i think its funny-although annoying at times, that my son has heaps of toys all over the living room, if im there he plays with them and does his thing, but once i get up to go to an other part of the house he follows me everywhere..even when i go toilet..he stays outside the door and waits for me to come out..sometimes he knocks and knocks until i come out. But he doesnt follow his dad around. Only me..why? haha.. his 13 months old.
2007-09-29 20:45:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's not that he doesn't have anything better to do, it's a matter of seurity. You are the main person in his life- you are the center of his universe and have been since before he was born.
It's a pretty common activity for kids that age. It took me quite some time to convince my daughter that I was just fine in the bathroom without her attention. I used to tell her that I was fine, and that I'd like her to go play. I worked.
My son, however, would just push the door open and come in. I just gave up on closing the door until he lost interest in whatever special thing he thought I was doing in the bathroom.
He'll outgrow it eventually - and then you'll miss the attention!
2007-09-29 20:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Cheese Fairy - Mummified 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 months, he still doesn't understand properly that even when you can't see something that it continues to exist! he loves you and wants to be with you. He worries when he can't see you, because there is nobody there to protect him. Right around the time that Mother Nature teaches kids to walk, she also makes sure that they don't want to walk away from familiar people. it's built in safety.
Perhaps you need for him to have a day or two in care. Don't forget, care isn't just for parents who leave the house to work... it's for parents who need to have time to stop being 'mummy'. And no, our ancestors didn't do it alone.... it took the whole villiage to raise the children!
For a while my son wouldn't even let me use the toilet alone... but as he grew to understand the world, he got over it. He's 8 now, and sometimes I miss the attachment that he had with me!
2007-09-30 04:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Beth H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so funny my son is 12months and two weeks and i thought i was the only one with the same problem.Gosh i can't stop laughing.Even when he's asleep and i enter the room he awakes,he actually knows the scent on me.I read from a baby book(don't remember which one)You need take them to mix with other kids at a children's club so join one.And you know whats funnier after awhile they don't want to be seen anywhere with you.
2007-09-30 03:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by shygirl78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are his mother? He wants you around, and when you are in the room he feels safe enough in the big world to enjoy himself, but when he can't see you, or perceives you as gone from him, the world gets much bigger, and much more scary. He's still young, as he gets older, the attachment to needing you in sight and probably within arm reach will subside. Enjoy it while you can, when he's older he's not gonna want you anywhere near him.
2007-09-30 04:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked the same Q yesterday about my 3 year old...she's been following me since she was 9 months old! It's only me too...never Daddy....it gets a bit old when I just want to pee in peace, but what can you do? They only do it because we are their entire world.....someone said that when it stops I''ll be sad..so I'm trying to like it!
2007-09-30 03:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now your his life line-at about 18 months it will shift to dad as he learns -"he's one of the guys".My son did the same thing.But as soon as dad showed him how to use the big potty , the right way , he was his shadow.LOL
2007-09-30 04:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by dymond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my kids do the same thing, they follow their mom around everywhere and hardly show me any attention.
it's basically because the kid NEEDS mommy.
they're not trying to annoy you or irritate you, it's just
that a kid wants to be around mommy more than anything.
my oldest is 6 and she's still practically wrapped around mommy's ankles(when she's not at school anyway)
2007-09-30 03:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by -^Chris^- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's natural at that age - it's when they are still clingy at six or seven that you need to put your foot down (although it is a massive compliment to your relationship with him you understand!).
2007-09-30 04:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son was like this dont worry he'll grow out of it.
2007-09-30 09:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by emma157 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a baby, he just wants to be close to him mummy!
2007-09-30 04:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by scatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋