he spends most of his money on booze and doesnt contribute financially. even HIS friends tell me i can do much better. my family say he's taking advantage. i enjoy being with him, we get on really well. i am starting to wonder if i am missing out on something better /less stressful. when do you decide enough's enough? how will iknow if i can "do better" if i am stuck with someone who doesnt deserve me?
2007-09-30 11:48:03 · 20 answers · asked by jay dee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I remember when everyone was saying the same thing to me... In all honesty I didn't care what they were saying because I went with my heart.
Only you will know when enough is enough as you will no longer question your feelings, you will take action and end it. No one knowes how he is towards you when you're both alone away from them. You obviously see something in him they don't. hence the saying 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'
I'm sure you are wise enough to know what you want and don;t want. But don't do something you will later regret in life.
If you strongly feel like you can find someone who can treat you better then do the right thing and end it before entering something else.
Good Luck
2007-09-30 11:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by June 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know in your heart that he doesn't deserve you than you have answered the question for yourself. Money isn't everything but it does make life alot easier. The men are sopposed to support their women and not the other way around. There is always someone better out there. TRUST ME! I know that breaking up is so hard and it feels like the worst thing in the world but it always gets better and you always find someone new!
2007-09-30 18:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by rubylane711 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...his own family says that you can do better? sure sign that you probably can!
if it's not too awkward, perhaps you can remain friends with him since you two get on well, but as far as boyfriend material is concerned, this guy sounds like a loser.
even if you don't want to totally break up with him, suggest that you two take some time out and date other people. that way, you can see what else is out there.
good luck!
2007-09-30 18:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he respect you? Does he consistently try to improve your life somehow, even just by making you happy on a daily basis? Are you staying with him just because it's the easiest choice, or rather, is it easier to stay and deal with his crap than it would be to break up with him? Does he buy booze because he enjoys drinking, or does he drink to escape from life?
These are just a couple questions to ask yourself and really look within yourself to find the right answer. Only you will know for sure what is right for you, when it comes to love. Good luck. <3
2007-09-30 18:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by Cara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about him.Shouldn't you be thinking less of yourself
and more why he is like this?Ask him why he has to spend in the pub rather than contribute.(peace &quiet)Plus the rest of the questions and answers that you put to others .Rather than him.I know the answers.Because I've been there.Your the problem.Your enjoying the attention and sympathy from no nothings.He'll leave
you and you will be sitting in the bar wondering where your narrow little world went wrong.
2007-09-30 19:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by angler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear, only you can make that decision?no-one deserves to be taken advantage of.and maybe your friends and family see more than you, they are on the outside looking in, sometimes they get a better picture of whats going on?you deserved to be loved and cherished.he should treat you like a queen,if you don't like how he's treating you, my dear it will get worse with time,if he can get away with-stuff , he will and it will continue to get worse.your just lucky your finding out now, before you get married or have kids?you will know when you've had enough, and don't be scared, you deserve the best,go find him!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-30 18:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never a good time to end a relationship, but if his own friends are telling you he is no good, then surely you should take the hint. How long are you prepared to let him treat you like this. Life is too short to be unhappy. I'd rather be on my own then be miserable with a loser.
2007-10-01 12:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by lovely_blondelocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just sounds like a normal bloke to be honest. if you get on really well and have a complaint or two to keep you happy, great. you are now a complete couple. as for his friends they probably just want into your pants especially as you are goodlooking.
Its completely normal to think the way you do and if you didnt then your fella should worry.
2007-09-30 20:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously if you don't absolutely LOVE him to death and you can think of many ways that he's not good for you and if everybody telling you he's not good for you then you know it's true! You should find somebody that is so perfect you can't really find anything wrong with him.
2007-09-30 18:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by Pixyydust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on now and put him down to an unfortunate waste of your time, a mistake. Mistakes are just another name for Experience.
Good Luck now.
2007-09-30 19:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by mailliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋