She is a 36 year old, I am 31, she is still dating a 60 year old guy. Her and I are sexually active and I am totally in love with her. She keeps putting Him first though I keep trying to keep her attention and there is more to me. I work out a lot but there is still more to me than just a nice body with a cock. I am emotional, passionate and need a little romance once in a while at least. I tried to not date her but I just am so in love with her I don't want to be without her. What do I do? Help me!
2007-09-29 19:49:37 · 16 answers · asked by James J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what it is to be in love, so simply telling you to just pickup and leave probably isn't what you want to hear. Your fully invested n this relationship and she isn't as much.That's got to change. Don't seek her , let her seek you.You need to make her see that you got a life outside of her. That either way it makes no difference to you whether she chooses you or him. Make her realize that she isn't the center of your life, that shes only part of it and that if she wants that to change she needs to give you reason to do that. Til then don't act needy. Be a man.Deep inside that's what all women want.Good luck.
2007-09-29 20:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by mividacristiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it, there should be more to you than that! Ok, then you say you're so in love with her .You accept these terms,because you keep going back??
Someone needs to make a mature commitment to who they really want to be with !
Before someone gets her pregnant or someone gets aids!
Why would you want to be involved with someone who isn't married. And playing the field? It's not like she's stuck waiting for a divorce.
Are you in competition? You need to leave her alone!
Take care!
2007-09-30 03:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by need2know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she with that 60 year old guy anyway? And if she is with him, why does she sleep with you? From all of that, she seems to be a gold digger sl*t, so tell me what do exactly love about her?
If she doesn't return your feelings and uses you for sex only (because she cannot get it on with her old boyfriend), you should dump her. There are plenty sweet and sexy girls out there who will return your feelings.
2007-09-30 02:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happend on the o.c
julie was in her 40's, dating a 70 year old man (for money)
i am assumming she doesnt like the 60 year old, right?
then she was cheating on him, with Luke, a 17 year old
'hot guy;.
That situation is similiar to yours am i right? the right answer,
she is playing with you..im sure she has no feelings. shes a waste of time!
2007-09-30 02:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r 31 ! u should know..she is trying to play with u and that 60 year old.
anyways if u want to continue then ask her if she wants you or that other guy.
Good luck!
2007-09-30 02:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chocogal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 31, and seeing a woman who already has a guy...
Give up on it before you get hurt. For one, you're trying to get her to totally commit herself to you...NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. Secondly, even if you do succeed, she's more than likely to go out on you as well. WHY DO YOU WANT THAT? she'll go after the next guy with MONEY....MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY. That's all that's on her mind - besides getting d i c k from you
2007-09-30 02:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 60 year old must be in the money and she sees you for the sex. that's all you'll ever be to her is a sex puppet. if you want a real relationship, move on and look elsewhere.
2007-09-30 02:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Gabi ng Lagim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hope that someday you will find the person you're meant to be with and forget about her. She's obviously just using you, and I know that it's impossible to try and forget about her, but be kind to yourself. Realize that you can't just spend the rest of your life chasing someone who just isn't interested.
2007-09-30 02:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by Yuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can try to read that book, "How to fall out from love." It really gets into details and explains how you can cope with that kind of situation.
I hope this will help you.
2007-09-30 02:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just tell her the same thing that you just poured your heart out to us.......because no one can answer that but her........you've accepted the friends with benefits situation for how long and now you seem to want more.........now you want to change the rules of the game...risk looseing a friend because you've decided that you want more or you are just tired of being alone...face it tell her the game has changed and see where it gets you
2007-09-30 03:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋