He and I dated online for a few months. He broke up with a girlfriend from his town to date me. He said he'd wait until we could meet in person and see if we had any chemistry together.
After a couple of months he told me he couldn't deal with the distance between us so he broke up with me.
A friend of ours, a girl that seemed to be my friend and who talked to him online everyday after we broke up, is now in love with him and has made the plane trip from her city to his city to tell him that. He told me he does not like her and that if something happens, it will be only a one-night-stand.
So, what do you think of what she did to me? Pretending to be my friend and taking my guy? And what do you think of her going over there? Do you think he's telling me the truth?
She is 28. He is 33, divorced and has a 3 yr. old daughter.
Is this only a booty call or could they be in love and he didn't want to tell me? And, most importantly, should I even CARE about all of this????
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2007-09-30 09:24:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obs: Before he met me online, he had broken up with this same girfriend I mentioned to have a one-night-stand with another woman he met online previously.
So, his timeline looks like this:
1. Dating a girl from his neighborhood
2. Breaks up with her and has a one-night-stand with someone he chatted online for a few weeks. She never calls him back afterwards.
3. He goes back to the girlfriend
4. He breaks up with her to be with me
5. Breaks up with me and goes back to her again
6. Breaks up with her and now is with my former friend who's travelled 1000 miles just to see if he might like her
What in the world do you think of all this? And what's your advice for me? What would be your profile of this man?
2007-09-30 09:28:54 · update #1
By the way, he wrote me an angry email saying goodbye "forever" because my true friends started cussing him out in public. LOL
2007-09-30 09:35:53 · update #2
I guess you can't help it if you care, but they both sound like dirtbags to me and they deserve each other. She will get hurt this time but he probably won't. On other hand, seeing as how in just your short little story he's already dumped at least four women (his wife, ex-girlfriend, you, and soon your "friend") it's clear that he doesn't know how to treat a woman. So someday he's going to meet one he really likes, and he's going to screw it up.
Yay! Everybody's miserable! That's just how life is sometimes. Just count your blessings that you're rid of these two jerks so you'll be free to meet someone who actually deserves you.
2007-09-30 09:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Julie L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot date anyone online, especially if you never met (or met only once). If you were 16, I would get it but in your age? Even if you "dated" each other, your "relationship" was obviously open and he could have dated anyone else. The same thing is to you. You both had no obligations to each other.
Forget about both of them. Your friend betrayed you, and this guy is just playing around. Most importantly, why would you want to be in a long distance relationship anyway? And why do you want a guy with a baggage (an ex wife is a baggage)?? Start dating men in your city and starting today talk to people online from your area only. There are more fish in the ocean. Sorry that you trusted someone who wasn't even your friend.
2007-09-30 09:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses. He's a jerk for even allowing her to come visit him knowing she's your best friend but do remember you were only talking to him online so you "really" don't know him. She's would definately be cut off as a friend when she gets back. Did she know how you felt about him? My brother did the same thing. I was living with him and I hit on a girl at the club who was really into me. She called a few times while I was at work and this piece of shiit started talking to her. I found out because one night he didn't clear the phone and when I asked him about it he said that she was looking for me and needed somone to talk too. Finale was him going to Germany to be with her and had the nerve to tell me about it! I don't even mention his name in my house!
2007-09-30 09:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a booty call. I know you can't help getting emotionally involved even when dating on-line but I think you should count your blessings that this did not go further than just the internet. If I were you, I wouldn't even care. Forget about him. And your supposedly friend is no friend at all. They belong together and she'll get what she deserves. Keep your chin up and smile.
2007-09-30 09:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you've gotten lots of answers on here!
I would stop worrying about this guy. Why are you looking for guys on the internet anyways?! that's creepy. Find one who wants you, is NEAR you, and hasn't broken up with you! much less one who hasn't had a relationship with one of your friends. You should respect yourself more.
2007-09-30 14:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by shoppingal80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard not to care and yes it is probably a booty call. He is probably telling you this so he can have a booty call with both of you. As for her she is no Friend.
2007-09-30 09:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by BOYD H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking they're both out of their minds. Hes just looking for sex on the internet, sorry.
2007-09-30 09:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GET OVER IT HUNNY
AND STOP ONLINE DATING FIND A LOCAL CLUB OR GYM TO MEET PPL AT THIS WAY YOU WONT HAVE THE "LONG DISTANCE" EXCUSE AGAIN GOOD LUCK
2007-09-30 14:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by pcheck57 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her find out for herself, and when she finds out it's just a one night stand, you'll have your revenge.
2007-09-30 09:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg you never even met this man! How do you date online? Please go out and find real people to deal with!
2007-09-30 09:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋