i am 21 and i am a virgin. me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and we are thinking about having sex.....does it hurt and what are some hott good tips!!
2007-09-30 10:33:10 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good for you, welcome to the club! hugs ()()()()
As for whether it hurts, yeah, usually it does hurt the girl the first time she has sex, but it isn't important. I think of it as being there just so girls won't start having sex without thinking about the consequences.
The pain fades back quickly to just like a stinging sensation, like you got a small cut on your palm, or broke a blister. Anyway, that's how it was for me, some girls it hurts more, others don't hurt at all. If you are fully aroused and ready for him, it will hurt less.
It's just a distraction anyway, the important part is that he will actually, for real, be INSIDE you. eeek!
Once he penetrates you, hold still for a minute to let the pain dial down a little bit, and then concentrate on how he feels inside you, the incredible warmth of him, the thickness and hard presence up inside you.
woooooo, is it getting hot in here?
Before you start, you should know that, unless you watch porn sometimes, his "equipment" will look very strange to you. Don't be afraid to reach out and explore him gently, and let him explore your body as well. he will respond to your touch. It feels smooth and warm.
after the penetration, you don't have to just lie there and let him jiggle you around like a water balloon full of Jello. Move with him, hold on and rub so your sensations are stimulated. be a partner rather than a target.
2007-10-03 16:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It COULD hurt, depends.... comes down to your perception, but at 21 one, it should feel extremely good, if you ever self-pleasured yourself, if you havn't, theres no telling, just take it easy!!! EXTREMELY SLOW AND EASY! You'll be fine. And confess to your partner your virginity to, if you havn't already. And again take it SLOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can't say that enough, you can't screw slow enough in your situation, tell him that..... ooo and enjoy! ooo before I forget, slowly increase the pace as you feel comfrontable, as far as hot tips go, don't worry about it, its going to get hot enough.....
2007-10-03 10:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋