when the killing is done then it is not really a developed baby. I don't like the idea, but I can see why people would want to get it done. And I don't agree with the adoption thing. There are so many kids in foster care and out on the streets, yes there is the idea of a perfect infertile couple waiting for nice babies, but it doesn't always work like that.
2007-09-30 17:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
i cant stand people who judge pro choicers when they have no clue what its like to be pregnant under less than great circumstances. no woman should be forced to have a baby before they are ready. it is not fair to tell someoen else that their body must go through this huge change, its your own personal choice and if she doesnt wanna do it then fine but we all have our own choices. now i think it's under reasonable circumstances. i dont think it should be legal at lets say 6 months when it's a completley developed baby, but those are all grey areas. its not easy, but n oone can judge you because they dont know you.i have had an abortion recently and it was very hard to do, but it had to be done.as for adoption, i could never give my baby up, so i would of ended up raising a child i couldnt handle yet.yes it may not be fair that some people cant have babies but it doesnt mean i should have a baby for them.i will have a baby when i am ready.
OH and just to let you know, we arent cruel and heartless, it IS SO hard, and something i will have to live with forever, but it was the right thing to do. and if someone gets raped, no its not the babies fault, but its not the womans fault either.
people that have not been in this situation of being pregnant and not ready can not judge because you dont always know what you'll do till it really happens, cus everyone thinks 'it wont happen to me'..then it does..
2007-09-30 17:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by 47skittles 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I'm sorry but is someone raped me and got me pregnant i couldn't bare the fact on keeping a raped baby. Lets say you keep and this child you brought into the world say mom where's my daddy oh some man who raped is your father. I couldn't deal with that. Abortion should be for a good reason not for cause oops i had sex and i messed up now I'm pregnant that's the problem people not being responsible
2007-09-30 18:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by Adrianne R 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you! My best friend was adopted, and she told me her mother decided that instead of aborting her, she had her, and then put my best friend up for adoption, since my best friend's mother was only 15 at the time when my friend was born. I can not believe some people would kill a human being, that would have been able to breathe air, and live life to the fullest. I just can't believe some people who would do this to an poor unborn child.
2007-09-30 16:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
i totally agree but i think that if we want to make abortion less of a problem we need to start with changing ppls view of adoption i have had so many ppl tell me about how they cant let one of there family members just be out there and ppl who are pregnant and considering adoption told about how could you give your baby up and made to feel like a bad person for considering that as an option. ppl also need to be made aware of how things work these days and open adoptions.
2007-09-30 16:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by fairy 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋