so i took on of those home pregnancy tests,and sure enough if tested positive.
i really dont need another child right now in my life.
I was on birthcontrol but stopped it because i thought it was breaking me out with a rash,and aside from that me and my husband have a really bad sex life on my part ...maybe twice a month....now WE both decided we DONT need another baby.
am i wrong to go and get an abortion?
Additional Details
3 hours ago
i will not adopt a child out...now that would be silly
1 second ago
financial problems yes,dental problems yes,new job i got involves heavy lifting and i was lucky to get a job i cant afford to lose it, i support a 6 persons family and making 22,000 a year combined isnt easy.i feel my child i do have doesnt get the rightful attention needed.
and i wouldnt let a child of mine live with strangers.
i am in a horrible neighborhood infested with drugs and violence and i am struggling to move.
I have crazy inlaws you stalk me and my h
2007-09-30 15:49:41 · 30 answers · asked by Butterflied 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
sex life isnt but i ment was i condom would have been ideal except husband wont and i have a lack of desire which makes my husband approach me while sleep or half asleep ....?
2007-09-30 16:00:40 · update #1
i lift hardware not pills,and i may be 4 weeks prego and where i live murders happen not me..
2007-09-30 16:06:40 · update #2
a baby develop to be ...an embryo is not developed correct?
2007-09-30 16:08:51 · update #3
to you all calling me names ,it just makes me think that you all are trash and deserve my situation more than i do.
2007-09-30 16:14:05 · update #4
Abortion is NOT murder because it isn't illegal.
Get over it people.
I have had an abortion before and I have not regretted it. I also am the mother of 2.
It's all up to you. Think of what is best for you and your child now NOW.
If you do opt to having the abortion, try getting an IUD as a form of birth control.
Good luck!
2007-10-01 06:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by JMC 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Woman, you should have stayed in charge of what was happening to your body. Apparently you didn't think ahead about your situation in life was until you became pregant. Now you have a little body inside of you. Before you abort this child, figure out how you are going to prevent any other pregnancy. At least if you go full term with this child, you won't get pregant in the meantime. Why are you supporting six people. Maybe this pregnancy will put you in a better place, without your husband and other dependants. Think it through.
2007-09-30 16:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have known women who have had abortions and lived to regret them, and were saddened by their choice for the rest of their lives. Yet, I have never known a mother to refer to her own child and say, "I wish I never had so-and-so. I should have had an abortion."
I had a lot of negative thoughts when I was pregnant with my second child. I get really sick during pregnancy, and I wasn't looking forward to repeating the whole baby thing again. But I look at my daughter now and can't believe I felt that way - I'm ashamed I ever did. She is such a blessing to me and our family. And I know, if you were to have your baby, you would feel the same way.
I would urge you to seek the support of a local church. They can offer you counseling, and even financial assistance.
Or maybe re-consider adoption. I have a neighbor who just adopted a baby and they are such good and loving parents. There are many like them who would be great parents, but just can't have children of their own. In many cases, you can still arrange to see the child regularly.
2007-09-30 16:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by wonderwoman 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you will have to live with any choice you make. it is not silly to put a child up for adoption -it is the single most selfless gift you can give another person and the child. abortion is not an easy decision, but one you should never regret. bringing a child into the life such as yours is the most selfish decision.
learn from the opportunity you have been given and that will make any decision you make the right one.
2007-09-30 17:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by KitKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To all you spouting off propaganda and prolife tripe:
Offer this woman $50000, for starters, and more money every year. Offer her a brand new house, all bills paid, and also many babysitters. Offer her a nice, cushy job where she will be well paid and taken care of.
What's that? I don't hear anyone volunteering?
Hypocrites.
wow I must be an anomaly....I had an abortion and I am not wallowing in regret. To the contrary, I am relieved and happy to be alive. And all the women I know personally who have had abortions have similar feelings. Hmmmm how is it that in real life, regret is seldom an issue, but if you believed all the prolifers on here one would think it is common?
Educate yourselves with real scientific facts.
2007-10-01 03:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by beautifulirishgirl 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry but I don't agree with abortion under this circumstance. You had sex. Do you not know the consequence of that? Even birth control/condoms only protect you 99% of the time. You can still get pregnant even when trying to have safe sex. Technology makes it way too easy for parents to give up their baby and go for abortion when they just don't want to deal with it. I am a certified pharmacy tech and working in hospitals, I was pushing, pulling, lugging and carrying heavy IV boxes all the time. 35-40 pounds for one box. Every day, I had to stack them on a cart, and the cart was about 700 pounds. That's a lot of heavy lifting. Several of my co-workers had their babies while doing this job. There are options. And if the company you work for cannot accomodate women who get pregnant, then they are discriminating, and you can get them for that. You can get another job if this one doesn't pan out.
It really saddens me to hear of someone like you wanting to destroy their baby before it can have a chance to live, just because they can't keep their pants on. Shame on you. At least you can do is give your baby up for adoption so that it has a chance at life and with a good family that will love him/her unconditionally. That's the 'least' you could do for this baby being as you don't want it.
2007-09-30 16:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by lady_bella 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
You would be a murderer in my eyes...but thats just my opinion.
You keep wrting more things...adding onto your "question"
You wanted peoples opinions... and youre getting it...sounds like uve already made ur mind up so why are you getting pissy with people who actually think ur a bad person for wanting an abortion. Thats what you get for asking something like this on here. I dont care if you delete my answer...I dont care if I lose points....But I will feel better knowing you read this. I think you are a selfish person, I think you shoulve figured out things w ur hubby before you got pregnant...just cuz the baby is not developed yet, doesnt mean that there isnt life inside you... people that have abortion are murderers to me...The doc takes a suction to your unborn baby and rips it apart and its gone... how the **** can someone live with that.... UGH
what the hell do expect people to say?? Thats they think its an awesome ******* idea??? And you want to wish your **** life on us...??
2007-09-30 15:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by LiLmamma 2 · 6⤊ 3⤋
Yes it is very wrong to want to have an abortion. You set youself up to have another child. you stop taking birth control. than you didnt use a condom, so its your fault that you have this problem and I think you should keep the baby. Gosh if you didnt want this to happen you should have thought of this when you and your husband were having unprotected sex. Having an abortion is killing your baby, after you have one you will regret it for the rest of your life. that baby shouldnt have to be punished for your wrong doing. And you think adopting is silly having an abotion is silly and CRUEL.
2007-09-30 16:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by *Young & Beautiful* 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Abortion questions belong in woman’s health . The argument that abortion is ok is based on the fact that it is the mothers body and she has the right to choose if she wants to stay pregnant bc it is a medical condition not a baby’s life. If you argue that it is a pregnancy and parenting issue then you are acknowledging that it is a baby and you want to kill it bc it is an inconvenience to you.
2007-09-30 15:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by fairy 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
the choice is YOURS to make. i'm for abortion, because it's a women's right to choose. & i have no right to judge you for your actions, or to even look down upon you. but in your case, YOU stopped taking your birth control. YOU could have went to the doctor & switched it. there are many of things that you could have done to prevent getting pregnant since you knew that you weren't financially ready to have another child. next time, look into getting your tubes tied so you won't get into another situation like this. as for people posting answers on here calling you names & so on. you ARE going to recieve that. you chose to post your question on here, & if you didn't want feedback like that then you could have avoided it.
2007-09-30 17:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by - -MissBrittany.♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋