How much say is your partner getting?
Does he or she want to be involved?
How much time do you spend planning every week?
And, if it's not obvious from your Avatar or name, are you the bride or the groom?
2007-09-29 21:27:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Arranged..done by the family
2007-09-29 21:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey. I'm the groom. And I'm lucky enough to be marring my gorgeous fiancee in just under 2 weeks now. (major scary). To start of with there wasn't that much to do. Once we chose the venue, and caterer. No it's gone all manic. We try to do a little for it each day, but on Monday's it's a complete NO wedding day. Not allowed to do anything for it or even mention it. Gives us some own time. Then on Thursday's we have a big wedding night. Doing all the things for it we can think of.
It's worked out well doing this way. We getting marred in a barn then having a sit down wedding breakfast, then in the evening we having a barn dance, an hog roast for food. It's a very informal day. Like there's no favours just Thornton's chocolates we wrapped ourselves and are putting some on each table. I myself sorted out the cars, (I have a E-type for the weekend for myself, Wahoo) I sorted the bar, the music for the meal, The barn dance, suits. And so many other things. I also sorted out fireworks for the evening, which she knows nothing about. I'd say all in all we done about the same amount on the sorting. She has a job where she cant really phone people during the day, but I can. so i do. She takes days off every now and then and sorts lots of stuff out.
2007-09-30 04:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I planned my wedding all by myself. It was a destination wedding. I just told my fiance when it was and where and had him book a flight and told him not to be late. The person I asked most about the details was my sister.
I am a wedding planner and plan weddings with my clients. Every couple is different. Some weddings are planned by the bride with little input from the groom (his response is usually whatever you want). Then sometimes they are both equally involved. Others, the groom is more involved than the bride and he just runs things by her to see if she likes them. So, it will differ with every couple.
2007-09-30 13:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Wedding Planner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm doing the majority of the planning myself but when i need cash for the deposits on stuff i go to my h2b, thats his involvement really, i plan he pays up, he is looking after the money side of things. We do discuss things before hand and try tothink logically about the cost of things, like cars, we're not bothering with because they aren't really needed, my two uncles have fancy cars so they are gonna do the driving for us. My mum is helping me out with the table plan and the flowers as i'm doing those myself. I probably spend at lease an hour each evening on the net looking at wedding stuff and then i havemy folder where i put all the details i have done in and what is next to do. I am more or less organised now, the wedding is not until july next year so i am hoping to have an unstressful day all round, even have my hairdressers booked!
2007-09-30 07:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by shortpeg2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a bride to be and am planning my wedding on my own. I ask for both my fiance and mother's opinion on many things. My fiance gets a fair bit of say on things. When I am seriously thinking about an option, I ask him what he thinks. He pretty much agrees to all of my suggestions. He has been very easy going with everything and has given his thoughts when I ask for them. The time I spend doing wedding stuff depends each week on how much time I have. Some weeks I don't do anything or much and other weeks I do a fair bit.
2007-09-30 05:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the bride, and we're jointly planning our wedding together--we really are a team. How could I be happy with a plan if my partner wasn't happy about that plan? It's his wedding every bit as much as it is mine. We spend as much time as is needed--in the beginning, we did quite a bit, but we really don't have much to do anymore until we get much closer to the date (fittings, etc). We decided we'd ahve a destination wedding, I found the place, he approved, we went there and figured out together where we'd stay, booked flights, reception restaurant, etc...I got stuff for the tables and decorations, and he found and booked our reception venue for our local reception afterwards, selected the menu, and got the dj...we're wokring on this together, and it really does makes things so much easier and more comfortable. We've also decided to do away with some of the things we thought were unnecessary like favors, a bridal party, bachelor/ette parties...
2007-09-30 09:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We planned ours together, with some help from my mum.
My partner was very involved in everything, he really enjoyed the planning, I tended to spend a couple of hours a day looking on line for ideas and then taking them to him and discussing it together, usually at the weekends. I was the bride.
2007-10-01 02:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At first I felt like I was doing it all by myself, but then I had a long discussion with my fiancee and told him that I just can't do it alone. Since then, he's been helping out a lot more. He suddenly has opinions about every detail, and while I find that annoying when his opinions are different from mine, it's much better than doing it by myself.
He pitches in anywhere that I ask him to. We registered for gifts last week, and he was soooo excited and helpful. I'm actually surprised at how well we're getting along through this process. Both of us are being very calm and talking about things and reaching mutual decisions. It's basically been a 50/50 endeavor ever since I told him I was absolutely not doing it myself.
2007-09-30 04:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by Been here before 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My partner and i were planning on planning our own wedding (with me getting my way 99% of the time) but we went to a wedding show and entered lots of compititions (as you do), and we were lucky enough to win first prize in one of them, which was a wedding planner for the whole planning process (she'll even write our thankyou cards for us). Our planner is wonderful, we come up wit ideas of what we would like and she somehow manages to make it even better!!
i reccomend a wedding planner, im not stressed about anything because i know she is there to make sure everyhting is as it should be!!
and i prob spend about 1-2 hours a day planning various things, but most of it is sorted now as i only have 8 weeks to go!!!
2007-10-01 14:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by lucy m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
Alot
Yes
A few hours
Groom
we want a small intimate family affair. nothing fancy, nothing expensive, after all, it is not about that stuff, it is about love and joining. People that put on a big production are (in my opine) just doing it for themselves. I have heard from friends things like "... in my wedding...." and " ... I have been planning my wedding since i was 10 ...." the one thing that these comments have in common it excludes the other significant party to the event. It also distracts from the reason the event is even happening.
We won't even talk about the money.
2007-09-30 05:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by mhp_wizo_93_418 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I planned mine myself. My husband didn't mind, he just wanted me to be happy and said he would go along with anything I decided so I put a few ideas his way and we both came to the final decisions although ultimately I did it all. We paid for it together. I had 5 months to plan it and did feel the pressure sometimes but it was well worth it. The only thing I regret is not getting the day videoed, we had lots of photos though. Apart from that I wouldn't have changed a thing.
2007-09-30 04:41:39 · answer #11 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋