Meaning: When a friend or ANYone for that matter askes how many people I've slept with, should I chalk it down to something smaller like 8? In the sake of saving my reputation? Or is 14 OK do you think. (And for everyone that wants to say "SLUT" or any other slanderous comment, please...save it, I don't need your negativity and neither does this world.)
2007-09-30 15:30:37 · 32 answers · asked by Katherine H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop counting, I would have to think hard before I could recall most of the women I had been with not because I am a player just because I don't keep score.
I would suggest if someone asks you you just reply with "a few" and leave it at that. And stop keeping count, it doesn't matter.
All that matters is if you have no remorse and have enjoyed yourself, while making sure you observe the necessary protective measures, ie condoms, etc.
So don't worry, but you have no reason to tell anyone your past encounters and if you feel compelled to answer keep it vague
2007-09-30 15:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, you're not alone. I got herpes from someone, from doing the exact same thing. I was stupid and didn't use protection one time. I am now practicing abstinence. It is the only way to prevent STDs and of course pregnancy. I do not want you to get the same thing I have, or even worse.. something REALLY bad! I really am worried about the path you're on. I know I was not that concerned for myself, but have just over the past few years, realizing how not cool it is to be promiscuous. Even if you don't think 14 is a lot, it is! It is waaay too many to have at 19. I know I'm just a little older and have many more than you, and this is something I do regret. I do not look back and say, wow, I'm so glad I had sex with that guy I'm now not talking to.. and was never serious with... It effects me and how I think about myself. I was confronted by a guy that I was interested in; he told me he was not interested in having sex with me, and that I was 'flowing to him the sex vibe'. I realized after that, that I wanted to stop the path I was on, and start really focusing on myself. I have decided until I understand more about myself, and become very much in love, and probably married, I'm not having sex again. I would really stop having sex if I were you, and really take a look at where you're heading; it's not a good direction. Start having more respect for yourself.
2007-09-30 15:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by shoppingal80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone asks you how many men you've slept with, tell them that it's none of their business, straight up. I am 20 and I've slept with one man, yet I would say the same thing.
If it goes on between your legs, then it is no one elses concern.
If you're concern about telling a partner on the other hand, well then you should consider telling them the truth. You would want the same honesty if the tables were turned. Anyone that loves you will not judge you based on a number.
Otherwise, keep it to yourself.
Good luck...
2007-09-30 15:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by ebonii_cuteee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The correct answer is "none of your business". The politically correct answer would be "I don't keep count" or "I never talk about numbers". Once you start answering those kinds of questions, it is tougher to stop.
I am a LOT older than you but when I am in a relationship and they ask about previous partners, my response is as follows:
"I was a virgin before I met you" and "I was tested negative xx months ago and I will be happy to share the results with you".
Any information about your sex life is privileged. If you are a virgin or have a guy a night is your business. Grow up and learn to restrict access to your life.
2007-09-30 15:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by WallBaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully...I wouldn't tell anyone...I've slept with only 3 guys (including my husband now) and I always say only 2...why?? Because guys and girls can respect you more if u tell them that. Yeah, guys say all the time how they don't care that they want to know the truth...but I've had A LOT of guy friends to know that they DO CARE! They just don't say it to ur face...specially if u want a man to take u seriously...don't say the truth...he won't understand....trust me on this...if u want something serious don't tell a soul (not even ur bestfriend!! specially not @ this age) I'm 22 & I am so grateful I've kept my mouth shut because everyone I thought mattered has screwed me over but at least no one can call me a slut!!
2007-09-30 15:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you can't be honest about your behavior then you should change it. Your obviously ashamed of it or you'd stand flat footed and say I've slept with 14 men. Your reputation surely isn't that important to you. You didn't really expect to get praise for 14 men did you?
2007-09-30 15:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Aunt Doobie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, 14 is alot for a 19 year old.. I wouldn't go around telling people that... $lut is the first thing that will come to mind. But when you do get in a serious relationship with someone you DO need to be honest. Also, you may want to get tested for STD's...
2007-09-30 16:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must admit, I would be a little bit worried if a girl told me that she had slept with 14 men if she were only 19. A dogma shared be a fair amount of guys is that if a guy sleeps with a large amount of woman, it is because he has high self confidence. If a girl sleeps with a lot of guys, it is because she has low self confidence.
I'm not saying that is true, but a lot of guys think that way. A guy who wants to be long term with you would understand, tell him the truth. I don't want to encourage anyone to lie, but I wouldn't recommend letting that info go if you two haven't been seeing each other for long. Good luck!
2007-09-30 15:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by frisbinator 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on who you're talking to I think. I personally would decrease the number... but some might be impressed. Again, depends what reputation you want to give... someone with experience or not so much experience. I'm not sure who would ask you such personal information, it's not something I discuss with my friends, but then, to each his/her own. And who says that you have to give a number... why not think up some sly way of answering, yet not answering.
2007-09-30 15:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not answer this question either about my sex life its no bodies business what goes on in my life or my bedroom
Are you looking for encouragement or a bad reputation?
You are making hard on the site for people not to be rude with such a question. WHY ARE YOU DOING SOMETHING LIKE THIS? The negativity comes from your answer not from me. And I am proud of who I am.
2007-09-30 15:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋