My question is brought up because they're are so many couples living together today. I am 47 and have been married going on 17 years. My personal feeling is that I never wanted to live with a woman because to me there is not a full commitment.. I have always felt the you have one foot in and one foot out the door! What is your feeling?
2007-09-30 16:24:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It can be a good idea, but it can also be a bad idea. The problem is when you start the relationship believing you both understand why you are together and why you are not getting married, but then one or the other changes his/her mind. The classic thing is a woman who agrees that marriage is unnecessary until she gets pregnant. Or a man who thinks marriage is unnecessary until he looks at the insurance and child custody matters which are unduly complicated for not having legal status.
Generally, I think people live together rather than getting married because they are not sure they are going to want to stay together. The risk is that one will get more dependent and the other more independent.
2007-09-30 16:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's understandable why you feel that way. 50% of married couples get divorced. You have your benefits when living apart. For example if you broke up, there wouldn't be a messy moving out. I think you should talk it over with your wife and try to come to an agreement. However if you are ready to take the plunge go right ahead. You might find it difficult at first, but it may pay off.
2007-09-30 16:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by Dinchan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe living together while not married is bad. I think it shows lack of trust and lack of willingness to commit. If someone is worth living with they are worth marrying.
Also: "Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have a considerably higher chance of eventually divorcing. The reasons for this are not well understood. In part, the type of people who are willing to cohabit may also be those who are more willing to divorce. There is some evidence that the act of cohabitation itself generates attitudes in people that are more conducive to divorce, for example the attitude that relationships are temporary and easily can be ended."
2007-09-30 16:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by DaveMc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look at it like this, if a man is willing to give up his personal space and let a woman move in, he obviously wants a commitment of some kind. I don't think living together before getting married is a bad thing, it's like a trial run to see how well you work as a couple before getting married. I don't mind it.
2007-09-30 16:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
not at all performed it. not at all will. i think of that that is undesirable all around. What happens once you smash up ? are you able to nevertheless stay interior an identical homestead or comparable room ? What if he dumps you and then brings his new female homestead ? Does that sound like a reliable difficulty ? You pronounced that he's your first courting and ordinary kiss. that may no longer adequate existence journey to decide a potential stay in on. My father lived with a female for 18 months before marriage. If I remember wisely, the marriage lasted under six months. So no, i do no longer think the " try it before you purchase it approach '' the two. whilst he stops being your boyfriend, he will additionally supply up being your chum.
2016-10-10 02:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of several couples that have been living together for more than twenty years! The fact that they don't have a piece of paper , had not changed their commitment to each other, or their love for each other! they have had children and have been very happy!
I have known married people, who stayed together for a few years and divorce!
It depends on the relationship, and the people involved! A marriage license is not going to change anything!
There are people who commit, and people who don't! it is that simple!
2007-09-30 20:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by evictus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you gotta live with the person your going to be with or thinking about marring. That way you learn all the little things that you don't know about them. And all the things that they wouldn't tell you on a date. Such as, is the person a pack rat? Or is it that the person only cleaned up when they herd you were comeing over? does this person have to sleep a certan way, like with music or a light on or something. Can you deal with that?
After learning there habits you can ask yourself, can I live with this person for say the next 20 years?
2007-09-30 19:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by Saturn554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the bible, Paul taught that it is better to marry than to burn, (meaning burn with desire.)
My personal belief is that young people should marry. There are civil laws that should be taken into consideration when children are to be brought into this world, and it protects them. Holy matrimony should be based upon a christian foundation, that will unite two people. Older people that are beyond child bearing years, that want companionship, I don't believe is an unforgiveable sin. Christ set examples for us to live by. I admire you for your beliefs, and you are most certainly entitled to feel the way you do. I believe in marriage.
2007-09-30 16:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feeling is ... We did NOT live together before I married a man I loved, in a church and made a vow for better and for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, 'til death do us part, and in our fourth year of marriage, after I became very ill with Hypothyroidism, he left me.
A marriage certificate isn't worth the ink it's copied with.
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2007-09-30 16:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand your question.. but you can live together with a person that you want.. if you dont want to live with her.. so leave her and hurt each other
2007-09-30 16:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋