when will he ask me to marry me?????

Question

we have been tograther four 4 n half years he says he wans kids but i would like to b engaged or marred b4 we do?!?!?!? help

Answer 1

I think i am te only male here but be careful when my ex got pregnant for the 2nd time she ask me to marry and as soon as we married thats when things went wrong.
I almost became her property as opposed to husband, PLEASE dot make th same mistake let nature take it course and when hes ready he will ask.
when he holds the baby he might then

and i might get a new keyboard as the g/kids have upset something on it, but you got that to come. Best wishes

Answer 2

Just explain to him that you'd love kids and the sooner the better but you dont want to have them without being married. Explain to him how annoying it will be when they are at school and they have a different last name to her.
Also, tell him kids are expensive and if you wait till after you have them, you are worried you will never get around to getting married, as there are always unexpected priorities when kids are involved.

Just another thing too, one of the most romantic proposals happenend to my friend. He asked her to marry him in the delivery room, 3 minutes after their daughter was born. It was so beautiful, even teh midwives were crying.

If you have been together 4 years and are seriously thinking about having kids together, it is OBVIOUS that you guys love one another and are committed to each other. In that case, you should be able to raise the subject of marriage comfortably. Youa re past the stage of waiting for him to propose romantically. Just ask him instead.

Answer 3

You are right. Dont let him have his way. Why should you be denied a wedding? I would start with some strong hints and if this doesnt work i would give him an ultimatum because basically what he is saying is that he wants kids but he isnt sure enough about you to make a lasting commitment.

Answer 4

Usually a mature couple knows after two or three years dating if they will marry or not. Otherwise, what's the sense in dating longer if he doesn't want to marry and you do? And you are right for waiting to be married until you get pregnant.
However, if he's comfortable with what he's getting, then he probably doesn't want to or need to get married. You two may just not be a match.

Answer 5

Have you spoken about getting married? Maybe you need to be clear and explain that you do want to do things properly. I can't offer anything more unfortunately. Good luck though. I hope things work out as you would wish.

Answer 6

Tell him how you feel. If he loves you he'll understand Maybe you guys can go ring shopping together. But dont tell him that though just say Come on hon lets go look at a rings I jut wnat to look at them and show you the one I like because i want to get engaged to you before we have kids just stick to your desiscion see what happened to me and my boyfriend got engaged is he put a paper ring on my finger and said were engaged now. so then we went down to virginia and before we went i looked up rings online at jcpenny.com So i picked one out and wanted it for our second anniversary. So he got me a three stone cz engagement ring. for ten bucks. ididnt want a daimond ring at first. Though the years his going to upgrade it. Its going to be romantic to see where we first started out. So just tell your man how you feel and say im not having kids outside of marrige. stick to it well good luck

Answer 7

You cant make him ask you - I have been with my guy for 7 years and I am still waiting, we are too old for kids and I am divorced. People will tell you to ask him? I couldn't do that as I'm more old fashioned.

Answer 8

all u can do is wait and see if he do have either of u even metioned it 2 each other maybe u can just talk 2 him about it and hint about what u would like

good luck 4 the future

Answer 9

Well just say in your view marriage is best before children
and see what he says
i would like to get married before having children its like steps to the future ... its all confused when you have children then marriage and think of the money
might aswel get marriage over and done with!
So just tell him =)

Answer 10

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