So a jew and a christian get married?

Question

what happens to the children? what religion do the kids get raised in?

any experienced answerers would be appreciated?

Answer 1

I know a Catholic/Jewish couple who never thought about religion until their children were born. The Jewish mother had been raised without a religious upbringing. She decided that she didn't want that for her children and told her husband that they must be either Jewish or Catholic. If he wanted them to be Catholic, he would have to teach them, otherwise, she would teach them. He declined so she joined a synagogue and brought them up Jewish. Their children have grown and now have children of their own. Today, they are all active Jews, the father having converted long ago.
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Answer 2

Well, in my case I married a Sunni Muslim from Beirut Lebanon and I was raised a Christian. Actually, when we met I was a devout practitioner. Two years later, and a heap of contemplation on the subject, I decided something. God is love, and if that is true, then religion should not keep people apart. When our three boys came along, they saw their dad praying and fasting, and he took them to visit mosques on several occasions, but they were never forced to follow in his footsteps. As a respect to him, I never ate or served pork to the kids.
I, by then, had left behind my Christian beliefs and had become more of a spiritual person than a religious one. I let my life be an example to them. If at the age of 12 or 13, if they wanted to explore different religions, I supported their search. Only my youngest son decided to attend a local Episcopal church for a while.
My belief is that the truth is right before us. We find it through many different avenues. However, we should not force our world view upon anyone, especially our children.
That is just my humble opinion.

Answer 3

Judaism should be seen as nationality first and then a religion. I am Jewish but I have been baptized and accept Jesus as my savior. I still observe the Jewish holidays but I go to Church instead of Synagogue. When I started to get serious with my then girl friend we discussed kids and decided that the children would be brought up in the Christian faith because it was important to her. (This was before I was baptized). We also agreed that they would learn about what it means being Jewish as a nationality as far as the customs, but that they would be taught the teachings of Jesus and would hopefully be baptized someday. However I went with her to church and started feeling their was something else beyond the old testament and that Jesus did live and die for the forgiveness of our sins. It was then that I became a Christian. So in my case this is what my wife and I have decided to do when we have a baby. I hope this helps and if you would like to email me for further discussion feel free to do so. God Bless

Answer 4

Why not teach the kids that there are many religions but only one God with many faces and names. It doesn't matter how you believe, but that you DO believe in God. While I am not the norm in the Christian Community, I believe that as long a you make God the most important thing in your life, and create a relationship that lasts a lifetime, it will grow and change. Just start the little one out with what you two agree on, and let them go. Regardless of the religion, or no religion, and just a good relationship with God, they will soar, because you two have given them the best of both religions. It's not the religion one believes in that's important, it's the communion with God that is. Give them your best of both worlds, and watch them take off!
Blessed Be

Answer 5

That would all have to be worked out before hand.

My daughter is getting ready to marry a non-denominational fundamentalist. We are devout Catholic. It's been a real interesting relationship so far. But ultimately they had to decide the basics. He has agreed to get married in the Catholic Church and to baptize and raise the children Catholic. She has agreed not to try to turn the kids against his beliefs.

Answer 6

In my case--none. But both the Jewish and Gentile parent had left their respective faiths long before I came along. Apart from my life, the greatest gift my wonderful parents gave me was freedom from superstition and the great mind-numbing evil that is religion regardless of creed.

Answer 7

My husband is Jewish/Christian; I'm Christian. When I first met him (on-line) I explained up front that if we ended up together and had kids, I would want to raise them Christian. He agreed but said he wouldn't convert. I was fine with that but asked him if he would come to church with me and he agreed. (Even before we met in person, I knew he was the one.) We got engaged a couple months later. We were married the following year, and my then-fiance was baptized into Christ a couple weeks before.

I always planned to marry him, even before he converted; before he even considered it. We've been married over nine years. We now celebrate Christmas, Easter, etc. and Hanukkah and Passover. If we have kids we plan to teach them about both faiths. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

That's interesting. I have to ask the question was rekigion discussed before they got married? Usually this does not happen and when it does at least one of the people are not strong in thier faith. To be honest if they were I can't imagine them getting married.

Answer 9

my experience : children will preferrably experience more independence and choice and understanding for different religions (unless one of the parents is a fundie), and will be less brainwashed to a specific religion, resulting in mostly no beleif in any religion or more appreciation for other religions,,,,

in the end,, their own choice

Answer 10

The idea of inheriting religious beliefs seems ridiculous to me. The kids should have the opportunity to decide for themselves instead of being forced into one or the other.