How can I make friends?

Question

I want to make riends...but no one wants to be my friend and they all say that I don't know how to talk properly. I had a lot of friends when I was in 8th grade. Then there was a group of people who bullied me and abused me very badly & I was the laughing stock of the whole class.

But that is my misearble past. But I feel that even now when I am adult, no one likes me & although I like to be friends with people - they only want to blame me or make mockery of me.

Please help me...I don't want to ruin my life any further...what can I do to have a fun-filled life after a long miserable patch?

Answer 1

maybee you should learn to talk properky!

Answer 2

Oww seems to be a big problem. But all I can say is to be open minded, next be approachable and friendly but CLEVER you cant sense that someone is using you because you have this or that but dont think that you dont have FRIENDS anymore. Your LOYAL FRIENDS in your life is God, Your parents, and yourself.

Get into the basics. Talk first to the mirror and see your facial expressions (your face talks also) next use tones in appropriate conversations and alyas keep in mind the words that you'll be speaking always watch out not to offend others. Then try to talk to your parents or loyal friends if there is something wrong with your conversations

Answer 3

You can't wait for people to go to you. Young people are cruel and stupid, forget about your past. Just look forward to your future. Think about your good qualities that you can offer as a friend, and try to be social with other people. If they don't think anything good about you, move onto a nicer person who appreciates who you are.
Don't expect a fun filled life, because there is no such thing. Life is filled with ups and downs and complications.
Just be aware of your surroundings and don't be shy!
Show confidence!

Answer 4

The fastest way to make friends is while you're doing something you really enjoy or good at. Try a hobby.. If you like cooking, take up a cooking class. If you like to work out, go to the gym. you like to paint? take up an art class. good at basketball? Take yourself to the court. The point is to go out there. There will always be something new to learn and there will always be other people doing what you like to do. that is a similarity that can bring a friendship to a good start. Also, you'll really feel good about yourself cuz what you're doing is productive; it's a good way to learn new skills and be a better person.

Answer 5

Adopt a positive approach and think on the better side of life. Dont keep mussing over your miserable past. Forget it as it is something of the past and look to life with a broader smile and surely you will find good friends. There are so many social networking groups, join one of them, be positive. Dont let your bitter past dampen your chances of a bright future.

Answer 6

Well, it's time to look elsewhere for new friends. Start going to places where they don't know you, and just be yourself. Go where your old 'friends' don't go. The same people who did that to you, proabably don't have any friends now themselves. People like that, usually end up big losers. Don't worry about what others think of your 'talk'. If that is your photo, you are a very nice looking guy, and just be pleasant, and don't go out of your way to try to impress anyone any more, Be interesting, educate yourself on many topics. If you have a speech impediment, go on line, and see what you can do to better yourself, You didn't really give us enough info to let us know what you are talking about, but I think you are being tough on yourself,...Go to new places, and don't worry about it. Good luck!

Answer 7

dear, i work as an emotional therapist so please trust me. your past is still there, that is your problem. you can't have friends till you are freind to yourself. clearly part of you holds beliefs related to the traumas you had being bullied and abused.
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Answer 8

try to revise yourself,maybe there things that you don't see in yourself that people around you notice.you have to see somebody who is honest and tell him what he finds wrong in you,then try to change and get rid of good habits.when we look at ourselves in mirror all we see is ourselves,but a good way to see the reflection of our personality is to know what people see.so take advices from people,you have to do some training,changing is quite hard,but with little practice it will do,and it's a must because you need some company,otherwise you will be always alone like a chupacabra.

Answer 9

Join a gym or the YMCA, there are a lot of people different ages at these places, and it`s easy to start conversing with others.

Answer 10

no kidding...99% of women will stay away from emran hashmi..maybe you need to pick a better role model.

As my rule, you don't find friends. Friends find you. Find some real interests in life, new hobbies and everything will change around that.

Answer 11

your life is not ruined we don't all have the ability to just walk up to someone and start talking. try and find something that you have in common with someone, join a club get a social thing going.