Ok.So i go through my girls backpacks.(11 yrs old,twins),
To make sure they have pencils,pens...
They are in the 6th grade.
All of a sudden,I found a note that said:
Dear Adrianna,
You are My Soul,
And My Love.
You make me want to hug and kiss you
and we can ''Do it''.
Love
Brendan.
My other girls said:
Dear Alyssa,
You make me want to do it with you
and love you like crazy
thats why
i love you baby
Love Christian.
Is this something that i shall be aware of???
Or is it Cute??
2007-09-30 12:29:02 · 16 answers · asked by Michael-The best daddy of 8 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
If a boy at 11 years old told my daughter that he wanted to "do it" I would contact the parent right away, and make sure I spoke to my girls about sex and being safe. I fell into this situation with my 8 year old.
2007-09-30 12:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by beach mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, That is not cute. When I was in 6th grade, I knew exactly what sex was, even though I grew up very sheltered. Now it is common to have a baby by Jr High. You need to sit down with your kids, and explain why this is wrong, the consequences of sex, and why it important to wait until you are grown, Or married.
They will probably get upset that you went thru their belongings, but, oh well, you are the parent, and Im sure you want the best for your children, and want to protect them anyway you can.
2007-10-04 17:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by kiki72404 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not cute. Might be to them but they havent seen what we have or know what can and will happen.
You didnt ask about ideas on what to do so I'm not gonna butt in. But oh no thats definately not the path I would want my kids to be travelin down. Way too young at 11.
Sets off all sorts of warning bells doesnt it...
I think they are innocent in this and we all know the schools are filled with differently moraled creatures but still I'd want to head it off at the pass both ways but gently so that you dont come off as a jerk to them.
2007-09-30 21:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by sarat0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children today have so much access to information that they did not have when we were younger. With that comes a greater awareness of the world around them and at a younger age. It is probably harmless (I freaked out when a girl said the same thing to my son - although it freaked him out and he told me). What you found is an opportunity to talk to your girls about sex. Its time to tell them about your values, abstitence and safe sex. It is not too early as apparently they are already being exposed to the concept. It shouldn't be a lecture in tone, it should be open supportive dialogue.
2007-09-30 23:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Helen A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, tell your daughters that you weren't snooping through their things, but you just happened to find these notes and you are concerned about what is in them. At 11 years old don't make them feel that their growing feelings are "wrong" but that you don't think it's appropriate for any boy to be saying he wants to "do it" with them, as that is a much more mature interaction then they are ready for. Ask them if they have any questions about what they are feeling, or what was written to them, and be open and honest with them.
2007-09-30 20:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not cute and very scary. Unfortunately boys (now days) come into contact with sex or sexual acts around 9 years old! You should take this very seriously and talk with not yell at your girls and set an appointment with the parents of the boys.
2007-09-30 19:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by kateelee20 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your girls about it.
Don't try to be ignorant. You know what "do it" means if you are a father of 4 with a 5th on the way.
Kids are growing up with less and less guidelines as far as sex and things, and are experimenting at a younger age and so on.
Let your kids know that you are concerned because you care and that they should wait until they are at an appropriate age for that.
(By the way...congratulations about your 5th child! : ) )
2007-09-30 19:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by iLoveHugs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 12 and he would never write the words "do it". You have the kids names, I suggest you find the parents and discuss with them. While kids this age are starting to have opposite sex relationships, this seems a little extreme. Are you sure this isn't in some girls handwriting as a prank??
2007-10-01 00:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sixth grade the hormones are kicking in and I would be aware of it, it's not cute at all. It would be cute if they were in 1st grade, but know is the time when the attraction to boys and boys attracted to girls start. Be cautious.
2007-10-04 14:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girls are in grade 6,thats not cute at all,thats something you should be aware of.It's ok for your daughters to maybe have crushes on these boys,but grose love notes is going to far.My advice is talk to them.
2007-09-30 19:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by roxy636 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋