I fell in love with a girl who I believe sees us as just really good friends. I need help!?

Question

For the past 1.5 months I've been spending every spare moment with this girl and I've fallen deeply in love with her. I have never had such strong feelings before, I don't know what to do. This situation is complicated by a boyfriend who lives on the other side of the country. I'm usually very respectful of relationships but when I first met her I thought she was single so it was regular dating. Her and I are so close and share very strong connections and chemistry, it's like fireworks when I'm with her and I sense that she feels the same way when I look into her eyes. I mentioned we spend every moment together and even sleep together every night but no sex. I give her massages and keep her warm at night; we are basically just "cuddle buddies." She does not want to cheat on her bf, respectfully, but she makes a lot of sexual comments (dirty minded girl). I'm going crazy, I want her for myself. can anyone give me some suggestions. Thank you.

Answer 1

Why don't you tell her what you wrote about here? If you two are that close you either go forward with her or end up with blue balls like right now. I have done the same bed thing, which is nice to a point. but if you want to go ahead with her, tell her..

Answer 2

Well, you can't fairly just rip her apart from her boyfriend. However, that doesn't mean that you don't have a chance of becoming her boyfriend. I know it's absolute torture, but wait for a while. She may end up breaking up with him. It can't be a great relationship for long if he lives across the country. They will probably break up, and when that happens, give her time to heal, if she needs it. But don't wait too long to make your move. That can result in weeks, perhaps months, of depression, etc. Good luck!

Answer 3

Well what kind of sexual comments does she make? She could be making these comments to make you feel better about the fact that you are a closet case homosexual...