My father has been going downhill for about a year now, with steadily getting more involved with cocaine. He has started spending his monthly Social Security check (which he would pay the rent with) which is now inevitably forcing me to pay his rent since my mother is still with him. She is incredibly passive and practically helpless.
Just recently he stumbled upon my checkbook and started writing checks to himself to get more money for his drugs. I know that I could press charges on him, but he is 64 years old and I dont want to see him rot away in jail.
Does anyone have any logical advice?
2007-09-30 09:29:15 · 4 answers · asked by Chuck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stop Payment on the checks.
Could you get your mom to stay with you for a while, and then stop paying your father's rent.
This might force the issue and make him want his life and wife back.
The best thing to do would be to talk to the experts. There are support groups for relatives of addicts. Talk to them, and see if your mom will talk to them, too.
2007-09-30 11:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny, i'm in the same position as you, although i'm fifteen and it's my mom and my step dad that are users. they're addicted to pills. i guess i'm going to sound hypocritical giving you advice but i think the best thing for you to do is get your dad help! Any kind of help. it may hurt for you to have to put you're dad in rehab or something but would you rather watch him fuss over that, or walk in a room and find him over dosed. this is the worst feeling. TRUST ME! i've found my grandma and my mom like this before! and some advice from personal experience, he's going to try and tell you he doesnt have a problem, he could quit if he wanted to, or he's gonna say "if you don't take me i promise i'll quit using." it's BS and you need to tell him "Dad, i love you and i can't be sure what you're telling me is the truth so i need you to go to the rehab. For mom and I." And now i guess i should try and take my own advice right?? the problem is where would me and my seven year old sister go?!
2007-09-30 16:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what state you live in but you need to get with social service. Your dad is killing himself, and your mom. She needs to realize that he is not the same person and he needs help.If you have to go to the police ,its better than watching him die a slow death.I'm sure you can get a judge to declare him unstable.He won't rot away in jail ,explain to the judge, they can get him some help. this must be super hard on you mom and taking years off her life. Do whats best for all of you but to do nothing is the crime. Take control it looks to me that it is in your hands
2007-09-30 16:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by gggggg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call cps and get yourself removed from the home until he gets help..or just let him know that that is your plans ans maybe that will scare the pants off him its called "scared straight"
2007-09-30 17:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋