an old girlfriend hugs me to congratulate me by my wedding and my girlfriend cancelled the wedding without a reason. what I can do? she does not want to listen to me. Why she don't trust in me?. I agree answers in english, french and spanish
2007-09-30 11:56:21 · 11 answers · asked by MawsCM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I understand that you may be going through a hard time right now. However, maybe you can use this time to figure out if you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who is extremely jealous and not capable of listening to your side of the story! Best of luck!
2007-09-30 12:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by dreamer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to have some serious talks and figure out why he feels like he does. Maybe it's for the best. You said that you've been fighting more. That might be a factor that concerns him, and he has every right to stand up for his feelings. If you truly love him, then don't crucify him here. Be a lady and listen to his feelings. Figure out what the problem is and work together to make things better. It's going to take patience on both of your parts. You've going to have to listen to each other. But this can help you grow closer together and let you know if the two of you can work through issues as a couple. If not, then it's better to find it out now than 5 years after the wedding. And you're acting normal. You deserve to cry. Right now, I'd see if there is any rush to cancel your vendors. (Such as: do you have to cancel by a certain date to get a bigger refund? If so, and those dates are near, I'd cancel those. With the vendors that don't matter because you've already possibly lost money, I'd hold off. You never know what will happen two or three weeks from now. Your fiance may be terrified for some reason right now, but if you're willing to work together with him on personal issues and questions, he might decide that he had no reason to feel like he did. The wedding might be on. Who knows? Just be kind and give him a chance to work through this. And it's okay to cry. He has to expect that. I'd try to keep from uncontrollable weeping in his presence if possible, because you want to be able to talk. But he has to expect a certain amount of crying. But he also needs to understand that he can't "fix" your crying, and please don't try to put him on a guilt trip. You want a healthy marriage, not one where the guy is afraid to make you cry. Hope this makes sense. I'm so sorry, and know this is so hard. Just take it one day at a time. You'll make it!
2016-05-17 13:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was nothing more than a simple hug of congratulations and your girl friend called off the wedding you should consider yourself lucky because she is not the one to marry andyou are better off.
2007-09-30 14:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's sad. Unfortunate. Wait a bit for her to cool down. Explain things to her. I believe if she doesn't snap back to her former self shortly, that is your sign that the wedding was never a good idea anyway. She sounds stubborn, inflexible and inclined to jump to conclusions. You don't want to marry that.
2007-09-30 12:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Vincent Van Jessup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry...this doesn't make sense...if that's all that happened she's being unreasonable and didn't want to marry you in the first place..is she really jealous of your ex....if you have done nothing....continue to talk to her if you want to marry her but if she really doesn't want to be with you there's nothing you can do...
Don't give up easily!!!! God Bless
2007-09-30 12:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by Moza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why... it doesn't really make sense to me, she should trust you if you were going 2 get married.
2007-09-30 11:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl sounds extremely insecure. You need to talk to HER to find out why she canceled.
If you can't talk to her then it is a GOOD thing that she canceled it.
2007-09-30 13:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are getting married and she doesn't trust you, she isn't the one for you. I'm sorry.
2007-09-30 12:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has reason to believe that you have been cheating on you, and she does not trust you.
2007-09-30 11:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the groom wasn't right for her, coldfeet, or maybe she found out that the groom slept either w/ the stripper, or one of the bridesmaids, or the maid of honor, or maybe he's gay. It could happen.
2007-09-30 12:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by sol 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋