ok so i broke up with him because my feelings changed towards him, he wasnt treating me right and always pressuring me, also coz i wanted to get on better with my family and focus on exams.
and he said
"so you''d rathr get on better with your family?"
and i said "yeah"
he was like "wtf, ur a freak" and walked off.
i told him the other reasons too but he only focused on that one.
is getting on better with ur family a good enough reason?
i love my family SO so so much.
i feel bad about it all but after i told him he doesnt even want to be friends.
2007-09-30 04:50:58 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a jerk, and I think he picked the one thing that didn't make sense to him (or that wasnt about him being wrong for you) and focused on that so that he would feel better. I think that wanting to focus on family is a perfectly good reason to end things with him, and I am glad you did. He doesn't seem to have your same values and he obviously isnt a very respectful guy, if he treated you that way.
I think you made the right decision, because any guy who could treat you that way didn't love you the way you deserve to be loved.
2007-09-30 04:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by kari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not a bad reason to break things off with a person.
Your family should come first.
Unless your love for another person is so strong that nothing else matters but that person.
Which doesn't sound like your love was that strong with him, so you did the right thing.
Of course he got mad.
Of course he said some mean things.
Of course he doesn't want to be friends.
He just got his heart broke.
These are always the things we say and do when our heart is broke.
But give it time, once he gets over the hurt, his feelings might change about being friends.
If they don't change, then maybe your relationship with him wasn't as good as you thought it was.
Good luck ;)
2007-09-30 04:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what he thinks. Sounds like he was a moron and you did the right thing by getting rid of him. Family will always be there for you no matter what. I am glad you realize that.
The idiot only heard the family part because he couldn't handle hearing that your feelings for him changed. Probably pissed him off royally. Ha! Oh well--you win some and you lose some.
2007-09-30 04:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared for you than he would be understanding. calling you a freak was way out of line. maybe he is not close to his family and does not understand where you are coming from. I was dating some guy ( and he and i are both 30) and i told him that my mom needed me and i was not going to be there so much or that if my mom (who was very sick) needed something that i would have to be with her. instead of understanding that i needed to be their for my family he got all freaked out. When he said that it was too much for him, i told him to take a long walk off a short pier. My family means the world to me and i hope to find a man who thinks the same way about his own family. You are a smart girl. good for you. forget about the loser. Good luck hunny.
2007-09-30 04:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you did the right thing by telling him how you felt instead of not telling him anything at all.
Secondly, if you feel those things are more important to you right now than your relationship with him, then nobody can tell you that your wrong. No one knows how you feel better than you do.
Thirdly, I wouldn't sweat the situation with him. You obviously have things you want to focus on right now and that other stuff can come later.
Good luck.
2007-09-30 04:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Keith M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a "control freak" who wants to make your decisions for you, including how you spend your time with your family. He might be the jealous type who would cause problems between you and anybody you choose to talk to or associate with. By calling you a "freak" he absolves all responsibility for the failed relationship; you're a "freak" because you want to be with your family as well and not spend all of your time with him. You're a "freak" because you have things in your life that are important to you that aren't him and he doesn't seem willing to give you the space to take care of other things. As I said, he sounds like a "control freak" and you sound like you don't want a "control freak". I wouldn't worry about it. You've explained yourself; it's up to him to be mature enough to accept it. If he cared enough about your feelings he would realize he's been "crowding" you and make an effort to give you some space to take care of other things.
2007-09-30 05:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by The Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family doesn't get along with him and you aren't attached to him enough to demand that your family respect him then you did the right thing. It's not your fault that you aren't interested in him anymore. things simply didn't work out. When you meet the right person, it won't matter if you family likes her/him or not. You'll stand up for the relationship because you love being in it.
2007-09-30 05:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he focused on one reason,and one reason only 'so you'd rather get on better with ur family' Sounds like he wanted to make to make you feel bad instead of you being the freak, In my opinion, he is! And kind of a really bad jerk for hurting you, yet again.I'd blow him off. Guys like him you don't need to waste your time with.
2007-09-30 04:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by don't be a hater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your family doesn't like the guy. They have way, way more invested in you emotionally than the ex, so their opinion should really matter to you. They are looking out for your best interests and the guy is looking out for HIS best interests.
Also, if he doesn't value having solid family relationships, he isn't right for someone like you who DOES value family.
Finally, if he's been pressuring you, that means he really is only interested in himself.
Don't feel bad. Be proud that you were smart enough to get out of a relationship that wasn't right for you.
2007-09-30 04:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by wise old woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's completely unmature for going off like that. Family always come first no matter what. I mean I could've understood him getting mad if you were married or something, because he would have been part of you family then, and that wouldn't have made much since. But he just needs to grow up.
2007-09-30 04:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋