ok so here wats up im 15 and ive never had a bf and thats stressful and my parents have been divorced for 5 years & they bothare in deeeeeep financial trouble. (basically ive got more money then both of them together... no lie) they are both unemployed. my dad is a drunk and he has been sober for 3 months but he cant find work and hes depressed and i think hes going down the wrong road again. he does crack too and it scares me. my mom sleeps till 3:00 everyday and she is not motivated to work so i dont know how she will hold on to her house. my dad has tried to commit suicide more than once and pays prostitutes for sex all the time. my parents both dont have the money to send me or my sister to collage.. i get pretty good grades but i dont think its enough. it just scares me about where im going to be in 5-10 years. im just scared. advise anyone??
2007-09-30 14:56:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, I want to commend you for not giving up. I work with a church ministry, and I've seen too many teens complain because they didn't get a new car right when they turned 16, or someone had a longer limo then they did for the prom.
Adversity are the trials... that produce character. Like pressure from the mountain...that carbon is either going to crumble and become coal...or it will become a diamond. You have the makings of being a diamond.
Where will you be in 5 years? Hopefully, you will listen to what I'm about to tell you...you can be ANYWHERE in the world...literally...should you choose to join the Air Force or the Navy. Let our government pay for your college! See the world...allow the adversity you've faced pay off in having others recognize the character you have developed. And 5-10 years from now? So many roads will open up to you afterwards! keep in touch - my advice is just as free as your stamps for email!
† Traveling Prayer Warrior †
2007-10-02 10:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's sad. I hope that you are smart enough to be better then both of them. If you get really good grades in school then you will be able to get scholarships and financial aid and stuff, but you have to make honor roll every quarter. Also, when it comes time to do so, you can apply for grants through school. Dont worry about the boyfriend thing because you have enough to deal with by yourself. If it is necessary to do so, go to an adult you trust to talk to someone. I know that there is a chance that if you talk to the wrong person, they will get you taken away from your mother, but maybe that's not such a bad thing in your situation. If your sister is older, maybe you can talk to her about things. If she is younger, however, you now have to take on the responsibility of worrying about what she is going to do with her life, and think of her as your child and look after her. If you and she are in a bad situation like that, then you need to get some help and as bad as it sounds, your parents need help that you cannot give them, they can only get it for themselves.
Good luck and I hope that you find something that will help you. My email is lizzabif05@msn.com if you want to keep in touch. I will be here to listen anytime...
2007-09-30 22:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by lizzabif05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wished I could help you I really do. I had an alcoholic father also when I was a kid. It was hard on me and my lil sis when we were growing up too. Especially since our mom was the one working but we survived because of our mother, seems you don't have that option. Do you have any relatives that actually care about you? Could you go to your grandparents? I don't blame you for being scared either it's a very hard world out there but don't give up, stay in school, and pray. You may not see the results right away but prayer goes a long way, it does help, believe me it does help. I wish you the very best.
2007-09-30 22:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have seen your parents go down the wrong road. That can help you to not make the same mistakes. Just remember that you can be successful at anything you are committed to. Being able to accomplish it without the support and guidance of your parents is an even greater task, but one that you will be proud of. Go for it and don't look back! Life is all about choices. Make good ones.
2007-09-30 22:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by moose on the loose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if your plate is full now, don't worry about a boy friend just now. When the time comes if things don't change around your home you have to do whats best for your future. Just keep trying to better your self for you and your sister. I'm sure that you have some family such as a grandmother that you could confide in. I really think a family member such as that could help you, if nothing but some one you can talk with to help clear your mind. We don't choose our parents nor do we chose their lives that they lead. Try to stay in school and make the best grades that you can, maybe you'll get a scholar ship to help you. Good luck!
2007-09-30 22:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be scared. You have to protect you and your sister from having to live on the street. If you speak with your counseler at school about this, They have contacts that may help. You are not responsible for your parents self destruction, and it may come down to you finding somewhere else to live.You can't make them change. You have to worry about you and your future, try to get help for you and your sister.
2007-09-30 22:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember not to let your family life define who you are. Get out as soon as you can. Do you have any relatives who are more stable? And as for schooling, check out Berea College. It's in Kentucky, and offers full schlorships to every accepted student who is willing to hold a job.
2007-09-30 22:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by LunaRossa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have to make Your life better for yourself.
Do You have other family that can help You and take care of you?
Talk with a teacher or someone like that .
They may be of some help.
Good Luck and Take Care .
2007-09-30 22:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scholarships.
I'm sure there are kids in this world who haven't had their parents support with college. If i were you, i would say start saving up your money so that you'll have a little bit to spare when it comes to you needing to go to college.
2007-09-30 22:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl sorry you are having to go thru that with irresponsible parents ! maybe its best that you dont live with them! DO you have good family that will take you in?? or maybe you can talk to a counselor at school and see what help you can get! keep doing good in school and keep your head up!
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-09-30 22:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by nena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋