i always have believed that porn is wrong and a sort of cheating... i know that its addicting, and i know that he is addicted... however he said that he quit. and this morning i jsut caught him looking at it again!!! do you think its wrong??? if so, well considering he lied to me asaying that he wasnt looking at it anymore, do you think i should break up with him??? (this isnt the first time ts happened)
2007-09-30 08:20:28 · 53 answers · asked by livinlife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Porn sickens the mind of everyone who watches it. It is cheating, everything starts with the mind, then becomes a desire and thought dwelt on becomes an action. He will start wanting to do what he sees and want more and more of it. It becomes an illness. Yes many people watch porn, that's why it's around. He won't stop watching it even he promises he will until he get professional help. The choice is yours to deal with that or not.
2007-10-01 10:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Porn is not cheating. Period. You can't cheat on anyone all by yourself. Another person must some how be involved. (web-cam, text, e-mail, letters, phone, in person, etc.)
Porn on occasion is not wrong either. Porn is a spice of life where a little goes a long way. If he is doing this as a everyday thing and it is interfering with his quality of life then yes his porn usage is too much.
I do have a problem with lying. That shows what kind of character he really has. Consider that more heavily than the porn usage.
In the end if he doesn't want to stop looking a porn he won't. No matter how much you beg, yell, cajole. etc. His viewing habits are his own. It is your choice if you want to put up with it or move on. Both choices are acceptable. Make the right choice for you.
2007-09-30 08:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't wrong. I look at porn. My dad looks at porn. My brother looks at porn. All of my friends look at porn. Practically every guy I know looks at porn, including the ones who have girlfriends. I think a lot of porn is humorous and I just laugh at it. You need to stop being so controlling. Would you rather have him look at porn, or actually go out and cheat on you with a real girl?? If I had a girlfriend watching over my shoulder telling me what to do all the time, I wouldn't put up with it and I'd end the relationship. A bit part of a healthy relationship is being able to trust each other. If you can't put up with something that is normal guy behavior, you've got serious issues and need to loosen up a bit.
2007-09-30 08:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy looks at porn it can be a form of cheating. Some people don't see anything wrong in porn and then some think that it is cheating. My husband does not like porn and is always saying that it's cheating. Alot of men do look at porn and I know that it can be an addiction. If you do not want your boyfriend to look at porn and it bothers you and he is still doing it then he needs to have respect for you and your relationship. If he is still lying and saying he is not watching porn then you can always break up with him for lying to you. I don't like a person who lies and gets caught in their lies.
2007-09-30 08:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no theres nothing wrong, he has a high sex drive, and he needs to bust a nut quickly to relieve the stress
getting you to give it up, will take talking and a lot of other bullcrap that guys hate to do, plus you might not always be in the mood when he is
cheating would mean if he went out and slept with women, looking is not cheating
when will stupid women learn that porn is a masturbatory aid, a ritual for men who grew up in the generation X on the internet
possibly, for the insecure, never
do what you want, but it'd be very rare to find a dude who DOESN'T look at porn
they are the weird ones nowadays
peace
2007-09-30 11:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Because porn is just a portrayal of a natural fantasy.
We all fantasize about something driving a Ferrari or pitching in the World Series, at the end of the day I know I can't throw a 100 mile an hour fastball or afford a Ferrari.
Also if you discuss the porn with him it might make you better at fulfilling the fantasy.
2007-09-30 08:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Vultureman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Although porn is very disrespectful, degrading, and addicting , it can be a real problem for guys. But the fact that your boyfriend lied to you and said that he had stopped, is a BIG RED FLAG not to trust him. You don't want a boyfriend who will lie to you and then watch other women sexually. Although it may start with something common like porn, who knows what may happen next. Try to find a guy that is more respectful to women than that.
2007-09-30 08:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Laur 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's wrong for your boyfriend to look at porn IF YOU think it's wrong. In other words, find a boyfriend that you can feel right about. I've met women who were also into porn, and so they did not think it was wrong for their boyfriend to look at it. Should a woman like that have a boyfriend that hates the fact that his girlfriend likes porn when he thinks its wrong? No. She should find someone like your soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend, if you get the meaning of what I'm advising you to do. There are millions of available guys in this world, so don't hold on to one that you feel is wrong for you. Don't kid yourself that you'll get a firm commitment out of him to change his ways, either. Change boyfriends rather than try to change this particular boyfriend into a keeper.
2007-09-30 08:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by williamsonworks 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual beings. Not all, but many find it sexually/visually and auditorially stimulating to watch porn. They are wired differently than women. While many of us don't mind watching porn once in a while, many men get off by all that noise and provocativeness right in their face. Personally I think it gets old after a while, they do the same things, say the same thing and I would rather be participating than watching.
2007-09-30 08:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by llselva4 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It this point, the porn is no longer the issue. The issue is the fact that he lied to you. Address that is it is far more serious to a relationship than watching porn
2007-09-30 08:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jim W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋