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I, as I said, am an assistant intructor to the junior karate students. One of the students in the class I assist has a problem that all Senseis have observed. basically, this student expresses bordom by attempting to kill himself. If I had to put an age on this student, I'd say he's about 6 or 7. Now obviously at this age he does not know how to kill himself and it is not yet a major concern (the parents are aware of this problem). I fear as he gets older, this will become a major concern. He gets frustrated very easily I try to talk him through it, but being a girl, he doesn't really understand where I'm coming from (he, being so young, understands the viewpoints of the guys) If he can't do simple things as good as the higher ranks, he gets frustated and begins this killing himself syndrome, of course we tell him to stop, it's just I feel for this kid and I am becoming unsure of how to deal with this problem; any suggestions? Thank you.

2007-09-30 12:02:50 · 7 answers · asked by simplebutsweet 2 in Sports Martial Arts

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It sounds similar to the old "I'm going to hold my breath till I die" threat which some kids use. The cure? When they start holding their breath.....the parents just walk away. If the kid holds his breath long enough to pass out, he wakes up breathing fine. Pretty soon the kid learns that no one is buying this routine and the stop using it. It's called "crying wolf".

You say the parents are aware of it. How do they handle it? Ask them about it.

Next time he begins the killing himself syndrome...walk away. He is just doing it to get attention...and you are feeding the problem by lavishing attention on him when he does it. Soon he will realize that if he is going to get any attention from you, he needs to act in a different way.

2007-09-30 12:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 3 1

i'm unsure in case you have a question, yet whilst so, you replied it your self: somebody "very uncomfortable in front of a variety" is "no longer decrease out to coach." it is not a judgment on your daughter in any respect; that's a fact of fact. this would additionally be a difficulty the place she's no longer waiting for coaching at this element in her existence/adulthood/psychosocial progression. i'm unsure how lots Toastmasters will coach her the thank you to command administration of a lecture room. severe college youngsters are brutal, unforgiving, fantastically severe and judgmental. It does not be an identical ingredient. She might decide to look into study positions at universities or companies, or she might decide to objective tutoring in my view or small communities, if she's nevertheless fascinated in coaching. a question that's recommended to ask her, although, is how fascinated is she in coaching? If her answer is non-committal or obscure, study it as "no pastime"; evaluate that in step with probability she's doing this to thrill you. and that's somebody who, despite if she passes pupil coaching returned, will "fail" her first year on the activity, whilst she'll have much greater duty and much less help than she had on an identical time as pupil coaching.

2016-10-10 01:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

This is fear of failure. The child projects ahead in his mind and concludes that he is going to fail so tries to remove himself from the challenge. He has not yet learned that skill is learned one step at a time. Draw a chart for him with steps. Each step has one exercise on it. When he can do that exercise correctly then he can move to the next one. He needs a visual aid to show his progress not the progress of adults. Good Luck

2007-09-30 19:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Pure Star 4 · 0 0

It is irresponsible of the owner/lead instructor not to speak to the parents about this.

2007-09-30 14:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

push ups till he stops> every class> every time

2007-09-30 15:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

Maybe it should be the parents concern. If he has this problem it should be up to the parents to do what they need.

2007-09-30 12:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

bet better and practice

2007-09-30 12:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by dominator1 3 · 0 1

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