I am in an interfaith marriage...I am an atheist. My wife is not muslim, but her family is. She insists that my family come...even though I hate my family. What should I do?
2007-09-30 15:42:19 · 9 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You tell her that if she wants to marry you, she must respect you and your wishes. If you don't want your family there, that's your business, and something you may or may not have to regret later in life.
Good luck.
2007-09-30 15:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk over some alternative ideas together that you can find one you both agree on. How about not inviting anyone to the ceremony and have a huge celebration afterward with whoever wants to come and congratulate you both? Neither should insist on the other doing anything. You are individuals and need to come to some type of common ground on this or postpone a wedding until you can. Good luck!
2007-09-30 15:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is being forced to have a wedding? I don't understand your question. Are you saying that you are already married and now your wife is forcing you to have a wedding? She can't force you to do that. It is your choice. If it is important to her and her family that she has a wedding, I suggest you go along with it (so long as it is financially reasonable) just because you love your wife. But no one can force you to invite your family. If you have nothing to do with them, stand firm on it. If you and your family don't get along and you never talk to them, there is no reason why you should invite them.
I don't understand what being an atheist or a muslim has to do with it.
2007-09-30 15:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by blahblah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
starting off a marriage with ultimatums is not a good sign. Let her know that you want respect from her about this. If you would feel more comfortable without your family there then she needs to respect that decision, this wedding will set the tone for your marriage.
2007-10-04 15:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regale her with your tales of woe--all the reasons you don't like your family. Then ask her if she really wants that kind of people around on this terribly important day.
And if that doesn't convince her, you still get to say no. You're going to have to respect each other in your marriage, and if you feel strongly about this, she should accept it.
2007-09-30 15:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by flirty_smurf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are atheist, why bother with a wedding at all.Just live together.The vows would have no meaning to you at all. save the money.
2007-09-30 16:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife that you are not ready to meet your family and when youwillbe you Will tell her
2007-09-30 15:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean forced? Who is forcing who. I am confused.
Your already married right?
2007-09-30 15:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop being a athest
dumba**
2007-09-30 17:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋