Calling out to .........?

Question

OK so my ex Chris.V posted a question that was saying that i'm a *****, and that i dont let him see his daughter etc.
he needs to realize that not only did he leave me, which hurt alot at the time, but he also left his DAUGHTER, and called her a mistake.She definetly was not a mistake just an unplanned blessing. I mean he hasn't been in her life for 2 1/2 years, and when he finally asked to see her its not like i denied him that. I am trying to give him a chance but he needs to realize what he did.
I ask you people this : what should i do if he takes me to court for visitation rights?

Answer 1

You keep track of all these things that are written down, and give them to your lawyer as proof that he is an unfit parent.

If you can get him to admit in writing that to him she is a mistake, that certainly would seal the deal.

But either way, you get a lawyer and you fight for what you know is right.

Answer 2

I don't know what the law is like where you live, but where I am, unless the child is in danger, then parents have absolute rights to visitation and the judges are more likely than not to give 50-50 time, which is scary when you have a young child because that's a lot of upheaval in someone's life. I agree with the previous writer that although this is totally unfair, you have to let him see his daughter even though it tears you up inside. As long as you don't have any concerns about her safety, work with your ex to set up a visitation plan that's reasonable. Trust me (speaking from experience), you don't want to go to court. The lawyers are just going to bleed you dry and it will be a painful and gut-wrenching experience to go through and in the end, you won't get what you want anyway. Work with him, let him see her for short periods of time at first and then work your way up. It's in your best interests to keep as amiable relationship as possible with him. Good luck!

Answer 3

Let him see her only under supervision. I mean he does think she's a "mistake." A man is less than a man to call a child a mistake. What makes him feel like he can abandon her for 2 1/2 years and come back? Does she even remember him? That's a pure shame. Matter of fact, let him see her once a week for an hour, and for whoever's supervising, let them make sure that you don't come up in the conversation. He got the nerves to call a child a mistake. He hardly needs to see her. These kind of situations pisses me off.

Answer 4

Well I hate to say this, but it's JMO, but by you 'calling him out' shows just how immature you are too. We can figure out that he's immature by his lack of parental responsibilities. But now you're doing the same on the internet to a bunch of strangers.

In regard to his parental rights, he DOES have a right to see his child. You may not agree with it, but it's up to a family court judge to decide. Protect yourself and protect your child with legal representation. The court may even assign a court appointed attorney to act on behalf of the child. Unless he signs off his parental rights, he is still the father. Perhaps that is a bargaining tool to get him out of your life. Ask your attorney how to get him to relinquish parental rights. But he does have a right to fight you in court. Basically, anyone can sue anyone, over any issue, at any time. It's up to the court to decide if there is a case or not.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

your pain belongs to you and not your daughter. so don't make her suffer for your differences with your x. Let him see her and invite him over and let them talk there in your house where you have control over him then if he want to see her once in a while you have him work it around you time and not his. If you go to court then you have someone else telling you what you have to do and you don't want that so take control and own the moment