2007-09-30 13:18:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
More details please.
What is going on regarding them butting heads?
Can't say anything without more information.
I feel the father should respect what the bride wants, as long as it is within reason... i.e. she wants $50 favors for each person and 500 are attending... that is unreasonable. If its that he wants someone to be in the wedding party and she does not, then he is being unreasonable.
2007-10-01 07:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father of the bride wants to do the best he can for his daughter but the bride must be realistic. If she is old enough to marry she has an idea of her family's financial situation. She should also remember that the wedding is just one day and no one should go deep into debt for sake of some friviolus things. The wedding is not about the clothes or decorations or flowers anyway.
2007-09-30 13:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly women have ideas about just what they want their wedding to be like. But these ideas shouldn't happen at the expense of the financial wellbeing of their parents. If a bride is selfish enough not to realize this, perhaps she's not mature enough to get married. That being said, if I were involved (presumably as the mother of the bride? just guessing from your name there), I'd sit the girl down and calmly explain the financial situation, explain that no one's trying to ruin her day and, in fact, you're prepared to make it as special and as close to what she wants as possible, and tell her that, unless she's prepared to foot part of the bill, the budget stands.
2007-10-04 12:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by July 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride 2 b should not b unrealistic. If she knows that there is a limit 2 the money than she should not go overboard and believe me I understand that it is her day, but do u want 2 go into a marriage being broke? If the money is not available just use what is available then later renew ur vows.
2007-09-30 13:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Dad for the amount he is willing and able to contribute to your wedding. Make it reasonable. If he has no money or savings and a low paying job, you know he isn't going to give you $20,000 no matter what he says. Then decide what you will do. Will you work and earn more to put with it? Will your fiance help pay? Will his family help pay for the reception? Remember a nice wedding isn't about what it cost, it is about if everyone has a great time. You can be creative on a budget.
2007-09-30 13:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You remind them that though they each have a separate "duty" in the wedding planning, that the purpose of the wedding is to celebrate the love between the bride, groom, and their families....not to argue about petty dilemmas.
Good luck :)
2007-09-30 13:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like what daddy can afford then get a job and buy it yourself.
Why would you want to drive your father into debt for years so your can drag your sorry butt down a church isle to get married.
He is not a HOLLY WOOD PRODUCER and YOUR NO MOVIE STARR.
2007-10-04 13:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by dadw5boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋