Gave One Of My Friends an Extremely Generous Wedding Gift 3 Months Ago, Didn't Receive A Call Since or A Card.

Question

One of my best friends got married in July. My girlfriend and I gave him, an EXTREMELY GENEROUS gift. I didn't do it to outshine anyone else, but we were close with him and his fiance. The gift was almost too generous. It is now the end of September and I havent heard from him since. We have received no thank you card, and all of my friends have received one, I used to talk to him everyday, now he disappeared, How do I approach this?

The gift was around $1000

Answer 1

at this point call the friend or his mother (if you know her) and ask if the gift was received. my sister had 4 gifts stolen at the wedding. here's the kicker - 3 were stolen outright and one had a different card tucked under ribbon. apparently the person we thought gave it removed the original card and slipped his card in its place! we didn't know it until the givers asked my mom about thank you's.

all you can do is ask.
good luck!

Answer 2

Did you give a gift to receive a thank you note?

I do find it odd that they did not say anything to you, especially with how expensive the gift was.

Call them up and ask them how they are enjoying the gift.

Answer 3

It is a myth that a couple has a year to do their thank-yous. The rule is, someone has a year to give a gift! A thank you should be as prompt as possible.

Of course contact your friend and his wife to inquire. You needn't be too delicate, just ask flat out, did they receive your gift. You have heard nothing from them, you were concerned.

Answer 4

Technically they have a year to acknowledge your gift, but it's really not OK if everyone else has received their thank-you notes.

If you have his email address, then send him a quick note asking if they received your gift - that you were a bit worried that it had gotten mislaid or whatnot. It's entirely possible that something happened to it. This should be enough of a gentle reminder that if they have neglected to send a thank-you that they should do so now.

Answer 5

That is sad and it sounds to me like there is more to it than just the gift.
I would be making a call if you want to salvage the friendship. Sitting around stewing and refusing to make the first step isnt going to work. They might be silly enough to not know what is wrong.
Find out what the problem is before it is too late. Honesty is the best policy here.

Answer 6

i would call and ask. if it's been that long, and everyone else has recieved it, then maybe something happened.

did you personally hand them the gift? sadly at my cousins wedding receptio a few of their gifts were taken.

also, in another family members wedding, some thank you cards were lost in the mail.

if you're that close, they shouldn't be offended if you ask them.

Answer 7

You need to call him and ask. I have heard from a few people about stolen gifts at weddings. You'd probably hate to think your gift was stolen, and if that did happen, he's probably thinking you didn't think enough of them to offer a gift at their wedding...you need to pick up the phone!

Answer 8

just give him a friendly call and ask how the newlyweds are doing and somehow bring up the gift and ask if they liked it. and since you haven't talked to them in awhile you just wanted to talk and go out to eat or something and catch up.

Answer 9

It depends. What was the gift?

Did you send the gift in the mail? (It could have been lost in the mail & might not have recieved it?)

Or did you present it to them yourself?

Answer 10

Call him up ask him how he's doing..act normal and start up a conversation again..and maybe hint at the present once or twice :)