My husband and I are renewing our vows after 20 years of marriage. We are planning a tropical theme, casual, and the ceremony will be at our home with just family and a few close friends. My husband is wearing a white silk shirt and khaki pants (think beach wedding), and I purchased a white satin wedding dress at a great price and remade it. I took all the tulle and stuff out from underneath, cut off the train and took out a ton of fabric from the sides so that it is still full, but not overwhelming. The dress has beading only around the neckline and straps and at the waist - no lace. Now I am reading that wearing a white wedding dress to a vow renewal is considered "tacky". I kind of did this because I am the original "jeans and t-shirt" type and I wanted to wow my husband (we actually got married the first time in jeans with no family present). I don't want to look stupid or like I am trying to be something I'm not, just wanted a fun day. Should I get something else to wear?
2007-09-30 01:55:45 · 13 answers · asked by y2-y1 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Absolutely not! You've obviously worked very hard on this dress and it sounds perfect. Wear the dress and congrats on 20 years of wedded bliss.
2007-09-30 02:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to any article that says thats its tacky to renew youre vows in a white dress!! You obviously didnt care when you bought the white dress!! Besides as you sais you were married in jeans with family present and i know that all girls dream of having their cinderella day so why not make it this day!! It sounds like a nice dress and youve put to muchwork into it and there are exactly that many occasions that exist where you can wear a white dress!! So wear it have fun, because this is yours and yoour husbands day!! see ya
2007-09-30 02:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure where you read that it's tacky to wear a white gown to a vow renewal; but it's not. It's tacky to wear white to someone else's wedding. You should wear a dress that makes you feel beautiful. That's the only requirement.
2007-09-30 05:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations on your upcoming milestone anniversary!
What you did with your dress IS PERFECT! Wear it! You did exactly what I would have done. You took off all lace, etc. but left a little beading. It sounds beautiful! Actually, I did read that wearing a white gown IS ACCEPTABLE. I guess it depends on who wrote the article! But in any case, you have put a lot of work into making this a nice gown and I would definitely WEAR IT!
Good luck and happy anniversary!
2007-09-30 03:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom and Step Dad basically renewed their vows and he or she wore a Off white dress and that they have been renewed in a chapel. I even have widespread countless that wore off white at renewals. you do no longer decide to positioned on organic white because it would be somewhat taboo after being married for 5 years. Congratulations and robust success ;o)
2016-10-10 01:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear whatever you want. You didn't get a wedding dress the first time around so I'm sure your husband will more than appreciate you wearing a white dress. Go for it.
2007-09-30 08:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by JM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to wear that dress, then wear it.
Do not let anyone else's opinions deter you from wearing the dress you want to wear.
My aunt an uncle had a vow renewal ceremony celebrating 50 years and they were all decked out like it was their first wedding together.
Do what YOU want, and ignore the naysayers.
2007-09-30 02:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is so stupid! some woman don't wear white to the first wedding, so i wouldn't worry about it. your dress sounds perfect to me! i have even seen tv shows where woman wear white for the vow renewals. so relax, wear your dress in confidence and enjoy the reaction of your husband! congrats on your 20 years of marriage!!!!
2007-09-30 02:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A vow renewal is a gimmick made up by the wedding industry to soak people who are already married. They encourage the couples to stage fake weddings.
Marriage vows don't expire so they don't need renewal.
Just have whatever party you want and call it an anniversary party. Celebrate 20 years together instead of pretending to get married again.
Wear whatever you want.
2007-09-30 03:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I know everyone says do what you want its your day! But my feeling is, if it resembles a wedding dress, your guests will look at you like youre "playing bride". I'm all for looking fabulous at your vow renewal, and its clear you are not trying to be a bride. I just wonder if something other than white would express your intentions better?
2007-09-30 03:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋