2007-09-30 13:37:51 · 30 answers · asked by julie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not at all. When you are paying per plate for a dinner, who would want to pay $58 for a plate of food for a kid. (Or whatever the price!). Also, there is nothing more annoying at a wedding for kids to be making noise, crying, singing, and just generally making a fuss. Weddings are no place for kids. The parents should get a babysitter and use the evening as a nice date night.
2007-09-30 13:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Julie H 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am posting without reading other responses first (apologies).
It is your wedding - do what you like. I mean that very sincerely.
If you are worried that there may be some people who won't be able to attend the ceremony for lack of a sitter, maybe you could arrange for a nursery.
Whatever you do, be sure to clarify ages - do not simply say "small children" since that is a phrase loaded with subjectivity.
I hope you find a plan that works well for you. Have a beautiful wedding day! Congratulations!!
2007-09-30 21:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by FourArrows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong. As others have already pointed out, though, this may make it impossible for some people to attend. If there are a lot of little kids in your family, it might be easier to make arrangements for them at the event. My fiance and I are planning on hiring a creche company to come in and use a side room as a nursery during the reception & party, to give the parents a break and the kids somewhere to go for nap or whatever. That way, we're hoping to have a relatively adult night, without everybody having to rush home to relieve the baby sitter, or because little Johnny needs his bed.
In the end, though, it's your day and I'm sure people will understand if you want a more sophisticated affair. Have a great wedding!
2007-09-30 21:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sara K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not wrong at all. Just don't blatantly state "no children" on the invite. Adress the invitation to "Mr. and Mrs. Jones" as opposed to "Jones Family". If you use an RSVP card have check boxes for 0, 1, or 2 are attending, don't let them fill in the number themselves (some people don't get the hint from the way it is addressed and would write in 5). You may want to pay a little extra to hire a a babysitter during the ceremony and reception to watch children in a separate room in case people bring children anyway.
2007-09-30 20:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jordan D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, some folks do not want to have their ceremony upset by children. If however you have folks with small children that you really want to be at your wedding, and not hurting anyones feelings (because there will be some feelings trampled) you could have a sitter provided. Now one other point, do you wish not to have children at the reception? If so, that too would have to be requested. Remember this, most folks with children will be hurt with your request, you will not be able to avoid this. I happen to think that children at a wedding are wonderful. It is the cycle of life, marraige......children.....it;s all part of life. Best wishes, Chaplain Debby
2007-10-02 03:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not at all wrong. It is your wedding day and I can understand if you don't want it overrun with yelling screaming kids. When you do your invitations, put the names of only the people you want attending on them so hopefully they will get the message. Or you could also put on the invite 'adults only reception' then they will know for sure. If anyone gets in a huff that their kids aren't invited just say 'sorry but it is up to us'. If they really hate it, they won't come but then you will know who your real family is - the ones who want to celebrate your wedding regardless. Just make sure you are consistent and pick an age and have no kids under that age.
2007-09-30 22:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it isn't very nice and many people will say if their kids can't attend then neither will they! however having children at the wedding is no problem, it doesn't cost anything to have them at the church - right? as for having them at the reception, here is what one of our kids did:
they had tables set up for the children, spoke to the caterer and asked if he could do a child's plate at a child's rate - and yes he could, would, and did! it worked out beautifully - the children had a choice between a smaller version of the adult's meal or spaghetti and meatballs! they loved it!
we then had a room in the hotel set aside for the children to go to after dinner - we had 'sitters' there with all manner of goodies to keep the kidlets occupied - that way there was no alcohol around the kids, [a pet peeve of mine], and the parents could pop in and out and check on their brood as they pleased! hope this helped! have a lovely wedding!
2007-10-04 19:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your wedding and that's your decision, but to keep the Peace with family and friends how about providing a nursery for them while the ceremony and reception goes on. Just let everyone know that a nursery will be provided for children up to a certain age and that its your wish that children please go to a certain area of the church before the wedding starts. People shouldn't be offended if you offer this service instead.
2007-09-30 22:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you if you want children at your wedding or not. Personally, I think a wedding should be a "family and friends" gathering. I wouldn't think of not inviting my family's and friend's children to a wedding. A wedding should be celebrated with those closest to us and that would have to include children.
That's just my personal opinion and I know a lot of people disagree with this, but be prepared to have some people not show up because they can't bring their kids along to share in the celebration.
2007-09-30 21:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Darlene mouse 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. Everyone knows that small children can get out of hand. I was at a wedding this summer where the bride's little adopted sister was so loud and running around that no one could even hear the ceremony or even see the bride and groom at times. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage.
2007-09-30 20:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jodi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋