I have been with my ex for almost four years we have a 1 year old baby together. Over the last week he hit me and i broke up with him now, hes begging me to come back and telling me how he has changed and how i never gave him a second chance. My parents and friends all say no but they dont know him like i do i just really need some advice i dont have a clue what to do if i do go back with him then i will loose all of my friends and family and if i dont am i missing out on a good thing can someone really change after only 14 days
2007-09-30 13:37:21 · 5 answers · asked by PiXiE LuLu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first off, i'm happy to hear you told people that he hit you. when a man hits or abuses you in anyway ALWAYS tell someone. that there decreases his chances of doing it again because men like the keep that stuff secret.
in terms of being with him, since you have a child, i would consider getting back together with him, but i would tell him that if he hits you again, you're outtie for good. and TELL HIM THAT YOU TOLD PEOPLE.
that way he knows if he does it again you have a complete support system.
2007-09-30 13:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Original_Syn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been going through this with my daughter, she went back, guess what happened? As what many women can attest to it happened again. And it will happen to you again, and again, no you are the one that does not know him because you are blinded, or controlled by him.Your friends and family see it through a clear mind. My daughter finally left and is stronger, happier and healthier than she has been in quite some time, and I know this because her friends have commented on it. and she told us. Please listen to your friends and your family this guy is a controlling POS who will do this time and time again, I have seen it with my own daughter. Get away, get strong, then hit him with support as you will need that. Accept your family's and friends help and views as the truth. Bet he always blames everything on you right? Drinks does drugs right? Hard time holding a job, or is in trouble in it but blames them right? A;ways an excuse, and a blame for someone else, you will never change him and he will always abuse you. or blame you for his own faults. Save yourself, save you child since they will see the same effect.
2007-09-30 20:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people can change, but most men who hit women only change for the worse. Unless he has been going through intensive counseling, he hasn't changed. If you want to work on a relationship with him, demand that he begin counseling for anger management and domestic violence and you both should go to couples counseling. If he isn't willing to do these things, then he isn't willing to change and his violence will only get worse. Good Luck.
2007-09-30 20:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by seniorchiefretired 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT GO BACK!they always say that,and then a couple days later he hits again...But becareful,he is dangerous...
2007-09-30 21:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by samantha_mora_13 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to go. There's NO excuse for laying his hands on you. I'm sure he's not the only "good" thing out there.
2007-09-30 20:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by SorryI'maChampion 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋