im 15, my boyfriend is 17. we've been dating for abt 8months now. the problem is, he seems like he doenst care abt me! he doesnt care abt how i feel or how he hurt me. i dnt know why he does dis! and when i ask him whts the problem, he would just say 'nothing' and when i ask him whether he wants to break up with me, he says 'no' help me! wht is wrong with him?? i want to break up with him.. but i cant stand the taught of him being with somebdy else and i cant break up with him! long storyy! aaaaaaaaaaaaggggggg seriously going craazy! i cnt break up with him cuz he has dis crazy ex gf who is still crazy abt him and would do anything to make me break up with him! she did a lot of stuff. but it didnt work. im afraid that if i break up with my bf, hiscrazy ex gf would do smtg to me cz she kns theres noone to back me up now. help! i have this enemy who likes my bf too. and she's kinda pretty. i dont want my ex to be with my enemy! that would be tragic! help!! wht should i do?
2007-09-29 20:47:05 · 10 answers · asked by thereshegoes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how feelings are. I'm 64 y/o and had several long term relationships before I married my x-wife at 40 y/o. We got divorced after dating 3 years and being married for 17 years. That hurt a lot!
It always hurts to break up but you can't make your decision on whether to break up with your bf or not based on whether some girl that you don't like will get him or not!
It sounds like you are unhappy with how your b/f is treating you and that this has been going on for some time. You have told your bf about this and he doesn't care whether you are happy in the relationship or not. I would say that that is a big clue that he doesn't care about YOU any more.
At 15 y/o you should not be getting in long term relationships anyway. I know it hurts to break up but this is the time that you should be going out with a number of different boys ao that you can learn and practice your skills at relating to the opposite sex in a dating relationship.
Relationship skills are something that you will need after you are married so that you can stay married. Of course, "it takes 2" to get along, so that who you go with needs to want to learn and practice relationship skills also.
It sounds like you are hanging around young people that are not very nice. If that is the case, why not try to get a whole new set of friends and only keep the ones who already treat you in a nice way.
How we feel about ourselves usually depends on how people treat us. This oftens depends more on the type of person they are than who we are. At 15 y/o you are going to highschool.
Try to make friends with teens who have good character and who try to be nice to other people. It will take some time and some effort but it will be worth it.
I don't know whether you believe in God or not. I don't know if the secular school teachers have convinced you yet that the MYTH of evolution is real or not. The TRUTH is that God created you! Because God created you, you have tremendous worth and value!
Don't let other people treat you badly. You deserve to be treated in a kind and loving way! If other people don't treat you that way, it's because of something wrong with them and not you! Tell them about how they are mistreating you. If they don't change and start treating you as you deserve, drop them like a hot potato!
I care about you and other people do too. Only spend time with people who care about you. You can e-mail me any time you want to if I can be of help to you.
2007-09-29 21:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... it seems that you are a real mess!! I can tell you exactly what you need to do and why. I am also pretty certain that you won't agree with me. You are only 15. All the things that you are worrying about is NOT what you should be worrying about. You seem very very shallow. Now, take a deep breath and sit down and hear me out.
You need to break up with your bf. You need to spend some.. well, alot of time on you. Don't worry about anyone else. You are worried about everybody and everything. My God, is there that much time in a day? Ex girlfriends... enemies. I can see why you are having trouble with a relationship. Maybe you need to worry more about your own business and leave everyone else alone. Now, break up with him. Don't worry about who "gets" him after you. Don't worry about somebody doing something to you. Just stay in your house, in your room if you have too. Surely no one wants to harm you that bad. Or do they? I'm scared to ask what you may have done to cause someone to want to harm you. So, once again..... SIT DOWN, CALM DOWN, and don't get into another relationship until you are at least 20. Maybe by then you will have matured just a bit. Good luck!!
2007-09-29 20:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you love but all guys are like that. They act like they care about nobody but themselves. You have to think about your feelings too. If you do break up with him and he gets with someone else that fast he never wanted you anyway. You can find someone who will love you the way you love them maybe more. You don't wanna go through this type of thing and you're only 15 you have your whole life to do that later.
2007-09-29 20:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, seems like you are stuck in the middle of your own demise, you have a guy who can not openly relate to you, he has a love from his past that you say it crazy, but he might be still seeing or in contact with cause she hasn't moved on, and you are fearful that another may want the hand of your man....sorry young one....there are plenty of fish in the sea....find someone who will be there and listen to you....sounds like this relationship will not stay afloat long.
2007-09-29 20:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tomi A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way ~ they are no longer properly worth a fragment of that money ~ they are no longer basically oafish ~ yet they're huge females blouses ~ a broken toe nail ~ and that they are off for weeks having important surgical operation ;-)
2016-10-10 01:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medical people out there, I know it is a stereotype, but most teenage females seem completely controlled by emotions and hormones, there is even strong biological evidence for it in research.
And if a psych. expert could explain, why is this girl so blind to reality and what is fair.
God I need to stop taking stadol from the locker at the vets.
2007-10-02 18:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok at 15 yrs old you have so many more years to find mr. right he may be mr. right now but he sounds like he is not worth it....dump him! get someone who does care about you! that girl....don't think too much she is the ex for a reason. She is your enemy? thats a harsh word. Well don't give her any importance.
2007-09-29 21:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by My baby. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you the way you're saying he does, then he does not deserve you.
Just break-up with him 'cause you are better than that, and, contrary to your belief, you will find better than him.
2007-09-29 21:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Painkiller 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need help, seriously you need help, not to solve this problem but to solve your mental state, if you want to break up with him, what does it matter what he does with his life, your too young to worry about a serious bf or relationship anyway, let him go, let him find somebody that he can be happy with, he certainly cannot be happy with you, you manipulate him too much, and please please learn how to spell
2007-09-29 20:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by please ask m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respect you break up with him.
2007-09-29 20:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by Emma S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋