okay see.
i am 13.
and i have a boyfriend.
i really am in love with him.
sure everybody says we are not.
but we really are,
we have been discussing about having a baby.
yeah i know i am 13.
my life will be ruined.
but i do not care.
i know how much work a baby is.
but we both just want to start a family together.
it would bring us so much more closer together.
and i am willing to throw my whole life away just to have a baby with him.
we know how much trouble we can get in with our parents and the law.
2007-09-30 15:45:54 · 22 answers · asked by senina 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
oh my god. you're lucky you're not my daughter.
2007-09-30 16:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by E5'sWife 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can understand your desire but you need to realize that there is no going back should you decide this wasn't the aproiate time for this decision. If your boyfriend truly loves you, then he will continue the journey until you are both mature adults. You will care once you get the real realization that your life is ruined and I do not say this to be mean.. When you will be up all night, when your child is sick, when you need formula and there is no one to pay for it because neither of you have a job. You will miss out on your education, so if you do eventually work , you would be lucky to find a job at all. Then you will have to figure out who is going to watch the child. Just a bit of things to think about before you run out and make your decision soooo quickly... Just give it some thought. For now a pet would be a better way to share your love. I am sorry but I am actually trying to help. I am a mom of 3 boys and it is a huge responsibility!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-04 11:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Penny D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fine I will go along with you, lets just say that you ARE in a loving and lasting relationship and you don't mind giving up your life for a child, you say you know how much work a baby is. Now THAT is a lie, NOBODY knows how much work a baby is until they have had one, trust me I know because I do have a child, none of the warnings from other mothers about how hard it is could have prepared me for motherhood. Stop being selfish and using a baby to bring you and your boyfriend closer together, and by the way, children cause arguments and drive relationships apart, I was with my boyfriend for 2 years before I got pregnant, the hormones, the stress, the weight gain turned me into a real cow and we have been on the verge of breaking up so many times. We are married now but I am much older than you, we had cars, a house, jobs, educations and it was STILL difficult!! Please I know you are a kid and you think you are right and can't see how wrong this is, don't bring an innocent baby into the world in this way intentionally, your child will be disadvantaged before it is even born. Accidents are a different story, people make the best of them, but what you are planning is just stupid and it shows how ignorant you are not to take advice from people with more experience in this life.
2007-09-30 16:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, no, no. Just the idea makes me so sad. A baby needs a mom and dad - are you going to get married? What about money? What about a home? What kind of life can you give this baby? You aren't even old enough to legally provide for this child. You can't drive to a doctor's office, get a real job, start a college fund, etc. Forget about throwing your whole life away - you would also be throwing that child's life away. Please don't do this.
If you need something to love on go get a puppy. See if you can handle that responsibility first.
2007-09-30 15:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by RLW 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, reread what you wrote. You are 13 years old. You haven't even went through puberty yet. It sounds like you are dating a older guy. Trust me at 13 years old, all he want from you is sex. And I'm telling you once you get pregnant you going to be bringing that baby up in this world by yourself. By you not caring what your parents say they might not decide to help you. And you got your whole life ahead of you. If you both love each other like you said. Then both of you should be able to wait for each other.
Good Luck
2007-10-04 04:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tha Blessed One 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OHMYGOD! U r only just out of nappies. For one, you have at least another 10 years of growing up to do. WHat can you offer a baby at 13? Obviously u r not very mature, and what have you got going for yourself? How will you pay for all the bills required? DO you even have a house? Hvae you ever been incharge of paying bills? I somehow think not, forget having a baby, go and get a life!
2007-09-30 17:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by mizz0wl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I couldnt help but see these two satements in your question stand out the most....
I know I am 13 and my life will be ruined
I am willing to throw my whole life away
Those are horrible thoughts if u are wanting a baby...if you and your bf really love eachother...you will wait when you dont feel like you would be throwing your life away, and ruining your life...You are still a baby yourself! 13 yrs old! You shouldnt even be having sex...
2007-09-30 16:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by LiLmamma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think this one through a little more. You may indeed love him, but you need to think about bringing another human being into the world, not just the fact that you want a baby. Finish school and get setttled mentally and financially before you have a baby. besides there are so many things out there that you need to experience before having a child.
2007-09-30 16:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
judging the question, i can assume you are/will be pregnant. yep, you said it, you are screwed.
"i am willing to throw my whole life away just to have a baby with him. we know how much trouble we can get in with our parents and the law"
there will be more trouble ahead waiting for you, girl. this is just the beginning.
"i have a boyfriend. i really am in love with him. sure everybody says we are not."
ok, but does he love you? if he REALLY does, then he should know having baby would ruin a 13 year old girl's life. obviously he just wants to have sex. watch out. Time can reveal everything. soon he will reveal his true self. if everybody said so, then that means all your friends saw the problem. they know your boy, you should have listened to them.
2007-09-30 15:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Rax 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are both 18, done with high school, he has a good job, and you both have health insurance.
You have to look at the big picture and possible consequences. What if he tragically died young or left you, and you would have to support this child on your own, without a high school diploma or decent job. You need your high school diploma. The only people that hire people without HS diplomas/GEDs are the same employers that don't care if you're a US citizen or not. (And these are usually crappy jobs)
Finish school.
2007-09-30 15:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by a jaded angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.
Not from the life/parents/law perspective.
But biologically, you're still growing. It'll be hard for your body to provide nutrition for both of you if you're pregnant - so If you're thinking about getting pregnant, please consider your future child too. Not about financial, love or anything... just from the health benefit. Wait a couple more years until your body can focus on your child when you're pregnant.
2007-10-02 18:53:45 · answer #11 · answered by meetha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋