what should i do to help from crying in front of him because it hurts me ever more when he says that to me because i have noone else but him and my 3 kids.
2007-09-30 15:30:30 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You shouldn't change for this guy and stop crying in front of him because of what he said. Its your mom, and youre going through a painful moment as hard as it is already. So dont take any stupid stuff from him. He's not the right guy. And you should just move on. A true boyfriend would care for you while youre going through these moments. And what you say of him, doesnt even make him seem like a good person, or a boyfriend.
2007-09-30 15:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sounds like he's not being very sensitive to your feelings now and making unfair demands of your behavior. I'd be crying alot too in your shoes! To give him the benefit of the doubt, it might make him feel terrible to see you hurting so badly, and instead of voicing his honest feelings he tries to make the problem go away by just telling you to stop whining.
I think you need to explain to him why you feel so bad. Your friggin' mom died, you're allowed to cry over it! Now, if it was 3 years ago I'd say yeah, move on, but 3 weeks? You're still in the depths of the grieving process, and he needs to understand this and not make you feel like you should be bottling up your emotions like he seems to be.
I hope you can make him understand. You're going through a hard enough time as it is without him making you feel worse. Good luck, and take care of yourself.
2007-09-30 15:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ahni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the boyfriend!!!!!!!! losing someone close like a mom or a dad or even a friend can be very hard! I'm Sorry you are going thru this and all alone because the asshole of your boyfriend thinks you are whinny! I will pray for you!
Good luck and god bless!
2007-09-30 15:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by nena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "SCREW YOU!"
Its ok to cry dont worry about it instead of saying that he should be alot more supportive because your mourning. You just need to tell him he needs to try and understand what your going through and he just isnt helping. I know if my mom was gone i wouldnt even want to live anymore.
I am truely sorry for your loss
if it helps your mom is in a better place and is always watching over you and is always with you no matter what
2007-09-30 15:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by lexxa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, thats sick if hes telling the truth. Its like what the heck? You have crying rights, for goodness sakes your mother just died. Sheesh. Whats his problem with it anyway. IT not a bad thing to cry. Its actually very good after loosing someone. it lets you know youre not in denail...trust me, i lost my father about a month ago as well. And im sorry for your loss.
2007-09-30 16:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by hippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh baby girl, I'm so sorry for your loss. There are many support groups to help you deal with the grief of losing someone so important to you. Your boyfriend isn't being supportive with your feelings, he's being a big-*** jerk. Does he have a mother? Maybe you could talk to her, or someone else about how he is treating you. Maybe he just doesn't understand what its like, doesn't know how to comfort you, so he's distancing himself from the situation. Either way, you shouldn't have to worry about his opinion. I hope you find some help dealing with both situations.
2007-09-30 15:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by tinkershelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry sweetie. You need to talk with someone about your loss. Whether it be a friend, family member, or counciler you need to let your feelings out. If you don't have anyone else to talk to, then you are more than welcome to send me an email. People either don't eat or eat a lot more than normal when something like this happens. You are using food to help you with your loss. Find something else to help you and you will stop bingeing. Best of luck. XOXO.
2016-05-17 21:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to tolerate your boyfriend's insensitivity but you can say to him, 'You don't know what you're saying - you haven't lost a parent and you're just showing how insensitive you are...'
If he wants to argue with you about it, just tell him to leave you alone until he grows some feelings in his soul.
It's understandable that he doesn't understand your feelings - it's difficult when you've never lost a parent to imagine it. But it is just plain insensitive and rude to make remarks to you about your 'whining'.
Tell him you need a break from him until he develops feelings.
Take the break from him and go on mourning. You need to. I'm so sorry you lost your mom. I lost mine too and I didn't really know what that meant until it happened.
2007-09-30 15:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't understand it when you cry and doesn't want you to cry because it makes him sad too. If he is a good person and understanding in other ways, try to not cry and accept him as is. Good luck and very sorry about your loss. I know, I have lost both parents.
2007-09-30 15:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a jerk!! you are definitely not being whinny. im so sorry about your mom. if you feel the need to cry, do it. dont let him stop you. he should be supporting you and helping you through this difficult time. he sounds like a jerk =/
2007-09-30 17:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋