I am a lapsed catholic,i have 2 young children who attend the local catholic primary school,i am not married to my childrens father and dont intend getting married,we are still very happy together and were together long before the kids came along.I,ll admit i got the kids baptised to get them in the school as its a good one,anyway to cut a long story short ive read a book and i feel i want to start going to mass again.
I will not go to confession either,and dont agree with some of the rules of catholism ,but think as the children are at the school i should really go to that particular church.
my question is do you think i will be accepted into the church,or do you think that if i cant live my life completley by the catholic guidelines i shouldn,t be allowed back in?
I want to know what you think as i am quite nervous about asking the priest.Thanks in advance
2007-09-30 14:03:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You will always be welcome to attend Mass at the school's parish. You can also, oh, sing in the choir or join the altar society or whatever if you want to.
You cannot receive the Eucharist until you go to Confession at the very least, which you don't want to do. Please keep an open mind on that -- you may decide you want to go to Confession at some point down the road. Also, you would have to do something about your cohabitation arrangement. Since you have been together so long, is it a common-law marriage? (State laws vary.) If so, it may mean just having your relationship "blessed."
In addition to going to confession and having your relationship blessed, the priest may or may not want you to make a Profession of Faith depending on how long you've been away from the Church.
In the meanwhile, though, since you aren't ready for Confession, you can just go to Mass and school functions. Keep reading books, too, or even better, call the parish office and ask about enrolling in RCIA, which is a free class that teaches catechism to adults. At the very least, it will be a great way to learn what your kids are learning at school.
Welcome back!
2007-10-01 04:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear ... go to Mass. Take your kids.
If you had any idea how many Catholics, for whatever reason, cannot receive the sacraments but go to Mass every Sunday regardless, you'd realize that you are in good company. It is far better to go, and make a spiritual communion if you can't receive the Eucharist, than to stay away. No one seated around you is going to care. You could have been going all along, really. Should you decide that you want to receive Holy Communion again, of course that means going to confession first ... but you can take that one step at a time.
2007-09-30 22:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Clare † 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The priest will probably encourage you to do lots of things I don't think you want to do.
But it sounds like you really don't care that much about the spirituality aspect of things. . .you just want your kids to get a fair shake.
There's no way to predict which way your heart will tend if you go to mass, or confession, or anything like that. Maybe it'll be good for you.
But then again, your reasons for wanting to be accepted sound very petty to me (forgive my forwardness, as i do not know you).
I would say that it couldn't hurt to be honest when you're asked questions, but don't volunteer any info that would put your kids behind the 8-ball.
By the way, nobody can tell you not to show up at church.
2007-09-30 21:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Fourth Line 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nobody, I mean NOBODY, is a real catholic or a real any [insert religion here]. If you want to go to church, then go to church. Who are you there to please though? The congregation? The priest? God? Yourself?
Try paying close attention to the apostles creed and think about what it says since you will be reciting it in church. If you can put up with what it says and really believe that stuff, then you should be happy there. If not, don't go.
2007-09-30 21:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mikey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you fear God, do what is right and love with all you heart, your children and your man, then theres nothing wrong. Im Catholic, my confessions are to almighty God himself-priests are our guidance and representatives but they are human beings. I love God and the church with all my heart but I know that you just can't package your faith into a set of rules. God fills our hearts, souls and minds. If you keep him this way and are sincere, then He is alway with you and understands-we're not perfect, we can only try.
2007-09-30 21:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by knight 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wonderful you will do this for your children,yes you can go back ,do not be nervous.I would not tell Him you do not believe in confession and such,no need for that subject to come up.The Priest most likely will suggest you get you marriage blessed but will not turn away.Best of Luck.
2007-09-30 21:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are welcome to come to Mass, but if you will not confess your sins- including the sin of fornication which you refuse to cease.
You cannot receive the eucharist, you cannot serve as a lector, cantor or exraordinary minister of Holy Communion....because you openly admit to living in a state of objective mortal sin and have no desire to correct that fact.
Get yourself a copy of "10 Stupid Thing Womren Do to Mess up Their Lives."
2007-09-30 22:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think confessing is an essential part of any catholic, so it's something you should think about in order to get accepted.
2007-09-30 21:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by beachbum7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have nothing to fear in asking the priest....He is a servant of God ordained to help Christ's flock in any what that he can.
2007-09-30 21:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by The Cub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋