I've had to move back home after university because I'm broke and trying to find a job but my parents are both very abusive towards me. They think giving me a roof over my head gives them free rein to say what they like and do what they like towards me, verbally or physically, especially when they're drunk (they both have drinking problems). Last night was the worst, they both were drinking and woke me up at 3am to have a go at me for no reason apart from they were drunk. I can't afford to get a place of my own yet but they are both really upsetting me and causing a lot of stress. I have no family or friends in the area I can go to. Do I bite my tongue till I can afford to leave or do I get out now? Any suggestions much appreciated, I'm at my wits end and I don't know what to do.
2007-09-30 00:26:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes, I'm an only child.
2007-09-30 00:35:44 · update #1
YOU must get out, there is no excuse for parents to verbally or physically abuse their children ( even if a child had done wrong ) if you were under 12 and had normal parents and had done something wrong a slap on the backside will do no harm, but you must be a young adult and you claim you have done nothing wrong, get out, your parents maynot regret their attitude seems they have wasted their lives maybe they are jealous that you are achieving something, where to go, is your next question, which will be hard for you if you cannot afford somewhere, but home ( well what should be your home ) is gone, do not look back, look forward and achieve all the things you desire in life,
2007-09-30 00:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by please ask m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should check out the phone book for emergency accommodation like Anglicare. They can then help you find a perminant flat or what ever. They help out with grocery vouchers and even pay overdue bills, pay cost of advertising if you put an add in the paper looking to rent/board. They can give you a bond loan too. They are very helpful people who are trained counselors that can sort out the best form of help to suit you!
Of course, don't forget to join as many job networks as you can!
2007-09-30 01:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by mousise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you really need 2 go cuz you dont know mayve things will get worse at your house so i till you go and find yourself a job and you can find a small room or something that you could rent even if your job doesnt give you that much of money but still you cant afford to stay with parents if you dont know what to do you must call 999 cuz it is an emergency
2007-09-30 00:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by FoX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely move out. first go to the councils and apply for council house base on that ground, 2 look 4 a job, 3 talk to your parents when they not drunk about how unhappy you are they probable knows but use you own voice to tell them . good luck
2007-09-30 00:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by purple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear about your family situation.
If I were you, I'd keep searching for a job and then try to find flatmates or some kind of shared accommodation.
And, maybe talk to your parents about going to AA or something to help them with their drinking problem.
Good luck.
2007-09-30 01:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your shoes I would get a job quickly and save every Penny I earned and move. Look for rentals to share in your local want ads, there are always people who need a roommate
2007-09-30 00:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by cheri h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear of your position, surely you must have someone you can go stay with, if not you had better hurry up and get a job and find your own place.
2007-09-30 00:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Moe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you an only child?? i can't believe how some people treat their offspring...you need to get a job and get out of that abuse...it will only get worse...contact your local welfare department and see what their recommendations would be...if you are over 18 your parents are not responsible for you ...legally...morally is another story...please get out as soon as you can
2007-09-30 00:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i bet it's tough.. try to find a job .. look for friends.. i'm sure you'll find someone.. who knows.. you might even end up having a place to move to if you meet someone.. hang in there.. prayers for you.. try to smile .. chat with someone online if you can.. build friends .. never know.. might find someone online who solves your problem out there.
best of luck *^____^*
2007-09-30 00:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ninja CK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try and find somebody like friend, a really good friend
and move in with him
bad advise i know
2007-09-30 00:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋