I cant ask him out.he shld ask me..there r reasons behind this niot becoz i'm feeling shy! pls help
2007-09-30 02:53:39 · 29 answers · asked by kewl me! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all you can not make someone love you and just why can't you ask him out get over that if you don't put your self out there then you are going to be seating back and wondering what could've: what could've happen what could've been you will never know if he could have loved you if you don't just get over your fear of putting yourself out there and go for it yes that is a risk but to find the true right one and true love that is a risk we all have to take and this is from a 38 year old who has had her heart riped out and stomped on more than once but finally found someone who was willing to break down the walls. you can ask him and can be yourself and he will like you and then if it is suppose to be he love you if not he is an total idiot good luck and let us know
2007-09-30 03:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by etta lenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone love you...this is impossible.
Your asking the impossible.
Love, is something that takes time and cannot be accomplished over-night.
There a people who have been married and question their own love to one another? As time goes on, if it is not love..(on both sides of the coin) then it will result in a divorce. This is unfair for the person who may really be in love in the relationship.
2007-09-30 09:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you make eye contact with him letting him know your interested. He should make a move if he likes you. If he's not interested, then he not going to ask you out. It's obvious when a guy likes you because they will tell you. Guys are way more simple and direct than girls. They just blurt it out, and if they are shy they 'll hover around you. Joke with you a lot and become your friend.
2007-09-30 10:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tarrimarie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Double check with yourself that you really want to go out with this guy. It will crush him if you break up with him right away if you do manage to go out. But, don't drag on a breakup. The longer you wait, the harder it will be for the both of you.
Let him know that you like him too. This is key, because if he hasn't asked you out already, one reason might be that he thinks you have no interest in him. Flirt with him and drop hints once in a while.
Establish a friendship. The more comfortable he is with you, the more likely he is to ask you out.
Get to know him. Find out what he likes in people and if you have any of those qualities, display them in front of him whenever you can.
Put yourself in positions that he can ask you out easily. He probably won't ask you out in front of your friends. Try to get alone with him, but don't make him feel too uncomfortable.[edit] TipsCommunication is #1. If he can't talk to you comfortably, you two shouldn't be going out yet.
Try to do stuff that lets you spend more time with him. Like if he is on the track team, try joining track. But, be yourself, don't do something that you really don't want to do, or he will be seeing a fake you.
Don't be too bold. If he liked bold, he would have asked you out already.
If it comes down to it, consider asking him out yourself. Plenty of girls ask out guys nowadays. Plus, then you will understand what he's going through.
Remember, he might be interested in you, but he might just not be ready for a relationship. Don't pressure him too much. He will ask you out when he is ready.
2007-09-30 09:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by skaterfreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do do is be yourself. And you cant make anyone love you because if you could then you would never know if that person really did love you. If being yourself doesn't catch his attention then hes not the one you should be pursuing. You have to be yourself otherwise you wont be happy with him if you were acting like someone you werent.
2007-09-30 10:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound weird but. Guys Love the girls that treat them bad... and that never would give them the time of day.
If he already likes you the best thing you can do is continue doing whatever it is that your are doing. those feelings over time will perpetuate.
Staley
2007-09-30 09:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by ghost_of_staley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u cant get ppl to like u or love u.. but what i think u should do is be nice to him... be friendly, be outgoing,, be free, or open minded.. dont be jealous.. or scared or jumping over him... so lsn girl i've been through this b4 i swear and wat i did was that i made him know i existed by just being nice to him and asking him for gum or a book or watever just do something to be nice.. to him
...then become real reaLLLLLLL good friends and maybe 70% he'll like u for who and what u r... then maybe he'll really wanna take it to a whole different stage!!!! THINK ABOUT IT !!!
2007-09-30 10:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by *dj.girl#7* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm actually you dont have to make him love you. Just be nice, true to yourself, make friends with him and have a good conversation with him always and believe me he will fall for you and love you.
Sometimes you just have to be natural inorder for him to notice you.
Men falls to women whom they love to talk to. Whom they think this woman is funny to be with, and the company makes him feel that without that woman he will feel sad.
If your still studying, talk with him about your lessons. If your working catch his attention about work relatted issues. Not too obvoius yet with purpose. Try that. It just might work.
2007-09-30 10:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jv Monton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well did u ever think the guy might be shy also. i was. and I'm surprised that my girlfriend came and asked me. if he takes to long to say something then you might lose interest.vthrow some hints at him and see if he notices. wait on love. dont rush it cause you might get something you cant love
2007-09-30 10:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by Brandon K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has not asked you so far, that indicates that he is after another lady, who you are jealous of. Try to look cute and attract him. He should feel that you are a cuter little lassy than her.
2007-09-30 09:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋