i seriously really want a boyfriend. my friend just got one but thats not why i want one. i need flirting tips and better ways to get their attention. i have my eye on 12 people. i dont want to ask them out because last year i got rejected and he was so mean to me he called me flat chest and big nosed, anorexic toothpick when i was really trying to gain weight! i really want a bf so there would be someone who was always nice to me and ppl would stop telling me no one likes me! how do i know if someone likes me and how can i turn it up a notch?
ps: im in 9th grade.
2007-09-30 03:36:14 · 22 answers · asked by Georgia Peachy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're a $lut sorry. at that age you should be thinking about college and the SAT's and ACT's
2007-09-30 03:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay I was reading your question and when I saw you were in the 9th grade it all made sense....why are you girls so eager to get a boyfriend, what about doing your best in school and having fun??
I see that you are desperate especially if you have your eye on 12 people! That's your problem, narrow that number down! You need to have love for yourself and self-confidence that is what attracts guys to you. Also, the reason why you keep getting rejected is because boys smell that you are desperate. Keep focused on other things besides boys...they are trouble and a whole lot of stress...that you don't need right now. Boys are not serious at the 9th grade so don't waste your time...
2007-09-30 03:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by MadameJazzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is stop worrying about having a boyfriend. If you think it is going to make your life better it won't. You really need to work on yourself first, because if you don't think highly of yourself then how do you think other people are going to see you? I am sure you are a wonderful person and you need to let those qualities shine through and remember this if someone calls you names just chalk it up to them having low self esteem.
In time you will meet someone special but if you are trying to find a boyfriend because your friend has one then you are doing it for the wrong reasons. Cheer up and don't down yourself.
2007-09-30 03:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by ladyfid2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't rush it. it dont' work that way. those 12 guys you got your eye on. yet don't want a mean one. get to know them better. becomes friends and if one of them seems to be really sweet and would make you a good boyfriend, start flirting with him and see how that goes. if he flirts back ask him out, if he doesn't stay friends and go for the next guy you think would be a good bf. but just dont' rush it. its harder than you think most of the time. good luck
2007-09-30 03:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you! You are looking for all the wrong things and will not be happy with who you end up with because of it. Work on liking who YOU are and what you are about. Don't let anything a male person tells you change ONE THING about you, EVER! If a boy~~and they are all boys at this age~~can't like you just as you are, then you don't need him! Instead of hunting a boyfriend, join a school club or two and get involved with a group of kids your age. As the clubs do things together the boys get to know you for who you are on a regular basis and when you least expect it one will fall into your life. IF you go looking for one...and are not happy with who you are to begin with you will be miserable. These middle school years are for having FUN and not for finding a boy.....boys are clueless at this age! Wait for high school.....as in your Junior year til you even think about wanting to hook up with a boy.
2007-09-30 03:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be where boys tend to be and be yourself. That is what you are best at. If you like a boy just talk to him - he may or may not respond in the way you want him to, but at least you ought to give it a try. Oh, and boys often like to be the ones that "conquer" - so make yourself available but don't push things. I am sure that you will eventually have more boys interested in you than you can handle...
Not having large boobs, by the way, should not bother you at all. A lot of boys and men like slim girls.
2007-09-30 03:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't get a boyfriend, what will happen? Will you turn into a pile of sugar? Why the desperation? This may sound strange, but the less your looking, the more your noticed!
WOW!! 9th grade problems......I'm glad mine are gone!!
Have a good'un!!
2007-09-30 03:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by david 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it if the guy you described talked to you like that he sounds like a total so thank god you didn't date the guy I'm in the 10th grade what you need to be worrying about your freshman year is your grades don't think so much about relation ships right now they cause way to many problems.....for ex. i have a friend that got a girl friend its like i don't even know him any more his totally changed and his mostly complaining a lot.....so any ways enjoy your time being single because as soon as you get a bf you may not have that much time for yourself for a while.......and its not all about looks its about personality like me this one girl was really into me and she was hot but i really hated the way she acted so its really most about personality.
2007-09-30 03:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by Whats His Face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only in Grade 9, it sounds like the boys in your area, are not very nice. You don't need a boyfriend. Your still too young.
2007-09-30 03:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are yo even worried!! girl!! I didnt even have my first kiss till i was 18 and im not even ugly !! dont worry yourself with thing like a boyfriend youre young have fun!! It may seem cool to have a bofriend but for me having a girlfriend was crap!! and at your age the boys are so immature and will proably break your heart!! Boys are hurtful dont isten to them you have youre friends and family and they wil always accept you!! go out and have fun and when he comes he will come
2007-09-30 03:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear, what I can advice you is that:
Firstly, you are not ugly because anyone is unique in one way or another, just proud of yourself and hook out.
Don't ask guys out they should ask you out.
Just socialise alot and you will see things work out.
Lastly, you are still young don't be in a rush, study hard, us guys we like brilliant girls/ladies.
2007-09-30 03:44:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋