I find that the hardest job in the world is being a parent. I love my daughter, but never know if I am doing enough.
She lived with her father from age 10 to 15 and is now living with me. I feel sad because I live in another state and she had to leave her friends, etc.
I have put her in ACT review classes and just enrolled her in a tennis class. I have also looked into jewelry making and cake decorating classes because she expressed an interest in them.
I want the best for her. Yet, I feel that pressure . from my ex-husband. I keep deleting the messages that he leaves me because they are ususally abusive and mean.
If she expresses any sadness or unhappiness, he gets upset with me. Also, if she does not get a good grade, I know that he will get upset with me. I am trying to help her as much as possible.
Its a very difficult job being a single parent, but I am trying my best.....Does anyone have any tips?
2007-09-30 14:36:19 · 9 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're doing great. Don't let anything - especially criticism from your ex - bring you down.
You've got a young woman (yes, your daughter) who is lucky to have you on her side, but be aware she's at a point in her life when she's going to be trying her wings and may have some issues with the changes that have happened in her life.
Bottom line: do the best you can and don't beat yourself up for not being perfect. Kids are amazingly resilient. And perceptive. She'll know you're trying in both senses of the word. A little humour helps.
As for your ex-consider where the criticism as coming from and ignore it.
2007-09-30 15:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, but I would think that being a parent is the hardest job in the world. Being a parent means that you are responsible for feeding, bathing, clothing, housing and disciplining another human being that is just as intelligent as you are and thus, capable of creating and getting into things that they shouldn't be.
2007-09-30 14:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kazama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think so. Being a parent sounds like it'll be the hardest job in the world. Especially when your dealing with teens (due to puberty). But what I have seen is that from birth to about 10 years old its easy to make them understand right from wrong. My mom for example, she knows that I can make mistakes at time but she shows me what I can do to prevent it next time. She uses some conflicts that she had when she was a teen and I can relate to that. I guess being patient and offer good advice is key. Once we grow up and leave the house our parents start to miss us, but know that they taught us well and we will continue to go to them for support. Hope this helps.
2016-03-19 02:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a parent is the hardest job in the world. You seem to have her best interests at heart and as a parent that is the best you can do for them. Love her, nurture her, be there for her.
2007-09-30 14:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want to give you a few things to think about.
You are having this girl do four different thing during the week. When do the two of you have to spend time together. Like going shopping or a movie. Try and find something the both of you are interested in so the both of you can be involved. And make sure there is plenty of time to visit each other. And no matter how bad the ex is DO NOT put him down in front of her.
Good luck.
2007-09-30 15:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Atheist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are trying all that you can to be a good parent. Don't worry about what your ex has to say. She's living with you and under your rules. I would talk to her if she"s having problems how about the two of us discussing between ourselves our problems. You cant walk on egg shells the rest of your life with your daughter. If she decides to go back to her father it will only be because she can get her way with him. Children will play parents against each other when coming from a divorced family. Don't fall into that trap. I know you love her very dearly, but don't be used for a pawn.
2007-09-30 14:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your first question YES!!!!
And I am sorry your ex gets upset with you but you could be doing everything perfectly right as a parent and your child could still be unhappy thus making him upset at you so you need to drop that care. In other words just focus on what you believe your daughter needs. She may still be unhappy. That is the worst part. You may never have satisfaction. But just do your best. No one knows how hard it is to be a parent beforehand
2007-09-30 18:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
The hardest job in the world is that crab fishing gig.
Being a parent is a way of life.
2007-09-30 14:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well let me ask you, is your ex your FATHER???
I understand he is your daughter's father but i don't think he is yours... be strong. I am a mother of 5 and believe me they will let you know if your not doing a good job. She just has to adjust, it is a new state, school, friends, and a parent. He is just trying to make you feel like crap because you have her now and he wants you to fail; prove to yourself that you are better than that. At least you care.. and you love her; you are there for her not for him.
Please do not show this fear in front of your daughter she depends on you. Pray every day and take it day by day because it is a learning experience for us too. Before you know it, she is off to college.
P.S.
I wish my MOM cared about my interests...
2007-09-30 14:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, the hard part is being a good parent
2007-09-30 14:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by bobdaMoFobuildr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋