What do you do when...?

Question

you know you are not properly fat eg.obese or overweight etc in fat you are at the low end of normal but you can obviously see that you are bigger than your friends know question even though they eat twice as much as you?

When you feel so fat that everyday it is the only thing you think about but you can't talk about it because your skinny riends just sit around you with their chocolate telling you are being stupid and you thin away even though you obviously are?

When you stand in your dance class in your leotard looking at how everyone there is half your size and the fat is bulging out the sides?

And even when you don't eat you stay fat and when you do you want to throw up so bad it hurts?
i hate it and i can't bear it any more!

Answer 1

don,t eat junk food .

Answer 2

First thing, if your friends can't sympathise and help tell them to put it where the sun don't shine and get new friends. Everyone has a different metabolism. When I was younger I had aspirations to play rugby at a serious level and tried desperately to put a couple of stones on so I included all the "wrong" things in my diet. I was six foot five and weighed 13 stone. I hated my body.
Dance is probably not the right form of excercise for you if it's making you self-conscious. My daughter is 11 years old, taller than her mother or mine, pretty face and with a figure an 18 year old would be proud of. Yet I am continually having to convince her she is not fat.

If,as you say,you are not clinically obese, then perhaps you should go for something where your physique is less obvious.
Check out your local health and fitness centres, sports clubs, and find some sort of activity where you don't need to wear a leotard.

From what you say, it sounds as though the problem is not that you are fat, only that you think you are fat and have no respect for your body because of this. And above all start to like yourself for who you are and not what you look like. I only started to do that 20 years too late and it's a big regret. (Actually I have no regrets any more, but if you want some idea of what I look like, pull up Pierreluigi Collina, football referee, on Google and then put a pair of glasses on him. Did I mention I was half-blind? Stop feeling sorry for yourself and use the only body you're gonna get lass.)

Answer 3

Not eating makes a person fat! Your body thinks it is starving and it is a vicious cycle.
Dancing is a wonderful exercise. Continue to dance and move as much as you can. Exercise will take off weight.

The problem is not how much you eat, but what you eat. Get some books on nutrition to completely understand how and what you eat effects your body.

Eat lots of vegetables and fruits. Completely avoid junk food. Do not drink sodas. Sodas are full of sugar. There are about 16 teaspoons in one small bottle of coke. Sugar puts on fat. Eat when you are hungry, but avoid all junk food. Do not eats chips, pretzels, corn curls, etc. In your studies, find out what REAL food is. Eat real food only and continue to exercise.
Dance your heart out. Laugh, sing, play, stay active. Do not just sit around being a couch potato. Move!!! Keep moving throughout the day. Eat the way I am telling you and soon you will be beautiful.
Best wishes for a beautiful body and a happy life.

Answer 4

Of course I can't be sure as I have not seen you but from what you say I strongly suspect you may be suffering from Body Dysmorphic Disorder. This is a condition where your perception of what your body is like is not in line with what it is really like.

Test this by asking a few people you trust what you are like physically. Don't ask your close friends or family as you will not trust their answers, they could be lying because they love you. Ask for instance the Phys Ed teacher at your school, your doctor, the school counsellor perhaps, any adult you trust. If they all say that you are not fat then my suspicion is probably correct and you should RUN NOT WALK to your doctor. If you do have BDI it can result in starving yourself actually to death, it leads to anorexia and has killed many young people. Get real help right away.

If the people you ask do say you are fat then of course by all means go to your doctor for help with that. But I bet that won't happen.

Answer 5

I'm not that big but I think I could loose some fat so im going to awnser. I would try working out at the gym but if youre not the work out type try going on a diet so that you dont put on eny more weght but the fat you gained you will grow in to it and once youve grown in to that baby fat try a 1mile walk every day and you should be fine and some fries are always ok every now and then but not every day. Hope that awnser's or at least gave you an idea.

Answer 6

Ok, first relax. If you are happy with your body, then you don't have to do anything, it is their problem, not yours. If you are unhappy, two quick things, drink lots and lots of milk. It will fill your belly faster than food, and you will feel full and not eat as much. Secondly, you will have to become more physically active, it is the only way to metabolise fat, and get it to go away, that is one reason why you can go without eating and the fat is still there. The only way to get rid of fat is by exercising. You can reduce your fat intake, but that won't make the fat that you already have go away. You may be "out of shape" rather than fat. Again, physical fitness is important not only for your body but for your mind as well. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

You need to understand and recognize the person who made
you - God! And He doen't make junk!
I'm sure that you feel very empy in your heart. And that is
contributing to "comfort eating/binge eating" Your trying to
fill up something only the Lord Jesus can fill. All you really
have to understand is by giving your heart to Him you can
fill that empty places. And he will help you loose weight. Now
we all know it's not going to happen overnight. You must do
this in a way that you won't hurt yourself - comfort food is
anxiety based.If you are single, it often happens and we are
not aware of it. Couseling would work here also - let's find
the "root" of the problem, deal with it and move on - He will
be with you every step of the way! I know - I have lost 62
pounds and I am praising Him all the way!

Answer 8

when people say starving makes you fat, its not true, all it does is store your body fats and retains water, which makes you bloated, and expands your stomach, i just had to tell you that.
you need to get yourself into programs that will help you and give you confidents.
if this bothers you that much then you should do something about it, instead of complaning about it, join a fitness club, eat healthy, and do things right for yourself, dont sit there gazing at your friends and get all green eyed with envy, take control of your situation and get yourself help.
i helped my friend with her weight problem, we work out everyday, she always said, why are you so skinny, i hate you, i got sick of it, she needed a work out buddy, and i love being active so i tagged her along with me, and now she is so happy with herself, and im happy when my friends are happy, set an atmopher thar will give you energy, and comfortness, be happy with yourself, set yourself goals, and stick to them
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good luck

Answer 9

Looking at your other questions, i know that you are bulimic, so these are perfectly normal worries and thoughts for a bulimic.

Have you been to therapy for your Eating Disorder?
If you haven't, then i would recommend it, and if you have, then maybe go back to your GP and ask for another appointment.

Good luck.

Answer 10

aww, that aint good.
id say your probably being too hard on yourself, and not as "Fat" as what you think.
eat healthy , exercise 30 minutes a day, and feel good about yourself; and after that who cares about what you weigh.

your friends might be indulging on crappy food now, but wait until a few years time and it will hit them hard, and they will start piling on the weight..

good luck

Answer 11

Jesus loves you know matter what, learn to love yourself because he loves you. Now if you wanna lose weight drink lots of water and exercise.