Feel like i can't win sometimes?

Question

Just so frustrated that i give so much to people.I'm not perfect and have many flaws,but the onl thing i get in return sometimes is slandering people jumping down my throat,and if i have legitimate skills or ability in something people doubt it.There;'s times where i've rubbed people wrong like everyone else,but i only respond when someone is blatantly malicious towards me.Don't know what to do at times,which is why i prefer being a loner.But it just hurts so much because i've been through so much in my life(legitimate hard experiences)and it seems that no mater how hard i try to be a good person with strong values and integrity,it just seems to backfire.I just feel like withdrawing myself at times which is what i do,and seem to always havemy guard up.It's frustrating for me right now,and maybe i'm taking things too too seriously,but,again it just seems like i can't win with people.

Answer 1

Another candidate for the manic depressive brigade ! ! !

Answer 2

I hear you Marvin, and I'm not just blowing sunshine up your ### when I tell you that you are not alone.

Sometimes in life it feels like everything is wrong, that everyone around you doesn't care, that everything you do is screwed up and that there is no hope for change. I have been there and so has everyone else who breathes...you are not alone in this.

Try to do something, and I know it sounds corny or cliche, that really works...you have to fake it to make it. In other words, force yoruself to smile, to see the tiniest positive thing in everyone and every situation & grab it like it is your life-line...because it is. The longer and more often you do this, believe it now or not, your focus will change & things won't seem so intense.

I am not, by any means, suggesting that what you are feeling/experiencing right now is all in your head, because I'm sure it isn't. Life & people just suck sometimes. Your positive frame of mind will help you to deal with the suckiness and to make the necessary changes you need to make for yourself.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Only give to people who deserve it as a whole. If those people only bring you down, then leave them be. I am guessing this has something to do with work, right? Or your friends?

Some people are only looking out for themselves. Then you come along and actually care about others, right? But here is the thing...that doesn't change them. As humans, we assume that other people think like we do. In reality, that is definately not the case.

Be proud of who you are. There needs to be more people who are less selfish. Life is not fair, and you don't always get back what you give, but you never know the impact you are making.

Answer 4

Alright, you're able to admit to the natural human flaws. What I suggest is that you take time to reevaluate whom you spend time with, and think if it is really necessary for you to say anything just because you think you should. Sometimes, you have to keep it to yourself no matter how much you want to say something. It is not always necessary to speak. Just because you think one thing is one way, others have the right to not agree with you. Put it simply, if you know someone is going to jump on you, say nothing. Don't ask the question, don't make the comment, just let it go. You don't have to correct everyone, just worry about yourself. You don't have to be alone all of the time, just be more cautious of who you spend time with. Try to be around people more like yourself so that you can have conversations and discussions rather than arguments or attacks.

Answer 5

You are being extra hard on yourself. You also seem to be taking on a constant victim role. Get into a good counselor so you can work through all your issues and find a way to take on a different role in life. Once you see that everyone is not out to hurt you or get you, your life will take a decidedly happier path. And you will find a better way to approach people so you don't slide into the victim role.

Answer 6

For all those out there that are hard on you, there must be those that appreciate you and your help, stick with them, dont let the others pull you down to their level. Stay strong,and dont walk about in victim mode then you wont be a victim, Be Happy, Enjoy, and be Confident

Answer 7

Don't give in. Stand up and be counted. If you are in the right stick up for yourself if not then say sorry and withdraw gracefully. You are just as good as the next if not a wee bit better, so chin up and keep smiling.
love
Dot x

Answer 8

i have spent a lot of my life trying to prove my self to the world, just like you.

now i have learned that you can not please everyone. i'm serious, it's impossible.

so i have learned to do things that i am proud of. i do things that are going to make me happy. all the accomplishments that i have made i am extremely proud of my self for doing it and will pat my self on my own back.

if i mess up? i take full resposibility. never do i bash my self for error. what i do is recognize the error and why it was an error then do my best to rectify it.

in the process of living my life. in the process of striving to be the best person that i my self can be proud of, people begin to take notice.

it feels great to know that others are taking notice. but, i dont sum my self up by what others say or do to compliment me. i just say thank you. and then continue on with pleasing me.

i know that sometimes people wont take notice of the things that i'm doing to be proud of me. and sooo what.

when you start putting your self in the center of your life by still being kind to other you start to see things in a whole new different light.

your life if not for others entertainment. you are your own person and out to please your self. and this is the way it goes.

i'm not saying to be egotisical and start putting others down. i'm just saying stop trying to please others fishing for attention.

give your self the attention that you need.

i use to thrive in my life for my ex. then, wondered why arent i happy. i learned that know one can give you enough attention that you need other then you. they are occupied with there own life. maybe you do get pats on the back. but, its not at the hight of expression that you need. but, i'm sorry you will never get the reaction that you need from other. you have to be that person.

i hope this was helpful

Answer 9

dont be so hard on yourself nobody in the world can win all the time
i sometimes withdraw from the world when i am feeling low , i call it licking my wounds
your just the same as everybody else , with flaws and insecurities

Answer 10

Marvin you sound a bit depressed. Perhaps you are to hard on your self. You may need some counselling of sorts. Perhaps you could go to your doctor and talk about your needs.