Because of this they've managed to raise a generation of self obsessed, delusional spoiled brats
2007-09-30 04:32:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Uh...sorry "Mommy". I have kids and there's a big differnce between encouraging your kids to do their best and telling them that the are the best.
2007-09-30 04:41:43 · update #1
Hmm...thanks, "Mommy", for another off base comment. You're 0 fer!
2007-09-30 05:08:00 · update #2
It's only wrong to tell your child that they're special if you also lead them to believe that nobody else is. Everyone's child is special - to them.
It's always wrong to tell them they're perfect. There's absolutely no need to tell a child they're the best in order to praise them for doing well or trying hard. Especially if it simply isn't true! Eventually they'll figure out you have been lying to them about them being perfect, and wonder just how much else has been untrue.
2007-09-30 04:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good thing to tell your kids that they are special and perfect the way they are. It helps kids with self esteem. At the same time kids need discipline but that doesn't mean you can't tell them that they are great. It's also extremely important to keep them level-headed by teaching them care and concern for others.
I think many parents don't have a balance. They either go entirely in one direction or in another. For example, they tell their kid that they are perfect, over-protect, and just teach their kids that they are the best. That's not a good thing because no one is 'the best.' That teaches a kid to be cocky.
I don't know if this makes sense.
2007-09-30 11:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong. I know a mother that allows her son to beat the hell out of other children and she remarks how perfect he is for a child. I'm waiting for the day that he hits the wrong child and gets his face smashed in. Of course, she'll be the first one to call the police and sue the family.
We tell our kids that there is no such thing as a perfect child or parent. Every child is special in there own way but giving a child a delusion that they are better than everyone makes them self righteous and stuck up.
2007-09-30 14:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by tercentenary98 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Building a child confidence and sense of self worth is one thing, allowing them to become self obsessed is another.
You may laugh, I weep. Its the greatest injustice there is, to ruin forever the mind of a child, and create a worthless adult from the process.
2007-09-30 11:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think it is. It's not good to raise your kid to think he's better than everyone else, but it's better to give too much encouragement than not enough. I make a point to tell my son every day how much I love him and how proud I am of him, but I don't tell him he's better than everyone else. I've also raised him to know that nobody is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, and that's OK. But really, every parent secretly thinks his or her kid is the best. You'll understand when you have kids, trust me.
*Edit* Maybe you should have mentioned that first. Also, if you read my post, that's what I said - tell them they're special to you, but don't tell them they're better than everyone else. You don't think your kids are special to you? You feel the same way about them as you do about any strange kid you pass in the street? That's kind of sad. Well, you're pretty much ensuring your kids won't be self - obsessed...I'll give you that much...ohhh you gave me a thumbs down I'm SO hurt now!
2007-09-30 11:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by SoBox 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Well, I go to high school and I HATE the girls who think they are better than everyone else... They are so stuck up and bitchy almost everyone hates them... There are 3 girls in particular who have the idea they are better than everyone else... A couple weeks ago one of them got beat up infront of the entire grade for sleeping with someone elses boyfriend and everyone cheered so loud... Her parents bought her a brand new BMW for her 16th birthday, it was white, she complained non-stop that it wasnt pink until they paid for it to be painted...
One of them is so spoiled she has never done her own laundry, never cleaned her own room, never cooked a meal, never washed a dish, never done anything... Her parents bought her a brand new car when she got her drivers lisence and she complained because it wasnt a corvette... And last year she called her mom during class and asked her to bring McDonalds to school because she was hungry, within 10 minutes her mom was there with a burger, fries and a drink... She got mad at her mom because she took too long! She works as a cashier with me at a grocery store and she does hardly anything while she's there, she's rude to customers that come to her till and she refuses to bag their groceries herself, she calls customer service to do it even if they are buying 5 items... Everyone hates her...
The other one of these girls, I have sworn if I EVER see her outside of school I will put her in the hospital... She is so mean to everyone right to their face... She told my friend who was running for student council president that she would never have a chance at winning and she shouldnt even bother running and she walked through the school tearing down her campagn posters... I was ready to curb stomp her... And when I do get my chance, no one will try to help her...
Violence isn't the answer most of the time, but someone has to knock these people off their high horse and I'm not afraid to be the one who does it... Parents who brainwash their kids into thinking their are perfect aren't doing them any favours, they wont make it in the real world because no one else thinks they are perfect and people wont put up with them in a job, they will get fired...
Having said that, parents should teach their kids that they have value in life... My parents raised me teaching me that I'm worthless and going no where in life... All that lead to was alcohol abuse and drug addictions...
There is an in between and thats what parents need to be teaching...
2007-09-30 16:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess if you tell them they are BETTER than another human being, it's wrong. I tell my kids they are the most perfect daughters, lol. I say they are beautiful, so smart, brilliant etc etc. They are emotional spoiled. However, they never think they are MORE beautiful or MORE brilliant than any other kid.
2007-09-30 12:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by plastic 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
um well if you don't tell children how special they are they can grow up feeling unloved and self concious.
but you have to get the right balance other wise you end up with the type of people your on about!
well i spose a lil chuckle at them is okay! :)
2007-09-30 11:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol I dont' think in general its wrong to tell your kids they are great..in fact sometimes its neccesary..BUT I totally undserstand what you mean...I saw a kid hit someone and instead of getting mad or correcting the kid, the momjust sat there and told us that he was a good kid, just misunderstood... :s whats that all about??!
2007-09-30 11:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by Cowgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
moronic? yes. Wrong? Also yes
Someone who will laugh at someone else is also self-obsessed, feeling superior when likely they don't have anything that makes them better than anyone else.
2007-09-30 11:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by Frootbat31 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋