I am 18 yrs old and a college freshmen. I have a hopeless feeling like I am going to end up alone. I don't have much confidence here at school. It has nothing to do with looks, i believe i am attractive enough, but i feel like i am behind and its too late to catch up. My past dating experience has been very pitiful. I have never been involved in a serious relationship and have never been involved sexually with anyone. I got stuck up on one girl and she ended up braking my heart. I feel like me being a virgin in college has killed my confidence all together. I know its stupid to think like i'm the only one, but i cant shake it from my head. I'm already stuck in a group of friends that consists of hardly any single girls, just like home. Along with depressed moods about my social life, and homesickness, sometimes I feel horrible. I dont want to be a sad, lonely man 20 years from now. I cant see the future getting brighter, pleas give me some assurance or advice. Thank You.
2007-09-30 06:50:42 · 10 answers · asked by rolbeng 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know exactly how you feel. I am 21 years old and I am in the same position as you, but you know what keeps me going? I know that one day someone will love me for who I am, and I am going to live my life as an individual and when I find that special person, I will share my life with them. The worst thing to do is to wait around for someone to come into your life, do your own thing and that special girl will come when you least expect it. Honestly speaking, it is not a bad thing to be a virgin in college, I think it is amazing that you are waiting for that special person, alot of guys nowadays wouldn't do that. I admire you for waiting, it is truly a great quality. Don't be depressed, I know that things will get better for you, it will just take time. Enjoy being single for now and seeing what type of girl you would love to be with. If you need to talk, let me know and I will try the best I can to help you. Good luck.
2007-09-30 07:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you will if you look. you are no different than anyone else,everyone struggles with confidence.you need to get out and make friends just hang out with people you have things in common with.but do not get involved with people who are using drugs or drinking all the time.not having sex is probably a good thing there are too many people who think that they should sleep with everything out there,that is why there are so many cases of HIV or aids ,abortions and babies born to people who do not want them,those things are much worse and there is nothing wrong with waiting till marriage either.everyone has had a broken heart you will be fine.do good in school and go have some fun like skating,bowling,shoot pool or whatever just do it you will find your girl but you have to get off the couch dude!good luck.
2007-09-30 07:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,,imagine this, lonely and paying alimony and child support to some trashy woman who you thought loved you but just wanted to get a paycheck from you. Imagine that the child has been forced to withdraw from being around you due to the lies his mother tells him. Imagine the Government just wants you to keep paying and won't help you connect with your child. The truth is all of these things are happening to me and if I could go back and get my nuts clipped in the 8 th grade I would. Your heart will be broken someday and you will remember that being single without any commitments is not all bad. You need to just go out sometime and you'll get laid. Wear a condom!! get a hooker, lower your "standards and find some girl who feels bad herself.
2007-09-30 07:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
cheer up, life is full of surprises. if you are ready to make some changes in your life and so as finding love then be prepared to take some risk and be ready to gamble. confidence is something that you should achieve on your own, i cannot guarantee or assure you that what the future might hold for you. its you who chooses that path that you wish go. Good luck
2007-09-30 07:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by huggy_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gonna be just fine. Your only 18 and the best years of your life are still ahead of you. Dont let your virginity discourage you from exploring relationships because sex, although important, isnt the ONLY factor in them. Good luck!
2007-09-30 07:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, your fine!
its ideal nowadays, but its not expected in society to be with somone this young. remember that THERE ARE people just like you, and THERE WILL be a time that you're gonna meet one of them.
your confidence seems to be really shatered though, take my advice, take anyone you find ok, dating, sex, whatever. this is just so you're assured that you had a time where you did have someone. it'll come handy as somthing to look back at meaning "you can, and you did do it."
2007-09-30 06:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't care if ur christan or not but u will find the right girl god has it all planed out, just give it some time go through ur life who cares wat others think shes out there and shes waiting 4 u. I know many people who went through the same thing and they got the girl of there dreams. just be ur self.
2007-09-30 06:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by supersexy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just put a smile on your face and enjoy each day. You have lots of time to think about love and sex.
2007-09-30 06:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever, ever, ever in your long legged thoughts, seen a long legged tiger and his long legged tail.
2016-05-17 10:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell NO!! Just kidding just had too say that. Of course you will silly.
2007-09-30 06:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋